I work out and eat right - that should be enough, right?

[Anonymous]

I'm constantly seeking acceptance from my boyfriend regarding my body figure. I never tell him about it and I never ask him if he likes how I look physically but I still feel concerned on a daily basis about my weight and my figure.

He's naturally very thin and and in great shape so he's got a 6 pack and all that. I'm 5'7 and a size 7, around 125 pounds, I eat clean and I swim or run 2-6 times a week. My shape is kind of a "cone" shape ( link with muscled arms, legs and shoulders but a thick frame and a curvy midsection (despite a flat stomach). I dislike it but my shape doesn't change despite the weight I'm at.

Personally I think "Well that's the most I can do" but a little voice tells me in my head "What if he thinks you're not thin enough? What if he notices you've gained 5 pounds?". So I'm struggling to let go of those insecurities.

Do you think I should just work hard to lose more weight so to help my self-esteem or just let it go and try to accept my body as it is right now?

[Anonymous]

He's dating you because when he first saw you, he liked what he saw. Just stay similar to what you looked like in the first place because that's what attracted him. He wouldn't be with you if your body was unattractive to him. You sound like you're in pretty good shape so maybe just upkeep everything but don't try to change. There's no point in that..

[JohnScofield]

I think you know the answer really. First I am hoping he likes you for who you are anyway... and second, let it go. You sound beautiful. Life is too short to worry about 5 lbs.