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Get some professional help. What made sense to you is what got you in your present situation. Without a new perspective and new tools, you'll just continue doing what's familiar to you, while... Relationships

When you were young (8-10 years old) and saw people in relationships, what did you believe were the reasons they chose to be in those relationships? After you had relationship experiences... Relationships

It's common for people to rewrite reality when they're not seeing what they want to see. It's their way to legitimize whatever decisions they make. Tearing down means eliminating whatever norms,... Relationships

You've identified your problem. When we use the word "can't," our brain shuts down to even considering other options. It's fine to say "I haven't," but using "can't" is like wearing a ball and... Relationships

Guys aren't mind readers. What you hold in your head stays in your head. Different things draw people's attention. If you fade into the woodwork and never draw attention, you'll never be noticed.... Dating

It takes two to argue. One person can't do it alone. Rather than compete to see who can make the most demands, reach out to see things through his eyes. Seek clarification and understanding, and... Relationships

Since appearance is the easiest thing for people to notice, that does hold some weight, but what you do after he notices you is what will hold his interest. Focus on being the total person you... Dating

Consider my feelings before saying or doing what she feels entitled to say or do. Prioritize making sure both of us always feel safe, secure and special. Use clear, concise, open, honest... Relationships

It's a learned behavior. They see the pattern in their mothers and then fine tune it while playing with their dolls. Boys are conditioned to be more problem/solution focused, while girls are... Relationships

Choosing to not be clear, concise, open and honest with communication. Talking is not communicating, and expecting others to read your mind will always be dysfunctional. Never say one thing when... Relationships

By questioning this, you're acknowledging you're uncomfortable with his behavior. It's not about whether other people are comfortable with that behavior, but your own comfort. Never legitimize... Relationships

The louder you shout and the more you repeat yourself, the less you'll be heard. People tend to turn off this noise in their head, so it's a waste of time and energy. If you truly want to be... Relationships

When your actions aren't acknowledged or reciprocated. When you're the primary person to initiate anything that adds to the relationship (not just personal needs). When your actions don't seem to... Relationships

Start by being observant. What draws your interest to him (other than physical appearance)? It's OK to share what impresses you about him. You can tell him you were impressed with the answer he... Dating

Introverts can actually come across very outgoing within their familiar structures, even if they remain shy in unfamiliar situations. Just because they might appear more extroverted in certain... Dating

Just because a person is open to multiple options, that doesn't mean they have to choose multiple options. Let's say you tell your date "I'm open to seeing these three movies." Does that mean you... Dating

Ask him what he values in a relationship. Asking strangers won't necessarily give you what he appreciates. Find out what you've done that he's savored, even after the moment ended. Ask him to... Relationships

What's the likelihood that you'd be drawn to someone who is really needy, complains and nags a lot for a long time? You can entice him closer, or you can push him away. Your choice of behavior... Dating

It's easy to legitimize a conflict by calling it a misunderstanding. What we actually have is a failure to communicate. Both of you probably insisted your perspective was right and the other... Relationships

Guys are lousy mind readers, so it can be helpful to make yourself known to him, but start small, not large. For instance, you wouldn't start contact by sending him a nude picture of yourself.... Dating