I`m a virgin and wonder if my standards are too high for the girl I want to marry photos included?

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I`m still a virgin and in my late tweenties. I aim to only get married once and intend to marry a stunning girl. I`m like a 8/10 myself with a good job. 
I have rejected several girls this year they have met my personality standards but fell short when it came to looks please don`t judge me for this I feel so shallow already I tried to lower my standards for looks but just can`t.
Im open to all races by the way.

my standards are: 
1) someone friendly and kind with a big heart.
 2) witty and hold a university degree but not that important TBH
3) Mellow and helpful 
4) loves kids
As for looks I`m onto tanned brunnetes mostly that are athletic like these:

 I feel so depressed for not finding her..

Bandit74 · Accepted Answer

Well honestly you're allowed to have whatever standards you want. Also since you have most of the traits you're looking for in a partner it does seem like a fair trade.

So I think you're standards are justifird, however that doesn't mean you're going to find what you're looking for. Just because your standards are fair doesn't mean you're entitled to getting what you want.

There's the issue of rarity.
1. You want a virgin (don't blame you, personally I'd like one too) but virgins are statistically less common and become increasingly harder to find the older you get.

2. Additionally you want a girl who is an 8/10 which once again statistically less common.

3. That's one or the kther, but to find a girl who is BOTH an 8/10 AND a virgin is even less likely. Although I think it's true that the most beautiful girls often have less partners than the more average looking girls, it's still unlikey to find a girl that beautiful who is a virgin. Obviously she's attractive so a woman that attractive must get lots of offers, surely in 20+ years of living one of the many offers she's received must have been tempting... no? It just doesn't make sense unless she's religious and also waitint,... but once again it narrows down your dating pool.

3. Then on top of being a really attractive virgin she needs to have a compatible personality, be single, and live close to you. I'm not saying it's impossible but you are looking for a needle in a haystack.

I had the thought recently that contrary to popular belief really desirable people Dont really have an easier time dating. Sure you might have more options but like most people you want your perceived equal and if you have rare traits it makes it hard to find an equal who has those same rare traits.

Well enough rambling... I wish you luck 👍

serious · Accepted Answer

I can completely understand this, and there is nothing wrong with you having high standards. I have very high standards myself. There is nothing wrong if you want a woman who is 8/10 in looks and say 8/10 in personality, this thinking is absolutely fine, you don't have to reduce your standards, you don't have to lower your standards, don't compromise with your standards. Please don't feel bad.

However you have to remember one important point, if your standards for physical looks and personality are going to be equally high then you have to prepared for the consequences of your thinking. Meaning you may get what you deserve or you may not get what you deserve, you may find such a woman just like the way you want or you may never find her, you may never come across such a woman.

Hence it's possible that you may have to stay single for a very long time or forever. Hence be prepared to face the consequences of your thinking.

lumos · Accepted Answer

Well if you want to limit yourself like that and reject every girl that doesn't fit all those standards to a T, nobody's going to stop you. However you should realize that you might just end up alone down the road due to never finding anyone who fits your narrow standards.
And considering that you have 0 experience, it's a bit crazy to have all these standards already when you basically haven't even TRIED to date someone who wasn't your perfect ideal girl. I'm not saying that you should go for the total opposite of your current standards, but would it really be the end of the world if she was, say, blonde with a somewhat average build (as opposed to a brunette who's extremely slim)? Who knows, you might just end up liking it. And if not, well, at least then you'll have the experience to back it up. Like @DieselBarbie said, it's best if standards are based on actual experiences, not just fantasies. You might surprise yourself.
And like I said, if your standards are too high then you're only setting yourself up for failure and a lonely life. Compromising a little should be acceptable. You're not settling, you've just realized that the perfect girlfriend doesn't exist.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your standards are way too high. If you expect high standards of your prospective woman, then you need to be a very desirable and competitive man, because the points you say about your ideal woman are extremely desirable by any man, and why would such a perfect woman marry you when she can just find someone better? You have to look at dating as a competing field. You have to know how to woo her, or she won't come to you.

You say you are a virgin. Are you a virgin because you cannot attract a mate, have poor social skills, or are you a virgin because you deliberately turn down women who want you or are attracted to you? I say if you are the latter, then you have a very good reason to seek a virgin wife yourself, because she may preserve her virginity for the same reasons and thus her life habits are similar to yours. However, if you are the former, then suck it up. No one wants to marry a virgin-loser.

I'm just saying... you should really consider what you are like and what you expect from your woman.

dimples123 · Accepted Answer

At first, reading thisi was like "WTF dude"... I was about to give you the you might find her but no one can guarantee you will be the perfect match for her. Then a realization hit me. I was just like you. Throughout middle school i rejected guys who just fit somewhat of the criteria. I needed and wanted the guy that fit everything: colored eyes, tall, handsome, intelligent, funny, romantic, athletic, and adventurous... Disney kind of instilled this criteria within me. I carried on with this criteria throughout high school. I waited and senior year i found my perfect match. He had everything i was looking for. My first boyfriend was my dream boyfriend and he was white! I always had and have a thing for them, being the hispanic chick lol sadly last month we broke up due to me trying to findnsomething wrong in our relationship. We are both to blame for. But i know i will get him back. Soo if you are waiting for that person, wait and they will come but you have to believe as well. Read The Secret... Best of luck 😘

lylypink · Accepted Answer

dude im sorry but honestly you need to get over yourself. do you think that you're a perfect 10? even the girls in the pictures dont look like that when they wake up in the morning, when they are sick, and definitely won't look like that when you are 80 years old. so you need to think about whats important to you in life... do you want something deep and meaningful that will last... or do you want a girl to just look at? because if your searching for perfection you'll never find it and just spend your days jacking off to pictures of fake photo-shopped images. do you a girl so focused on her appearance that all she eats are protein bars and spends all her free time at the gym? or do you want someone that makes your life better just by being herself? you need to rethink your view on women of you ever want a successful relationship.

Ceciliamoore · Accepted Answer

I think you will find one eventually,

Mysterio421 · Answer

What your looking for is a unicorn. Unicorns don't exist. Even if she existed, it would be like finding a needle in a haystack. Don't ruin your financial success by getting married and divorced to a girl who is pretty. If you do get married have a prenup and get to know her well. Readin all the comments from the girls is hilarious. Not going into those can of worms. Anyways, if you have money, power, or fame you can get hot girls easy. Their personality will not likely not be what your looking for though. I get where your coming from. Your trying to settle down and you want a woman who had a good personality and beauty. I would recommend looking in foreign countries. I have travelled and I have noticed that women there are generally better than western society. But for god sake don't settle down with a girl because of you being 'desperate'. Besides, when you will be 30+ you will get the attention from the girls who are your age and desperate but their looks have generally faded and that's what your not looking for.

DeadShot619 · Answer

I'd say ur standards r too high. Even if ur a perfect 10/10 u still shouldn't accept only other 10/10s. Life usually doesn't work that way. But on the other hand if ur not attracted to her then it can't work out anyway. So if u can get urself to be attracted to a not quite so perfect girl then good. Otherwise I'm out of advice for u. Sorry bud

mangue · Answer

You have totally UNREALISTIC criterias. You want a perfect looking woman who has a perfect personality who's a virgin too with your insane standards. First of all she will be almost impossible to find and then she needs to like you back as well, im sorry to break it to you but that's an impossible mission. You're already in your late 20's still virgin and still looking for your miss perfect im sorry honey but the clocks ticking you don't have forever, if you keep looking for her you'll just end up and die alone. Maybe if you drop your crazy criterias and standards and let people in you'll maybe find yourself fall for an amazing girl that wasn't maybe the girl in your description but still a desirable person and woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Your standards are... shallow. Lol. You recognize it yourself but you don't really understand that you're setting yourself up for disappointment. It seems like you have VERY little experience with women, since you've been so picky in the past. I feel like you're missing out on experiencing something real, because you're so focused on something superficial. When your dream girl becomes old and less attractive, you are just going to look for the next great thing, and never feel fulfilled. And thus, always feel empty and in the end you would have wasted a lot of time.

front2back · Answer

Your wants for personality aren't unreasonable. Most people want that.

Athletic, tall, gorgeous brunette? Eh... even if you're a stud muffin that isn't very likely to happen. Probably a small minority of the female population is athletic, tall, and gorgeous all at the same time. I would suggest looking for your personality wants the most and probably shooting for more "average" women. Why? "Average" women make up a HUGE amount of the female population, and chances are at least some of them will have what you want in looks. even if it's just a thing or two.

Solstice88 · Answer

Did you just not fancy anyone you went on a date with? Because if you didn't then its fine to go for this ideal woman you have in your head... but if you are rejecting women even though you are attracted to them just because they aren't an 8/10... that's would just be silly and vain. Also, assuming you are saving your virginity due to your faith, doesn't the big man up stairs tell us that ultimately it is the soul that matters.

DieselBarbie · Answer

Dude you need to date more women before you set standards. Like standards are good and all but how do you know what you want when you never had what you don't want. I use to be all into rodeo men and said I'd never date otherwise, until I dated a few. Now that is definitely not the case. Standards are good, but set them by experience, not fantasies.

Milyey · Answer

Honestly, if you don't want to settle, dont! You can find a girl that meets all that you're looking for, you just have to be patient. I suggest you don't compare the vast majority, to the minimum amount of girls that can pass as supermodels. You'll only disappoint yourself, because it's not everyday you see a Miranda Kirr walking around.
Maybe find the major components that you cannot settle for at all and pick out the less important things, things people can't really help about themselves, keeping them in the back of your mind, but not forgetting about them I. e. Perfect teeth, a really nice nose etc.

Anonymous · Answer

Those girls look like models. A pretty brunette should be possible to find, but girls that look just like those are few and far between. It's nothing against you, they just aren't very common.

If you like sporty girls, try hanging out where they hang out. Are you in America? If so, 5Ks & marathons, crossfit and yoga are all really popular right now.

Cherrymelon · Answer

No, your standards are just fine, this is what I'm looking for:
-Catholic (most important)
-Good relationship with mother/sister
-Loves kids
-Loves animals
-University degree
-Nice body
I don't plan to accept less than this...

MargaritaPeach · Answer

Here's something to consider: if you refuse to date anyone other than your ideal woman, how will you know HOW to date or be boyfriend/husband material when she finally does come along? A girl like that isn't going to want to be with a guy who has zero experience in the dating department.

LittleSally · Answer

Hmmmm... so you're looking for Miss America hypocryt?
I don't see how that's going to be a fun life for you... Unless you're into liars. Hahaha

But yeah, you can wait for whomever you choose to. It's your choice. That's why it's personal and it's yours.

523206720 · Answer

That girl is a 9.9 out of 10 and if you are not a millionaire you will not have a good chance with her.

Also just because you think you look good does not mean other girls think you look good. How a girl perceives hotness is different from how a guy perceives hotness.

If you make less than $120 000 DONT BOTHER!!!

RachelBrigs · Answer

Its one thing to have a type, and another to only consider those who meet all your criteria. You shouldn't ever date someone you aren't attracted to or someone you don't like, but it seems that if a girl isn't a leggy tan fit gorgeous brunette you won't give her any consideration at all, and that's not gonna get you anywhere. I'm sure there's blondes and redheads and pale girls you can be attracted to, but you're focusing on your "type" so much that it might be a fetish.

SakuraChii · Answer

I agree with what @margaritapeach has said I also think that you must be on the same level as this girl, and someone that looks like that has probably already dated or is a non virgin so they would have experience (this is just what I see though)

coulditbebutter · Answer

You can keep your standards if you want to, or if you feel like you can't change them. Just realize it's going to find someone if you make your tastes too specific, especially as you get older. There's still a chance, especially if you look good yourself (if you're picking girls based off of their looks, just realize they're probably going to do the same to you.)
Good luck dude.

QuteQueen · Answer

If you're mainly going for looks, you're setting your self up for a heartbreak. You'll feel like you wasted your time trying to hold up your morals/standards.

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't want to lower standards then fine. But if you're having problems attracting gorgeous women you may not be as good looking as you think you are. It's one thing if you think of yourself is good looking and there's nothing wrong with that but it doesn't make others think the same thing when they see you.

Poppykate · Answer

There are at least half a dozen girls below who met this criteria!

LittleBitWeird · Answer

Yep, your standards are way too high, you won't find a girl that looks like that, fits that personality AND on top of that, actually is attracted to you as well.

WhatTheHellAmy · Answer

High standards in looks dude, but not impossible. Good luck!

9mfeo · Answer

As long as you yourself are as equally attractive, sure. Otherwise, you'll probably be in for disappointment.

Anonymous · Answer

You have high standards, but it's not impossible... I'm also still single and virgin - because of my standards, which are a bit similar like yours.

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

This is how it works for me: you can want whatever you want, but be prepared to fulfill the same expectations.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, you should try and tweak your standards a little bit. There's nothing wrong with being picky but when you said "similar virgin" as you, and comparing a woman to those pictures, it's a bit high. I totally get what you're saying though

mrsingle · Answer

F standards, you like who you like and nobody should tell you who your good for or not good enough for. By the way the middle girl is hot!

BackInGame · Answer

only male model can bang such girl. if you want to be on his place, you'd need to have looooots of money.

KENKONG · Answer

Just lol at thinking a girl like that will actually be a virgin.

Xoxoxooo123 · Answer

You can't expect to find a perfect person, they don't exist. People are complicated and flawed.

QuestionMan · Answer

If you find a girl like that, I can almost guarantee she won't be a virgin.

Scrambledagain · Answer

Every fucking chick here on this thread proved the philosophy of pick up artists.

soffffixaz · Answer

if you're going to be that specific and picky then you're going to be doing A LOT of searching for the perfect girl

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah your standards are super high. Enjoy single life!

ElvenMr · Answer

I don't think you have "high standards" at all.

Anonymous · Answer

maybe u think u 8\10 and those girls dont think so? r u blonde or brunnete urself

VerNauPap · Answer

have you been to europe? lol

lexythelou22 · Answer

You're in for a bad time, bud...

clampfan101 · Answer

Pretty high, but not impossible.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you look like? Are you on their level?

stillagoodgirl · Answer

Most likely she'd be a diamond in the rough

datgirl · Answer

Ooo well that's interesting. Hope you find her lol

Nomad69 · Answer

Keep dreaming

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