Do you sometimes think "if only"?

[namismybabe]

Why can't women come perfect? lol.

By that I mean there are two women I've met lately who I like. One is about 45 or so, has a nice face, a good job and pleasant personality, but is very overweight. however, if she lost about 100 lbs, I'd be in there like a shot.

The other is younger, maybe 26. She is slimmer, but has smaller boobs. In every other way she is nice, but I just like large boobs and cannot compromise on that. yeah, preferences are evil.. lulz!

Do you sometimes think "if only she had x, I'd be in there"?

[Citygirlliv]

Before I start, NEVER comment on a woman's weight, boobs, or pretty much any physical body part unless it is a respectful compliment. If not, say bye to both the women. The first woman most likely feels insecure already, and doesn't need some guy telling her she's fat. If you think she is at an unhealthy weight, spend time with her doing things like bike riding or making smoothies. Show her you want an athletic fit girl.not that she has to be skinny just healthy. If healthy isn't what you're looking for and skinny is, chances are you're a superficial jerk. The second woman- yeah nothing you can really do there so maybe get over yourself and choose the girl that will make you happy for the rest of your life. Women aren't perfect (neither are men) and they don't need you to point that out. Honestly, it seems you don't truly like either one if there are things you want to change about them. When you find someone you can love wholeheartedly even her flaws, you found the one.

[namismybabe]

eh? I'm not verbally rude to anybody, and am not a bastard. When did I cite that I would or did say that?

And as per the other commentors, I'm sensing you think preferences/standards are wrong. I don't presume anybody is perfect.

lol..

[snowangle]

Yeah sometimes a guy is great except for one or two qualities. "I'd totally date him if he was a Christian." "If only he wasn't such a whiner, we could date." But I'm afraid I have to agree with the other answerers that you sound shallow in your question. It's great to have standards, but really? What if you meet your dream girl and she's an A cup? You wouldn't even consider her?

[namismybabe]

it's not something I can't compromise on. it's how my brain works lol.

[namismybabe]

Yeah, and a "Christian" should have such negative views on others, this is what Jesus stated in the Gospels. lol..

So what I say is "offensive" to you. Big f***ing deal. I don't see the offensive nature of merely asserting a preference...

[snowangle]

I never said I was offended, and I didn't say anything particularly negative either. Just an observation. :)

I notice you seem to have gotten angry I didn't reply after the first comment. Trying to get a response out of me bro?

[namismybabe]

lol... you insult me, I insult you back. and? am I obligated to be nice to you? I personally don't care if you're not nice to me, lol.. learn some confidence "bro". if you tell strangers what they can or cannot like, lol.. how do you expect them to behave?

[snowangle]

I never insulted you and never said you're obligated to be nice to me. Done with you bro. :)

[namismybabe]

lol. well people as yourself presume all most dote to you. lol..

[namismybabe]

no. I didn't frankly care if you didn't respond. who are you anyhow I must care about your response?

You attacked me, I attack you back. though you presumably I must still respect you lol... yeah, I'm "bad" because I have standards, you are bad since you don't acknowledge people can respond how they choose to things.

[Anonymous]

I used to try to imagine the faces and bodies of some women I dated, slept with and knew swapping personalities with the nicest of everything. I met one great girl that was really good for me when I was in my mid twenties and met one recently that I am with that may be great too. They are everything a man could want but I am still so difficult to please. I work too much and I am picky. I at least am not as shallow as I used to be. I used to often think "if only" a lot when I f***ed up the one relationship with this one girl many years ago but that is useless thinking to me. Hopefully you can get past the weight part or breast part and not be as picky. I don't like overweight women but maybe she can lose 60 lbs and maybe you can live with that. Maybe you can live with the smaller ta ta's. who knows.

[namismybabe]

Again, you cite it's bad to have standards. Why? lol.. since when did this attitude emerge?

You're suggesting that to be PC, one cannot desire or seek out traits that make somebody happy, or one is attracted to physically, intellectually or emotionally. Erm, isn't that more or less the point of dating?

[Opinion Owner]

I did not suggest that but I am suggesting a compromise though. The girl with smaller boobs should be chosen no? It's just boobs man. There are only so many things you can do with a boob

[namismybabe]

i'm just attracted to large boobs, and would be unhappy without them. why is that so bad or evil?

you can have your view also, but in honesty I don't understand it. You're essentially saying we have a right to hold standards, but then a duty to date people out of charity.

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like a baby. I never said you can't be attracted to whatever but big boobs get saggy and retarded looking when they get older. Don't comment anymore because you are way too sensitive.

[namismybabe]

lol. I think you are sensitive, since you are offended at others' choices. I know plenty of older women with still pert large boobs, and? your comments essentially are like saying to a vegan why s/he should eat meat. it's not your business why they do, nor do you hold any true authority to say what they can or cannot do.

furthermore, you seemingly have control issues if you seek to regulate what others do, think or say lol..

[Opinion Owner]

Fine you are right. Stay in your deluded world

[namismybabe]

lol.. I don't care again.

holding preferences is delusion? people think differently bud lol..

[Opinion Owner]

Yea and I never said they couldn't. You think it is a coincidence that dozens of people have you blocked? Try reading what people type instead of putting words into their mouths. It tends to piss people off but apparently you don't care.

[namismybabe]

lol..

If you cite rude and abrasive comments, or tell me that I am "bad" or "immoral" or what have you for holding mere preferences, or that as the Lord of the Cosmos you can tell me what I can or cannot think or do, then how do you expect I must respond?

In truth, I don't care. Perhaps you need to articulate your points better. Communication is two way after all lol..

[Opinion Owner]

Well again it is not a coincidence that you argue with almost everyone on here. It can never hurt to humble yourself and look inside no?

[namismybabe]

lol. look inside for what? you seeemingly find non-compromisable points offensive.

i generally don't care what others do in life, as I have no conrol over what others do, think or say. if you believe that holding perceptions and attitudes are bad, then so be it.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok idiot I said the words bad, evil and immoral etc

[namismybabe]

it's what you alluded to, isn't it? so there's no difference.

[Opinion Owner]

I speak for me and if you want you can continue speaking for me. Bye

[namismybabe]

You say state what you want.

I'm trying to understand your opinion. My opinion is that if preferences exclude, so be it. Nobody has to date anybody else, and you're essentially saying one can't have preferences.

Incidentally, I like large boobs since they have both aesthetic and sentimental value. my first proper girlfriend at 19 in uni had large boobs, so yeah... sentiment makes one "evil" and "non-open". ha..

[Anonymous]

skanks and hoes - small body BIG boobs. just the answer you need.

[namismybabe]

OK so you never discriminate in terms of who to date?

lol.. what you're saying doesn't make sense frankly. Don't presume all in the world must share your subjective prism. I'll leave you to your anarchic personality/thoughts lol..

[origamicranegirl]

While you are being a bit shallow there... See who's personality you like better. Bodies don't matter in this case, because if you want a long-term relationship, if you choose the one you dislike more, she might irritate you... Anyway, if you want a short term, do what you want to.

Why can't women come perfect? Why can't men come perfect? lol.

[namismybabe]

lol..

I give up.

Look, we all simply hold different ideals here. It's the norm not to consider dating somebody on physical traits alone. this is not shallow IMO, but normal.

You all may be "annoyed" at my comments, but your all essentially berating me and saying I cannot have my own values/standards. I personally wouldn't answer that way, but then not everybody acts/behaves as I do, we're all individuals lol...

[origamicranegirl]

I'm not annoyed, and you can have your own values, but I really hope you're also taking personality into this, because if you don't, you might end up with a very annoying girlfriend.

[namismybabe]

you're telling me that my likes are wrong lol..

I just don't see where you derive that right from..

[skinandbones]

wtf... if she lost about 100 lbs?

well... one could hardly accuse you of being superficial...

sometimes I do think 'if only'. if only god had blessed you with a brain.

[namismybabe]

lulz.. I don't like obese women. is that so evil? must everybody we meet be immediate dating prospects?

lol.. what is your point exactly? does the fact that humans don't have to find others attractive offend you?

[skinandbones]

course not. you should definitely be attracted to your partner. I just think the way you phrase things makes you come off as a douche bag. like women are worthless if they aren't hot enough to fit your standards. like the younger's ones boobs are too small? you can't compromise on a pair of boobs? are you serious? it's insane to me to give up on a girl just because her boobs weren't big enough.

[namismybabe]

OK, yes, I can phrase it better, granted.

However, I don't see why it's bad not to have standards.

[skinandbones]

lol.

[namismybabe]

erm.. what is so funny?

[skinandbones]

dude, I'm tired. I can't explain to you how messed up your thinking is. you probably wouldn't see what I'm talking about anyways. all I can say is good luck. I hope you find the girl with the right sized boobs one day. and I hope she doesn't randomly turn into an axe murderer.

[namismybabe]

lol.. how I interpret your comments is that I'm not "allowed" to have preferences, or somehow holding them is "offensive".

I disagree, since to me they're the point of dating.

You can have your view, though whilst I respect your views and you don't mine, I simply think that one shouldn't compromise on things that make one happy in relationships.

[skinandbones]

it's fine to have preferences and standards! I'm just saying BOOBS is not something that makes sense as a standard. boobs are boobs. they're awesome. I can't see how a girl's boobs not being the right size equals to her not being worthy to you. that's just dumb. and really f***ed up.

[namismybabe]

lol.. I simply like large boobs. I find large boobs better aesthetically. why is this bad? can you answer that?

[skinandbones]

THAT'S NOT BAD! READ WHAT I'M WRITING! it's only BAD when you REFUSE TO DATE WOMEN who don't have big ones! like wtf. you should be more open-minded. you may grow to like smaller boobs, who knows. or she'll be so hot and amazing in other respects, you won't really care about the smallness of the boobs. WHY IS THIS SO HARD FOR YOU TO SEE?

[namismybabe]

lol.. ha!

I can sense what the issue here is now. you're somehow offended of others' tastes, and it's not even a reasoned basis you have this feeling. I know that from instinct I just like large boobs. I cannot be happy without them. if this means I will not find other women attractive, so be it. you're pushing a double standard, you say preferences are good but then preferences are bad due to being unfair.

i personally don't care who finds me attractive.

[skinandbones]

i just find your particular preference, to not be a preference. it's a RULE. if she doesn't have big boobs, then no way. 'Preference' is defined as 'a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.' but you refuse to consider the other options at all. YOU'RE the one who doesn't know what he's talking about.

[namismybabe]

yes, and rules are evil too. to me, they're the same thing, as a preference can become a rule.

again, you seemingly are so irate/offended, I'll leave you be. come back when you sound healthy lol..

[skinandbones]

sigh. I give up on you. good day, sir.

[namismybabe]

lol..

[namismybabe]

yes, according to you preferences are bad. I disagree. if that's exclusionary, so be it.

[skinandbones]

i didn't say that. but you never learned to read... so I can't help you. goodbye.

[namismybabe]

then what really is your point? lol..

that I'm being bad for liking big boobs? are you less-endowed by chance? lol.

[skinandbones]

i get the feeling that you're really bored and just wanna rile me up. I'm sleepy. Leave me alone. I don't wanna explain anything to you, I don't care enough to.

[skinandbones]

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[Seek81]

erm.. you insulted him by saying he had no brain. clearly you hold no competence of social understanding then..

[LJHam]

Ya know, the older, heavier woman will still be the same woman whether she's 100lbs lighter or not. People put too much importance on weight & appearance. Look at her face, at her eyes. Is that a face you could love?

[namismybabe]

lol..

For somebody who purports to be so wise/intelligent, why do the thoughts of others bother you so?

Moreover, face IS appearance by definition.

lol..

Look. Who the hell are you, some idiot stranger online, to tell me what I can or cannot like or do? lol.. why lecture to me as if I'm your son? Are you so bereft of social skills/understanding, or so weak inside, that you must do so? lol..

[LJHam]

I did not say your thoughts bother me. And I did not tell you what to like or not like. From your response it is apparent that you are the one bereft of social skills/understanding and are weak inside. But whatever you are or do is of no consequence to me. I do not take what others say about me personally.

[namismybabe]

lol.. you tried to tell me what I can or cannot like lol..

where do you attain this right from?

[LJHam]

Your reading skills are not up to par since nothing I've written has told you what to like or dislike.

[namismybabe]

that's what you implied.

lol.. who the f***ing hell are you? Answer that please. Why do you think you hold some right to lecture and dictate to me?

[LJHam]

I do not imply anything. I say what I mean, and I mean what I say. If you read more into my statements then that is your own doing.

Honestly, I am a person who is somewhat amazed by all the anger you project onto others. I have not lectured nor dictated anything to you. Believe me, if I cared to lecture you, you would know it.

[namismybabe]

lol. Is this supposed to intimidate me?

I simply know the agenda of you and all people like you. You attempt to lecture and dictate to people, due to your own narcissism and insecurities.

I can do what the heck I please. Are you the law? God himself? My parents? What true authority do you have to prevent me? You're clearly some dope who doesn't get normal human conduct.

[LJHam]

Wow, you got intimidation from what I've said? That's very strange.

If you ever stopped to actually take a good look in mirror you would realize that everything you've accused me of being is actually a reflection of you. You know absolutely nothing about me, but your angry words say way more about you than what you intended.

[namismybabe]

i know your agenda.

[namismybabe]

lol.. your response was an attack and you know it. you clearly are the weak one if you cannot acknowledge that.

[LJHam]

Trying to put a mirror up in front of a person's face is not an attack. But it is understandable how that person would see it that way considering what they're seeing in the mirror is so angry.

[namismybabe]

anger? yes, at you.



you presume to lecture me concerning what I can and cannot do or like, when you hold no true right nor authority to do so.

my point stands to ALL respondents in this thread. you seek to dictate who can say what or what is worth airing lol.. I'm done, your collective egos are not making me happy. I have a right to be happy lol..

[namismybabe]

what's more, I've seen your profile and you claim to be highly selective concerning who you date lol..

so you're the lord who determines who gets or has what? lol..

[LJHam]

What you see and what is actually written are two different things. That is proven by all of your comments in this whole thread.

[namismybabe]

lol..

I simply don't like being told what I can or cannot assert, and what I say is of little value.

Can you demonstrate why this is the case? and from where you gain this right from, and why others must respect this right?

[LJHam]

After this comment, I'm not wasting another minute on explaining anything to you since you do not read what it actually written.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that a woman's breast size reduces as her weight reduces - the first lady may not meet your physical requirements if she did lose the 100 lbs...and the second lady's assets would likely increase if she put on a little weight.

[namismybabe]

and?

lol.. I'm done. You all seem offended and irate at somebody holding a basic preference. Do you accept to date everybody? lol..

[Opinion Owner]

Lol...If only you hadn't posted your question...

[namismybabe]

No you say preferenxrs are bad lol..

[Opinion Owner]

Errr no I didn't. I respect everyone's right to be naturally drawn to whoever they're naturally drawn to, as long as it's not children. I simply said to be careful with your perception of breast size, because it's relative to weight.

[namismybabe]

yes, you did. this is what you insinuated.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol no, you read the wrong meaning into it. Take my words as written.

[namismybabe]

meaning into what? lol.. why do you presume you can tell me what to do and think? lol.. who are you anyhow? Is this my mum posting or something?

[LJHam]

Apparently our QA has a habit of reading what he wants to read in people's responses instead of what is actually written. He is extremely defensive over not being attracted to a heavier woman. And even though several females have written nonjudgmental answers, he replies with such fierceness it's obvious he's got some serious issues.

[namismybabe]

You were all "fierce" to me.

lol.. I don't care again. if you respond aggressively, expect a response in kind. such is the human condition.

[Opinion Owner]

Agree with you, @LJHam!

[namismybabe]

is it a sin not to be attracted to heavier women? are you fat perchance? you have the issues, you can't seemingly accept others' points of view, and anything that undermines you or touches a nerve you condemn

[RedSmartie]

Do you ever think, "if he wasn't such a shallow a**hole, he might not be so bad?"

Because that's what most women end up thinking about most men.

[namismybabe]

women are as shallow as men. can you prove they are not?

[seksek]

the boob thing is kind of mean but if its that important just wait until you find the perfect girl. will prob never happen but ya lol

[namismybabe]

lol.. I seem to have touched a collective nerve lol..

Again how is it bad NOT to be attracted to somebody?

[namismybabe]

You know what?

who are you to make such grand pronouncement of me, or what anybody else on this forum says? I don't frankly get it, where does this kingly attitude come from? lol..

you believe you can tell a stranger how he lives? lol.. that's really too rich.

[seksek]

uh what? I think you're being overly sensitive

[namismybabe]

no, you are lecturing me on what I want or should value.

i've seen your questions/answers incidentally, and you ask similar questions to what I've asked lol..

kindly prove how you're the "wronged" party here lol.. you just sound like a hypocrite, who is seeking to "influence" a stranger online.

[seksek]

alrighty then, didn't mean to upset you I was just posting my honest opinion. Next time state that you only want to hear one answer but from other accounts.

good luck.

[Anonymous]

You come across as really shallow and I hope neither of these women give you a chance. They deserve a man, not a little boy who is hung up on boobs.

[namismybabe]

lol..

I don't get all of your comments. You seem somehow offended.

[MortalShowdown]

That boob thing is ridiculous.

[namismybabe]

hmm.. so you're saying preferences are bad. do you always accept to date whoever? or that's it's wrong to turn down people or not be attracted to them.

can you logically state your opinion, rather than say preferences are good and bad at the same time?

[Anonymous]

yes, always... it's a terrible disease...

[namismybabe]

pardon me? not everybody needs to get your geeky/nerdy sense of humour.

stop telling me what I can or cannot do. who the hell are you anyhow?