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HAHAHA...Oh man... haha...sorry.. heh.
The most consistent conversation I've ever held on OKC was a 40-year-old gay guy who was interested in me. Other than that, if she seems even slightly cool, then you're just a pig to her, and she'll probably not be reading your emails any time soon.
Dating sites like OKC are probably where girls go to get a fix of compliments and attention. They ran the statistics themselves, it's TOTALLY one-sided. It's almost like they try to find a reason not to respond. I've seen plenty of profiles where they outright say they won't message you if you want to date them. "I'm sick of that kind of attention".
Sexual attention? Yeah, more than reasonable to annoyed with that. Probably a good half the guys think they are killer pickup artists and think she some machine that magically opens its legs when you feed it a few dollar bills and pickup lines.
But Dating attention?...What, are you on there because Facebook isn't enough for you? hmmm..."I joined this dating site and then OUT OF NOWHERE people start talking to me like they want to date me."
But yeah, chances are, if you find a girl who is cool on that site, chances are they aren't going to be cool with you. Leave that to the half-million Snooki replicas with duck faces.
Sorry... I guess I could have just said "Nope. Doesn't work well."
That is the worst site LOL.
I live in a fairly small city so the various girls in my age group are seen not infrequently. I've messaged girls on OKC who didn't respond or even look at my profile, and then I've seen them in public and they've actually smiled at me, stood by me, flirted and all that. For the longest time I was unsure if they read my message and thought I was lame. It made me really self-conscious about my appearance too because I felt like they just look at my picture that is in the email and say "ugh, he's ugly" or something. Then I kinda suspected they just get dozens of emails a day from random douche bags so they give up. This is mainly because even sub-par girls have that little red "Replies very selectively" icon on their profile.
To test this, I made a fake profile with some average girl and a very boring profile...within 24 hours I had 30+ messages and they all said something like "hey beautiful", "how's it going" and even one guy wanted to pay me $200 to be on his arm while he went downtown with his friends...sad sh*t. Also, most of the guys were the ones you could tell would never approach her in real life...computer addicted fat guys, dorks, or guys who would just not be in the same league as the girls they message. Everyone has balls of steel behind a computer screen.
I've never used OK cupid.. There's the Tinder app which is amusing (although I never meet people off of it.. only flirt) and I'm a member to a dif dating site... I have over 2,000 E-mails in my inbox from guys over time... I think I get about 5-25 E-mails a week ( depending on how often I log in... If I don't log in at all the number is lower)... I'm sure it's similar for most online sites... I personally like the idea of being on a more limited site to help narrow down options to someone you share more in common with... If your religious (I personally don't date outside my faith) or have a type/ hobby or have a physical type or condition
EX:
ChristianMingle.com, JDate.com, DarwinDating.com, SingleGingers.com, SeaCaptainDate.com Purrsonals.com, gk2gk.com, 420Dating.com, PositiveSingles.com
On an average day, I would get literally 50 messages. I only talked to 2-3 of them in my entire time on there. I deleted my account because I got a boyfriend (not from Okcupid)
Okcupid was mainly for flirting and playing with random guys lol. I didn't take it that seriously, but I did have a "sexting" relationship with this one guy that lasted a few weeks. But we randomly just stopped talking.
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I have had a profile for quite some time. Just deleted one and made a second one now. I don't message much anymore because not many of the girls are serious on it. When I was active, it would take a good amount of messages to girl to get a reply. Now I put "Please do not message me if you're only interested in chatting online." so I don't have to deal with messaging a girl back and forth just for her to flake when it comes down to finding out if she's the real deal or not.
I have met some girls off of it and other dating sites too. Biggest issue I have is that girls try to mislead me about their weight. I have gotten a few first contact messages from girls and the number one reason I don't reply is because they are fat. Hate me for it but I workout a lot and want someone who is in shape.
Smarten up guys. Online dating sites have become the online version of nightclubs. Have some dignity and boycott them. They're a sausage fest. It's little different from getting on omegle trying to find a date. It's gonna be mostly perverts showing their junk. And you even go to the forums of a site like POF and it's 9 guys for every girl; and to top it off, dedicated white knight special ed types like a user named *cowboy* "moderating" (spamming) the whole thing. If you don't believe me about all this, just skim those forums. And don't think it matters which site it is. They're all the same. The paid sites are more geared towards older people serious about marriage, not 20 somethings.
In theory online dating is sound, but since girls are stupid they weren't sold and preferred some fairy tale bullsh*t meetups. And you can immediately tell that magical bullsh*t is the best way to build relationships from seeing all the single mothers out there.
OkCupid is my least favorite...next to Zoosk. Below are my results of girls I've talked with, and met in the last year:
Match- talked to-4 , met in person- 1
Christian Mingle-talked to- 8, met in person-2
POF- talked to-4, met in person- 1
Eharmony- talked to-7, met in person-1
OkCupid- talked to-0
Zoosk- talked to-0
Below is how many matches on average, that I'm very interested in 30 days:
Match 10-12
Christian Mingle 8-10
POF 5
Eharmony 3-4...but normally they're extremely good matches
Okcupid 1
Zoosk 0
Below is the percentage of replies I get from emails etc.
Match 1%
Christian Mingle 20%
POF 3%
Eharmony 10%
Below is the average number of girls who contact me that I'm NOT interested in during 30 days:
Match 12
Christian mingle 15
POF 20
Eharmony 18
Percentage of girls who contact me that I'm interested in
Match .25%
Christian Mingle 1%
POF .5%
Eharmony 5%
In the beginning, I got 10 messages a day. It went down quickly to one message a day to none. It has gotten me maybe 3 dates. Most guys who message me stop replying after 2 messages and the messages they do send are very boring and clumsy. The guys that do stick around turn out to be desperate and sexually frustrated. It's just horrible and useless.
I tried pof and I messaged at least hundred females. I was talking to over 20 of them but they were playing games and never want to hang out. I hang out with 5 of them and we did sexually things but never intercourse tho
They release data on this. The average reply rate of male to female messages (at least as of a couple years ago) was 27%.
i've had some girls contact me. and I've dated a few girls. I met a few friends there.
I tried it. Never worked. I sent out dozens of messages a week. Apparently I should have been sending hundreds.
no I like plenty of fish better.
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