A wife should take her husband's last name!! Agree?

[Bat-Perv]

Agreed

Disagree

Triggered!!! How dare you!!! Men should take her name and submit to be banged with a strapon with no lube (angry feminist answer)

[Screenwriter]

This is so trivial as to be comical. The only decision you have to make is if you want your kids to have hyphenated last names or one kid has your name and the next his, etc...
Doesn't matter who has whose name. I never changed mine. Only person it offended was my dad. He got over it.
Love each other and change BOTH YOUR NAMES TO SOMETHING ELSE! Who gives a fuck.
It's an old tradition that's about women giving up their family identities for the man they marry. It's not fair , nor modern. WIth the divorce rate as it is, it could be that the woman changes her name and is stuck with the name of a man she no longer loves or has anything to do with.
Plus changing your name on all your bank accounts and credit cards is a pain. I had established credit in MY name. He hadn't. I kept those cards and accounts. Added him. No need to change names.
I have a girlfriend who still has the name of a man who cheated on her for 21 years, caused her to be investigated by the IRS and she had to HIS debts to the tune of 10K. He never paid her the child support he owed her for their last child.
BUT She KEPT his last name because, she said, the kids had it.
You think the kids wouldn''t know who their mother was if she returned to her "maiden" name? I think she was so downtrodden at the time, she didn't have the energy to cut that LAST tie.
I'm glad I never changed my name so I didn't have to go through that. She is still Mrs. Stephanie XYZ instead of Stephanie Jones. It boggles my mind. Shudder!!!
BUT there are those who think changing their name is wonderful. They want to be a MRS; have a new identity I never did and don't understand the impetus.

[chHaynes]

The wife has to have the guy's last name when they're together its commitment if you don't take the guy's last name you might as well be single again if you ever have kids you can change their last name to wherever you want but when it comes to the wife she has to have the last name of the husband

[Screenwriter]

@chHaynes That's absurd. It's a slave tradition. If you're Fred Jones and she's Jane Smith, you introduce her as "This is Jane Smith, my wife. I'm Fred Jones." Everyone and their cats will know you're married or partnered or co habiting or whatever: A COUPLE. There is no confusion on anyone's parts these days. It has nothing to do with how committed you are.
My best friend is part of a gay couple that's been together 37 years. No one changed any names. They are completely faithful to each other and committed.
Stop this name nonsense. If it's what you WANT to do and it's how you FEEL about that issue, OK.
But it has nothing to DO with someone's personal committment to someone else. Period.

[DizzyDesii]

Pegging is disgusting and a good way to emasculate the man and leave him walking around with his damn back arched in like a female. I dont mind taking the man’s last name but i prefer to have my last name hyphenated. If its too much legal trouble with the paperwork then i’ll stay my last name on paper but have everyone refer to me by his last name

[hahahmm]

Look at it this way: modern women want all of the benefits of being married without having to sacrifice/give anything. She wants the guy to be traditional while she's not being traditional. That doesn't make sense for the guy. He should say, if you don't want to be traditional then you better sign this prenup that says you don't get any traditional benefits from a divorce.

[soe11]

The reason behind

The tradition of women changing their last names to match their husbands' has its origins in the property transfer that took place upon marriage, Scheuble said. Essentially, women went from being part of their parents' family to becoming their husbands' property. ... “It's turned over to normative tradition.”

[Bat-Perv]

Probably so you know who your father was.

[Robbey]

Most people have only had last names for the last few hundreds years, give or take. People have been getting married for thousands of years so for thousands of years women didn't/couldn't take their husband's names and it was fine.

Personally, I took my first husband's last name when we were married. When I remarried, I kept my first husband's last name and hyphenated it with my second husband's last name. Because it's important to me that I have the same last name as my children and I have children with both men.

[edolphy]

It is not as easy as agree or disagree. I would like to know the circumstance behind why they are not taking on the man's last name. Is she the only child and want to keep her family name going in the event they have a male child? How does the man feel about it?

[CindyRuns]

I've gone halfway.

Professionally, I use my maiden name... too much of a pain in the rear end to change things.

For the rest of my life, I went to CIndy <maiden_last_name> <husband's_last_name> sort of tossing my middle name I've had since birth !!!

[AlienParasite]

I'm Spaniard so it makes zero sense to delete my family name for my husband's family name. That tradition died in our country during the Middle Ages. Nobody has done it in centuries. Here the only ones who share last names are first cousin marriages.

[neverendingloops]

Interesting. What surname do the kids take?

[Bat-Perv]

@neverendingloops hampsburg's?

[AlienParasite]

@neverendingloops Traditionally we have two surnames. The first one is usually the father's first surname and the second the mother's first one.

Some people decide to change the order though, as a way to maintain rarer last names into next generations. But people usually consider this only when the mother's surname is rare and the father's is too common.

[JustinTheGreat]

That’s up to the couple. If you want to be more traditional and have the woman take your last name, that’s fine. If you both want to keep your last names or combine them, that’s fine. Or hell, even if the man wants to change his last name to the woman’s, I don’t care.

[silkjames]

Yes make her last name her middle name there should be no debate I would be like wedding off actually it's over 😂🤣😂 that would be a annoying fight hey hun we can talk about it when I get back hold thought 😂🤣😂🤣 dip set dip set I would be off that lol BYE Felicia 😂🤣😂🤣

[crmoore]

I think it creates a feeling of unity, and I do hope my future wife takes my last name, but I wouldn't say she "should." People should do what they want, and quite frankly, if I was a woman, I wouldn't be super stoked about changing my last name, either.

[Anonymous]

Yess i used to always check a guys last name before talking to him when I was younger lolol like one guy had the name Hansson and then I would be Scarlet Hansson which sounds a bit like the knock off version of Scarlett Johansson so I wasn't about it.

[chHaynes]

For any female out there who doesn't believe and taking the guy's last name is a moron it's tradition and it also means you guys are in a relationship it committed 1 2 if you don't do that then that would mean that the guy is single and he can go about his business taking his last name is a symbol of commitment

[najekim]

We knew one couple who kept their last names after marriage. They had to many times provide copies of their marriage license since their ID's last names didn't match. Last we talked to them she was filling out the forms to get her last name changed to his to avoid the hassle.

[RyzaStout]

She should if she wants to, if she doesn't then they can come up with a solution together

[Wade8888]

I prayed about this, and I felt God (Chaos) replied that neither side should take the other's last name. It solves nothing, and only complicates your paperwork and other records.

[Massageman]

Unless she needs something like a stage name, yes.
Example - Les Paul and Mary Ford (they were married for a spell).

https://www.youtube.com/embed/NkGf1GHAxhE

[Titanic1912]

I recognize the girl in the first photo. That’s Raquel Welch, aka Fuzzy Britches! And yes, a girl should always take her husband’s last name. My girlfriend doesn’t want to take my last name when we get married.

[DWornock]

It is customary and in my case, I would prefer it. However, it is not a big enough deal that I would do more than express my opinion, somewhat strongly, but not enough to argue about. And, certainly it wouldn't be a deal maker/breaker.

[Bee-Hatch]

Taking names mattered in the 1950s. It's not the 1950s, it no longer matters.

[havingfun101]

Divorcee detected

[Bee-Hatch]

Nope - never married.

[havingfun101]

That's worse, for a woman.

[Bee-Hatch]

Well being a man you must know what's best for a woman. Far be it from me to know my own mind or what's best for me.
Please tell me what else is best for women everywhere.

[havingfun101]

All the answers I thought of were mean.

[Bee-Hatch]

Yeah kind of expected that.

[havingfun101]

I can support the claim that women and coloreds are meritocraticlly inferior to white men.
What's lit is that marriage, cohabitation, sex and childbirth are at all time lows.

[strawberrylipstick]

I mean the pegging part of the last answer is great but- The real answer would be whatever feels right for the couple

[chichi_01]

I don't want to change my pretty second name 😁

Option C made me laugh out loud thanks for that 😂😂

[Apple1996]

Hard disagree. It's to much of a hassle to change a name. Plus I'd rather my identity not be stripped away from me.

[Hangry22]

If he is willing to run around and change my name on all the certificates, i am ok with it. But i won't waste my time on it