If your relationship was troubled, would you stay together just for the holidays or make a clean break beforehand?

[Anonymous]

I'd break up before the holidays

I'd stay together, start fresh in the new year

[Vesuvius87]

It depends on what the issue is. If it's that serious or has to do with being blatantly disrespected (ex: he insults my parents or family), then I'm breaking up immediately. I don't care if it's Christmas. I'm not putting up with getting used or taken advantage of anymore. This ''super sweet girl'' that tolerates everything is gone forever.

[minaelma]

Exactly

[anonanonanonomys]

Personally I'm very close with my family. And to be able to avoid constant questioning from my family then extended family and friends that I'm constantly around I would wait. Break ups are emotional and I don't know if I could hold it together if I was having to answer a bunch of questions.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the level of toxicity. If she was just going to ruin the holiday get rid of her now. Otherwise it's probably easiest to wait.

[SnowedIn]

I'd try to work it out. But, assuming those are my only two choices, break before the holiday.

[Guy13]

If you are married then go ahead and F- right now because you are screwed forever joined in the eyes of God. If you are not married and it is an unhealthy dynamic then do what is best for your personal situationship.

[BlueScorpio]

Mmm maybe after to avoid all the questions from people wanting to know where your S. O is during the holiday.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would wait unless there was a compelling reason to not wait (such as domestic violence.)

[Adam1978]

What happened to fixing the issue? If it unacceptable behavior I simply end things right there, no consideration on the holidays. Because if you can spend the holiday together in a good manner it's fixable.

[Asker]

My friends were divorcing. I was the only one who knew this, but they stuck it out over the holidays. They were friends and dated for years before they got married, so they could be amicable enough during the holidays but they both knew it was over and just wanted to wait. Sadly not everyone can work it out even if you can be nice to one another and have no ill will towards one another. I felt sad though knowing what I knew. I actually wish I didn't because I became the sounding board for their problems during the season.

[Nikki1989]

Holidays are not that important to me, so I would break up and move on.

[Red-Blaze]

If we get to the point we decide we are unhappy and try to work it out, will have broken up before, holiday is not too much of a bad time to get over it

[Static_In_The_Attic]

There is nothing that says Merry KissMYass better than a break up on Christmas so why do it before or why do it after do it on the actual day.

[LovingJo]

It would depend on what the troubles were, but probably before hand, as I wouldn't want it to ruin the holidays as well. Even though it'd be very difficult, emotion wise. 😊

[exitseven]

I would make sure I broke up before the holiday. That way I won't have to buy her a present.

[TaureanBull81]

You'd break up before the holiday season if you're both unhappy in your relationship. No point remaining together when you know it's run its course.

[art84]

Probably leave if wasn't working out between us before the holidays. It would just be awkward to spend time together during Thanksgiving or Christmas together.

[bean2k21]

I don't like stock photos or anonymous hypothetical questions, so it's over between us.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'd stay together, start fresh in the new year.

[ArtemisSilver]

Why not go somewhere for the holidays and try to fix it?

[XLBBC4White]

Because it's dumb to break it off so close - besides if the sex is decent you want to make sure you leave a good impression

[OddBeMe]

If holidays were important to me, or to keep family from asking questions, sure wait.


I care for none of those so just do it.

[Sparkie460]

If the relationship couldn't be salvaged I'd end it before the holidays.

[BJP21]

If the tension is already there, dont let it ruin your holidays too.

[EaterPeter]

It is usually a good idea to be in relationship for at least a year.

[ZenJen444]

He doesn't want to be with you. He most likely has another woman he wants to spend the holidays with

[PainusNdeeAnus]

This generation doesn’t like hardships and actually putting forth effort obviously break

[Twalli]

Depends on if there's a chance to salvage it. I wouldn't hang on if it will definitely end

[AngryCarl]

Break up BEFORE Christmas, spend the holiday moping around, THEN make a fresh start in the New Year.

[Anonymous]

Well it depends on the situation. If we are fighting non stop, then why remain?

[Asker]

I think some people just don't want to have to explain to family and friends the break-up and why so and so isn't there or feel judgement so they stick together and vow to break up afterwards.

[Opinion Owner]

Good point.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'd make a clean break what's the point in staying together for the holidays that sucks

[berwise13]

Maybe discuss it and still be friendly through holidays.

[TroyDT2]

I won't stay where I'm unhappy, or she is.

[Asker]

Yeah, I can't see trying to fake that we're still happy together. Too hard especially when family and stuff are asking you about your future plans together.

[Manuel2]

Only a fool wants to be unhappy on a holiday

[twotone54]

I'd leave asap no use dragging it out any longer

[msc545]

Break up rather than have a lousy holiday.

[krin_m]

A clean break.

[JesseJayNeak]

I’d try again

[chaser3233]

Not enough information to make a decision!

[jimmy2]

I would seek forgiveness

[Danny_dan92]

Simply breakup