How can I get approached if I'm overweight?

[Anonymous]

I'm about 25-30 lbs overweight and I never get approached. Seems like all guys want is super skinny girls. Any tips on how this girl can get approached?

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+1 y

just so you know:) I'm trying to loose weight atm for myself! not a guy I want to be in shape its because of medical stuff that its hard for me to loose it. But I'm trying BECAUSE I WANT IT!


Just mean time I don't like it when guys reject me or are "afraid of acknowledging" they are attracted. pisses me off.

[justaskin8888]

i guy once told me that the main thing for a girl, even if she is overweight, is that she has the female outline like this "8." So if you can buy a spanx or some kind of corset that creates that look, and wear really nice tasteful clothing... it can work. Look for flattering fits that fall A-line for skirts and not too tight clothing. Always style your hair every morning, wear a little makeup, a little tinted lip gloss. flirt. don't seem desperate if you get a bite. Smile a lot. Make eye contact. Accentuate your ace cards--you know those features about you that are the best. Always cross your legs when you sit down, sit tall and erect to maximize length. DO wear perfume. Talk to the people in the shop, and spend as much time as you need choosing a perfume--I can spend hours finding just the right scent that accentuates my personal ambiance. Don't be afraid to wink. Ask a guy for help (whether you need it or not); and by all means, don't stay at home and pine away. Get out there and have fun!

good luck!

ps. be sure to update this question when you get approached or asked out.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Unless you're really short, 30 lbs overweight shouldn't make you that unattractive to the point you can't get guys...you just need to step your swag up probably. Always have your hair and makeup looking perfect. Dress in cute clothes that flatter your figure! Chunky girls do not look good in t-shirts, you should wear tops but not regular t-shirts. Don't do that casual low-maintanence look, put some effort into your outfit and look like you have style.

I know an overweight girl that is really pretty and gets guys (cute ones). She is short and chunky, probably like 170 lbs but she does everything I told you to do, her swag is on point: hair looks cute, makeup looks pretty and she dresses nicely oh yeah and she's outgoing

[Asker]

I'm 5 feet 6 to 5 feet 7 actually. So it doesn't look so bad I guess lol I'm super shy and inexperience when it comes to dating:(

I keep getting rejected and rejected its so sad. And then the one guy that does show interest I try but I'm really not physically attracted to them:( And I'm not saying all I want is supermodels.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Well its not your looks but the fact that you're really shy and probably come off insecure. just shake off all that shy sh*t and live life. yolo :) trust me you'll get approached by more guys when you're having fun

[Asker]

No no I do try! I'm an outgoing in person in general! all my friends think I'm like super entertaining person LOL I have approached guys (in life and online) and have gotten rejected without them even getting to know me. That's why I think its my looks. So with a guy who I really really like I'm super shy. I don't know how to flirt properly, I'll turn so red. what if he rejects me and then another guy I don't wanna be known as the college chick who gets rejected by everyone you know:(

[Anonymous]

you could approach someone yourself...but I feel like you already knew that. of course there is always the option of losing weight. also I feel like a lot of girls feel like they are entitled to be approached...not true at all

[judelemaitre]

With difficulty. Most of us don't like shapeless slobs - but a girl who's big and round and curvy in all the right places will have a lot of men reaching for their panties. Overweight will shorten your life.

[Coleen]

OK. I once knew someone that was thin at one point in her life then gained a bunch of weight (later she lost it all again). I asked her if there was a difference,or what was the difference with guys flirting, etc.

She said, not much. If you are confident and flaunt what you have, guys still flirt. I see plenty of women who are bigger with men that are and are not bigger.

I guess you need to put yourself in a position around men and if you feel a connection, flirt a little (smile, laugh genuinely at his jokes, don't be shy, touch him a little maybe, etc.).

You might have to be around the same guy for longer than a hot girl that walks into the room, but at least you will know the guy likes you for you.

[BlueLiquor]

If you're unhappy about being overweight.. do something to lose it. If you're fine with it.. dress to compliment your body type, keep up maintenance with your hair and make-up - without overdoing it. Keep in sight, the positive qualities you have as a person and project them in your people skills, be confident and competent around males. Although you WANT a guy to approach you.. Act as if it doesn't matter either way. I think guys like to be needed so act like you don't need a man, and surely one will come along to try and change your mind. Be open minded about what you expect in a man. It would be impossible to bag a man if you have too many standards, especially if you know you don't meet the requirements of most men.

[BlueLiquor]

My first answer still stands.. and there is nothing wrong with rejection. Someone who rejects you wouldn't take the time to make you happy anyway.

[Anonymous]

-Be confident

-Wear clothes that flatter your body or that shows off your curves.

-Change your hairstyle every go often.

-Be friendly

[Itsjustmez]

Well maybe it's the way you dress or your personality. Those things can be a big turn off to guys. You can do the approaching sometimes and not wait to be approached. Be confident, but not overly confident.

[Anonymous]

Lose weight, any guy that goes after bigger girls your not going to want anywayse. Running a couple miles a week will work.

[justaskin8888]

this is not true and wrong. how can you judge a persons character like that? a really great guy might approach her, like big girls and they end up 80 y/o married, happy, with 26 grand children. QA: don't believe this guy, there are guys that like bigger gals, I kno guys who do! but, just keep working on the weight and don't be hard on yourself. good luck!