Do guys really care that much about a girls weight?

[Corarae]

I'm 23 and have been a bigger girl my whole life and guys really don't talk to me all that much. Is it because of my weight? Personally, I think I look beautiful. My friends tell me it's because I'm shy, but I don't know.

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You all have great answers and I understand where you are coming from, but I'm going to let you guys know that losing weight is hard. I run in the summer, and do exercises inside in the winter, but because of my hypothyroidism it's hard/near impossible to lose weight. Do you ever think that when you see a bigger girl in public? Also, I would like to point out that they have tons of cute clothes for bigger girls, my closet is full of a bunch. (:

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Also, I don't know why I put 23, I think it might have been lack of sleep, but I'm actually 21.

[amorelerose]

Im the same way. I have never been 'fit' but the thing is, I'm trying like crazy as well! I work out all of the time! and I eat healthy! honestly, guys are first and foremost visual creatures. But we can't blame that all on them! We are too! If you had two guys interested in you, one being a little heavy and the other being muscular and toned, who would you be more interested in? For a lot of people it's hard to lose weight and I get that. Heck, I'm italian and I'm allergic to starches!The thing is, if you really want that guy, you may have to work out harder than another girl. It sucks, but think how rewarding it will be. He would be way better as a prize for you reaching your goal than some cookies:) haha. Also, talk to a nutritionist and a trainer. I paid for three sessions with a personal trainer and as soon as I got home I wrote down the routines. I just use those now and alternate swimming in. And the nutritionist can help with any health issues you may have.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they do. But at the same time, not every guy wants a thin woman and there are ones that prefer ones that are chubby or overweight. So if one doesn't have the ideal body, it doesn't mean she's going to be forever alone. Although it's true that women with ideal weight get more attention, although it's not always good or wanted attention.

[TedStar]

Not that much, but we do. You do look pretty which isn't your main concern. It's not like all women your size are single without significant others due to their weight. I think that your biggest hurdle is your shyness. In order to attract someone you need to to display your attractive characteristics and traits. Yo could be witty/humorous or into cool hobbies or into to travel or arts. Anything that brings you joy and brings out your best will attract someone. You also need to put yourself out there so become more involved at work/school or volunteer. It's great that you find yourself beautiful as many girls don't do that and it important that you are able to show the rest of us how you feel as this is an attractive feature

[martyfellow]

Yes we tend to favor slim girls, partly because most clothes are designed to look best on those girls. Maybe that's shallow, but it is what it is.

We also think a slim girl has more discpline and is self-aware, since she's into fashionable clothes more often.

So our heads turn in their direction most of the time.

This doesn't mean we think bigger girls like you are ugly or out of it, though. I don't mean to suggest that!

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Personally, due to my fitness lifestyle, weight is a huge factor to me (pardon the potential pun)

I think you have a pretty face with very good cheekbones, eyes and eyebrows. However, I'm not intending to come across as berating you or anything, you would most likely look relatively attractive if not above average if you lost the excess weight.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

@update: you can get medication to keep your thyroid in check. My dad had to do that a couple of years ago.

[Anonymous]

Honestly yeah, I have only met like 2 overweight girls id consider dating, and that's only because they had amazing faces and personalities. And you're rught, you're not bad looking either, but not the greatest body (sure you already know that part). It could be because you're shy to. Guys aren't all unnatracted to your weight, but just intimidated, so being shy isn't helping.

And I might suggest not running, but get into weight lifting for most exercise. You can research why it's better. :)

[Corarae]

I don't really have the money to go get a gym membership. Haha. Besides, working out in front of a bunch of people (mostly men) would seriously make me freak out.

[Elbon]

Sort of. Weight plays a substantial point in anonymous attraction for most. We all make a instantaneous, sometimes subconscious judgement of beauty and attraction. Typically humans like to date people they find attractive.

But in the situation of a mutual friend introduction, the game changes to a much more personality-driven attraction.

[Anonymous]

My experience tells me guys care a lot about weight.

Does that mean EVERY guy does? No.

And, there are some guys like prefer thicker women.

It's never all or nothing - some do, some don't.

[asdaven]

Im one of the ones that prefer thicker women but not chubby. Super skinny to a point can look unattractive and unhealthy IMO.

[ekolos]

yeah I agree you are beauty and hot :) I don t think the reason is your weight...

[Corarae]

Well, I know that, but I can't afford it.

[Anonymous]

Although I don't care...but since I am very skinny maybe big girls won't prefer me and they would be a bit intimidating.

Would you go for a skinny guy?

[Corarae]

I've only had two relationships and they were both with skinny guys, so yes I would.

[kheserthorpe]

We care about her size and shape, not her weight.

[kheserthorpe]

I don't think people care why others are the shape they are.

They like to say they care about health or that they want a partner with the self respect to take care of themselves. This is after the fact rationalization. Guys on steroids and women who barely eat fond partners fine (not that I'm suggesting those things!).

It comes down to how more primitive parts of our brain determine physical attraction. It's just see-> feel. Logic doesn't come in until after the fact.