Tell Boyfriend I had Bulimia?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfried of a little over a month (but we've been friends before that) doesn't know I had it, but whenever he tells me stuff about my body or touches me after eating, I just really have to watch how I feel about my body and it is really hard with him talking about it (even in a positive way) so should I tell him?

I had a form of bulimia for over a year, but it was not like I made myself throw up, it started as I could not keep any food down due to graduation stress and allthat pressure! I always thought it would stop as soon as that was over, but I somehow liked being able to eat and not gaining weight (for anybody looking for a "diet" this does NOT work! I ended up gaining because you do NOT lose all te calories by puking! and it is true about the teeth and stuff! I deeply regret it) cause it would just come right back..and I had eating and body issues before that (I have a super pretty and super slim older sister I just always felt like the ugly duckling)

so anyways, would YOU tell your loved one about something like that and how would YOU take it?

[toulouse]

you don't have to tell him you had something. because you're not living in the past. you can tell him currently you're uncomfortable with him making remarks about your body. because that's the point. that's what is bothering you. if you think its going to have a consequence if a particular nature. that's something else. just tell him what bothers you. because basically you were not just bothered in the past. ore bothered NOW. so tell him how you feel now.

doesn't matter if you tell him you had or not. because it isn't the issue. what's going on now is the issue. for you. try to focus in the present.

i don't agree with the idea idu love someone you have to tell them everything that has ever happened. you're with him now. so you have an obligation to him now. but he doesn't have to know every detail of things that have nothing to do with him. imo.

[Josephine912]

Yes, you should tell him! If he treats you differently or wrongly, then it's not a good relationship. I had similar problems (with cutting) and didn't tell my now fiance about it. He had to find out the hard way when he made me feel terrible about myself one night. We've worked it out since then and everything's fine, but I wish I had told him before. If you see this relationship going somewhere, let him know what your past is like. Maybe you'll find something out about him, too! I hope this helped!

[Asker]

thanks! but how did he handle it once he knew the truth? like what was his reaction? there were moments when I could have told him, but I don t want to make it about me all the time and just blabber it out somehow..

[Anonymous]

Tell him.

It will bond you more closer and lets you both trust each other.