It depends on the reason why and how bad it is. I believe in waiting for marriage to have sex, so any amount of problems that aren't good or healthy, I can safely leave while I work on repairing the other damages: emotionally, mentally, etc. While I believe you should work to clear out all of the areas where problems are piling up. The problem is so many people are too immature to want to deal with them. I am not saying just being passive-aggressive, or wanting space, not talking about it just yet, etc is the problem. As an introvert I know full well the need to have that to calm down and sort through those emotions and thoughts before they can become toxic. However, somebody who is always attacking you, abusing, etc, is not acceptable. It's okay to be angry. It is NOT okay to be abusive or abuse another.
That's why I evaluate this in friendships I have with people. I never dated. But one thing I realized in those 99/100 problems and why I refuse to date men is because I have encountered in real life and on here that most men do not want to solve issues. I came from an argumentive family. I know first hand how abusive and toxic people be it male or female, young, old, etc can be. Some relationships run their course. But in a marriage, you cannot AFFORD it. You are married, work it out. Dating is not about keeping a person, it is about processing and elimination. The problem with people they take everything like it is a joke, yet they are desperate to keep you around like you don't matter. Be with people who share the same values. Not somebody you can't get along with and they have no desire to resolve them. If see this before dating them, this is how they will be when you date them and when you marry them. It's a pattern and a cycle.
What I have learned is if you keep attracting that kind of people, somewhere in you is what is attracting them. Or you interested in people who are not good for you. Sometimes not being together with a person is for the best. If it is for you to be together you will in the future. If not, it may have run its course. Sometimes this is often very preventable. And I come t find out for nearly 80% of relationships and marriages, too many people want these things sexually, but is too LAZY to fix the essentials.
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Stay and work it out but on some occasions space is good too.
Work it out because that's what a relationship is. It's work. People who expect it to come together like a jigsaw puzzle are not ready or not made to be in one. We, all of us, are individuals first. Our own lives, our own set of problems. We choose to share that with another person just like they choose the share that as well and walk down the same path. Despite your differences, you choose to be. If the person is worth it, you fight for it. If not then don't. But leaving for every rough patch just ensures you'll be alone.
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Every relationship has rough spots. If you always leave when that happens, then you will never have a long term relationship.
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Unless he did something stupid or unforgivable, such as cheating, ALWAYS make an attempt to work things out! Most relationships are salvageable with good communication... most, not all, but it's an essential asset to any relationship.
If he's willing to help put the work and time into fixing the relationship, I'd stay.A guy from church told us that the death of a relationship is apathy and not moderate and manageable conflicts so if the person stops caring and trying it’s time to end the relationship.
If you can't stick through the rough patches in a relationship and run, you will never have a good long term relationship. A lot of people leave the second things get hard.
I would do everything in my power to make it work and help us persevere through it. If ultimately it doesn't work, I can at least say I tried instead of ran.Every relationship has rough patches. If you love the person enough, and if the problem is not insurmountable, they stay and work it out. If you leave every time there is a rough patch, you will be in serial relationships, never knowing the depth of love attainable, when you work through issues. Obviously, this doesn't work for all situations.
As usual, it's pretty generic the way the question is put.
What is the rough patch? Is it a couple thing or it's something that only regards one of the members?
Does it concern a behaviour or what else?
I can't possibly give any advice from such a lack of data.I'm stubborn & of I think it can be worked out, I'm going to do my damnedest to try & work it out. My boyfriend is the same way.
Always stay and work it out, if I just left on a dime when it was hard how would I ever get a wife.
Rough patches will determine whether you stay or leave.
Communicate! Love them when they aren't very lovable and hope they do the same for you! Remember, the grass is greener on the other side of the fence because that's where everyone sh*ts.
My last 'relationship' had so many rough spots patches that weren't only repetitive, they also simply couldn't be fixed so I made the choice to walk away. She wasn't happy about it anymore than I was but I'd also had my fill of the toxic BS that came with it.
I would stay and try to work things out. The other half is completely up to them. If I do my part, but they are unwilling to do their part; the relationship will ultimately fall apart.
In my opinion, you should always try to work things out. If one partner in a relationship, whether it be a friendship, or romantic relationship, doesn't want to work things out, then the relationship will not work out.
If you can’t even sort out an argument, you shouldn’t be together. Running away is cowardice
Obviously stay and work it out, providing they were willing to also. It takes TWO.
Usually stay... but it depends on what the issue is. I have certain issues that are pretty much deal breaker things so if it fell into that deal breaker category I would just leave but outside of those issues I'd stay.
Relationships are like ropes maybe, you cut it and then you put it back together the ends come closer together
https://youtu. be/2nLWPNfNMHIIf you're the type to leave during rough patches you'll never get married
After 26 years the rough patches have made a new quilt. Despite that we are still together
If the patch is rough enough for me to even think about leaving then I should leave. A relationship that has right moments that bad isn't worth staying in
Depends on what the rough patch is. I’m loyal to the core so I would always want to stay and work things out. The only thing I’ll not tolerate is disrespect.
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