Boyfriend of 4 years gives mixed signals about marriage. Am I just wasting my time? (Page 2)

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We met 4 years ago and I told him at the beginning that I prefer to only date with possibility of marriage. He said that he was scared of getting married because his parents divorced, but was looking for a serious relationship and would see where it goes. So I gave him a chance because I was only 20 and wasn’t ready to marry until age 24-26 anyway. After 2 years, he started talking about us marrying and wedding ideas and stuff with me, and became more open to the idea of marriage, and told me he definitely wants to marry me one day. The other day, I asked him how long he wants to wait to marry. He said 10 years. I asked if sooner is a possibility and he laughed and wouldn’t answer. I said that there is more risk having kids older and he just kept trying to change the topic. He said that the more I ask about marriage, the farther he’ll push it out into the future. I hate how sometimes we talk about marrying hypothetically in a fun happy way, and but when I try to talk actual concrete plans he’s evasive and uncomfortable.  I’m 24 now and wouldn’t mind a 1-2 year engagement. I don’t think I can wait any longer after 25. I want to be married by age 27.  Am I just wasting my time with him?

Posterboy56 · Answer

"I prefer to only date with possibility of marriage" The real question is why this is the only concern in life to you.

Ripper_E · Answer

Ask him to marry you and if he says no, then bounce.

R3DthatDude · Answer

Better leave now, he doesn’t look like he will change his mind for another 10 years

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Yes. He is wasting your time. That tens years comment was a dick thing to say too.

Ryfyle · Answer

He said it himself, he has Psych problems with marriage. He's going to need psychological help, Or DMT.

astro045 · Answer

Here's my philosophy.  If a guy doesn't ever pop the question after you guys have been dating for a while than he's probably afraid that if he asks you'll reject him and break up with him.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes he is just stringing you along; dump the loser and find a real man who isn't afraid of commitment.

Shuri · Answer

You're wasting your time. He's trying to keep you there without plans for commitment.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If you really love him you would not force him to get married.

Gedaria · Answer

If marriage is what you are wanting , it would seem this guy is not your man , sorry...

bush123 · Answer

He ain't the 1 sis 4 years still doesn't plan on getting married huge red flag

Tonita91996 · Answer

Yes if a guy doesn't want to marry you he doesn't think that you are the one.

Dave31989 · Answer

i mean, 4 years, and he still hasn't proposed you're not getting any younger

michael1469 · Answer

Why ruin a good thing with marriage and kids...

Hunter7754 · Answer

Why are you pressuring him?

taveuni · Answer

Leave him

Anonymous · Answer

Shit can him.

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