Would you resent me?

[Anonymous]

My ex is 24 and he really pursued me hard. We had an amazing relationship. But he broke up close to the year mark because he said he never saw us ending, and that level of commitment was too scary for him...especially since this was his first real relationship.

I see him everyday at work. At first I did the stupid thing, and was trying to talk him into things because I was heartbroken. Now its been about a year. I still miss him, but at work, I'm totally chill and normal and I feel over him.

Yesterday we all went out and I accidently got super drunk :( I started getting teary eyed and talking to other guys in the group about how much I cared about him and missed him. I'm sure he knew what was going on, but he never came to see if I'm OK.

I totally understand his reason for breaking up. But it doesn't stop me from caring about him! His best friend told me yesterday that he cares a lot about me too because he didn't go after any girl in the club last night.

Would you hate a girl if she still cared about you year later? I don't want to get back together or anything. I just still love him

Would you never want to deal with me again in the future? How do guys feel about these kind of emotional situations?

Updates

+1 y

Sorry..just to clarify, I talked about missing him to not a few guys in the group, just one guy...and then my exes best friend saw me upset and came to talk to me. I wish I was stronger last night! I HATE crying in front of people! Ugh!

[jynkaia]

I would like to provide an answer, but quite frankly this is far more difficult to tackle. But, to answer the question that you originally intended,

Knowing that a girl (especially if they were an ex) still loves and cares about you after a year of having to relationship with them may do more harm to the guy in the long run. Unfortunately, that's all I got for an answer.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer :) what do you mean harm in the long run? I feel like I ruined ever thing because I'm so attached and emotional :( (no more than any other girl though) but it stresses him out and makes him avoid me.

[jynkaia]

Ah, there you go. It may mean harm in the long run because he feels as though he is constantly under someone's watch which causes him to feel, maybe, insecurity. You certainly didn't ruin your relationship, but what you need to do is the strength to let him go temporarily, and then try to come back to him later when you have settled down to a more calmer mind.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't hate it. I would pity her, but just that. I don't have any intention in getting back with my exes because it will just lead up to another break up.

[Anonymous]

Why would he care? You're over