A wife should take her husband's last name!! Agree?

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Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

This is so trivial as to be comical. The only decision you have to make is if you want your kids to have hyphenated last names or one kid has your name and the next his, etc...
Doesn't matter who has whose name. I never changed mine. Only person it offended was my dad. He got over it.
Love each other and change BOTH YOUR NAMES TO SOMETHING ELSE! Who gives a fuck.
It's an old tradition that's about women giving up their family identities for the man they marry. It's not fair , nor modern. WIth the divorce rate as it is, it could be that the woman changes her name and is stuck with the name of a man she no longer loves or has anything to do with.
Plus changing your name on all your bank accounts and credit cards is a pain. I had established credit in MY name. He hadn't. I kept those cards and accounts. Added him. No need to change names.
I have a girlfriend who still has the name of a man who cheated on her for 21 years, caused her to be investigated by the IRS and she had to HIS debts to the tune of 10K. He never paid her the child support he owed her for their last child.
BUT She KEPT his last name because, she said, the kids had it.
You think the kids wouldn''t know who their mother was if she returned to her "maiden" name? I think she was so downtrodden at the time, she didn't have the energy to cut that LAST tie.
I'm glad I never changed my name so I didn't have to go through that. She is still Mrs. Stephanie XYZ instead of Stephanie Jones. It boggles my mind. Shudder!!!
BUT there are those who think changing their name is wonderful. They want to be a MRS; have a new identity I never did and don't understand the impetus.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Pegging is disgusting and a good way to emasculate the man and leave him walking around with his damn back arched in like a female. I dont mind taking the man’s last name but i prefer to have my last name hyphenated. If its too much legal trouble with the paperwork then i’ll stay my last name on paper but have everyone refer to me by his last name

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Look at it this way: modern women want all of the benefits of being married without having to sacrifice/give anything. She wants the guy to be traditional while she's not being traditional. That doesn't make sense for the guy. He should say, if you don't want to be traditional then you better sign this prenup that says you don't get any traditional benefits from a divorce.

soe11 · Accepted Answer

The reason behind

The tradition of women changing their last names to match their husbands' has its origins in the property transfer that took place upon marriage, Scheuble said. Essentially, women went from being part of their parents' family to becoming their husbands' property. ... “It's turned over to normative tradition.”

Robbey · Answer

Most people have only had last names for the last few hundreds years, give or take. People have been getting married for thousands of years so for thousands of years women didn't/couldn't take their husband's names and it was fine.

Personally, I took my first husband's last name when we were married. When I remarried, I kept my first husband's last name and hyphenated it with my second husband's last name. Because it's important to me that I have the same last name as my children and I have children with both men.

edolphy · Answer

It is not as easy as agree or disagree. I would like to know the circumstance behind why they are not taking on the man's last name. Is she the only child and want to keep her family name going in the event they have a male child? How does the man feel about it?

CindyRuns · Answer

I've gone halfway.

Professionally, I use my maiden name... too much of a pain in the rear end to change things.

For the rest of my life, I went to CIndy <maiden_last_name> <husband's_last_name> sort of tossing my middle name I've had since birth !!!

AlienParasite · Answer

I'm Spaniard so it makes zero sense to delete my family name for my husband's family name. That tradition died in our country during the Middle Ages. Nobody has done it in centuries. Here the only ones who share last names are first cousin marriages.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

That’s up to the couple. If you want to be more traditional and have the woman take your last name, that’s fine. If you both want to keep your last names or combine them, that’s fine. Or hell, even if the man wants to change his last name to the woman’s, I don’t care.

silkjames · Answer

Yes make her last name her middle name there should be no debate I would be like wedding off actually it's over 😂🤣😂 that would be a annoying fight hey hun we can talk about it when I get back hold thought 😂🤣😂🤣 dip set dip set I would be off that lol BYE Felicia 😂🤣😂🤣

crmoore · Answer

I think it creates a feeling of unity, and I do hope my future wife takes my last name, but I wouldn't say she "should." People should do what they want, and quite frankly, if I was a woman, I wouldn't be super stoked about changing my last name, either.

Anonymous · Answer

Yess i used to always check a guys last name before talking to him when I was younger lolol like one guy had the name Hansson and then I would be Scarlet Hansson which sounds a bit like the knock off version of Scarlett Johansson so I wasn't about it.

chHaynes · Answer

For any female out there who doesn't believe and taking the guy's last name is a moron it's tradition and it also means you guys are in a relationship it committed 1 2 if you don't do that then that would mean that the guy is single and he can go about his business taking his last name is a symbol of commitment

najekim · Answer

We knew one couple who kept their last names after marriage. They had to many times provide copies of their marriage license since their ID's last names didn't match. Last we talked to them she was filling out the forms to get her last name changed to his to avoid the hassle.

RyzaStout · Answer

She should if she wants to, if she doesn't then they can come up with a solution together

Wade8888 · Answer

I prayed about this, and I felt God (Chaos) replied that neither side should take the other's last name. It solves nothing, and only complicates your paperwork and other records.

Massageman · Answer

Unless she needs something like a stage name, yes. Example - Les Paul and Mary Ford (they were married for a spell).

Titanic1912 · Answer

I recognize the girl in the first photo. That’s Raquel Welch, aka Fuzzy Britches! And yes, a girl should always take her husband’s last name. My girlfriend doesn’t want to take my last name when we get married.

DWornock · Answer

It is customary and in my case, I would prefer it. However, it is not a big enough deal that I would do more than express my opinion, somewhat strongly, but not enough to argue about. And, certainly it wouldn't be a deal maker/breaker.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Taking names mattered in the 1950s. It's not the 1950s, it no longer matters.

strawberrylipstick · Answer

I mean the pegging part of the last answer is great but- The real answer would be whatever feels right for the couple

chichi_01 · Answer

I don't want to change my pretty second name 😁 Option C made me laugh out loud thanks for that 😂😂

Apple1996 · Answer

Hard disagree. It's to much of a hassle to change a name. Plus I'd rather my identity not be stripped away from me.

Hangry22 · Answer

If he is willing to run around and change my name on all the certificates, i am ok with it. But i won't waste my time on it

mélancolie · Answer

pers i think most people should, it's kinda tradition. if you really don't want to change yours, i'd say at least add it

pigoat · Answer

I don't care if she does or doesn't and that's for the better  Do you not see all these women making a big deal out of nothing I don't need those problems

AFellowWeeb · Answer

Yes, cause she's THE MAN'S property. She belongs to THE PENISED ONE.

Mystic_Nova · Answer

That's up for the couple to decide. If he has brothers, then I def want him to take my name

Jayla2000 · Answer

If both agree to do so, then yes. If not then noppers.

dawsonnata · Answer

Who gives a crap.. I'll let you know if I ever get married

glock33sig357 · Answer

If you want me to marry you then there's no option but to take my surname, but if you don't like that arrangement then i don't ask/ bother me about the subject.

StarryCrossing · Answer

She doesn’t have to but I will because his last name is better.

WesBrewer · Answer

taking the last name isn't just a sign of union, it is also a sign of respect and understanding.

BlckGrl · Answer

It honestly depends if I feel it flows nice lol. Ill be willing to add his name but I was tild to never drop my last name

Wiredone · Answer

Most guys would like his new wife to take his last name but it's not mandatory. If she's a professional and her business has her last name i wouldn't expect her to take my name.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i wouldn't give a shit. i don't want to pay for a name change twice

ChrisMike1919 · Answer

Fully agree, I want people to know that she's all mine even tho idgaf about them.

the_imperfectionist · Answer

I agree or at least add it to her name if she doesn't want to lose hers.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

I'd like her to dont really think is a deal breaker tho

Gedaria · Answer

Why, she does not have to. Have a double barrel name, which both take both surnames..

RingOfFire · Answer

Take my name or keep yours. But if you use a hyphenated name it's an instant divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm of the opinion that we should go to a four name system. With your first, middle, maternal, and paternal names in that order. The man takes his wife's maternal name and the woman takes her husband's paternal name.

Twalli · Answer

Unless she has a degree or following with her maiden name. My mom kept her last name because she was already a MD before getting married

eileen_ruth · Answer

I'd take my wife's or husband's last name, why not. But like if they didn't want too whatever

Waldoe · Answer

who cares? not me, do as you like, there are real problems

Likes2drive · Answer

Usually yeah unless she is a doctor or a celebrity he can add his after

Billybob46 · Answer

No, what if they love their last name? I wouldn't wanna change mine, why would I demand she change hers?

Nigjt · Answer

A Wimen should always take the Man's last name. God Bless

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Absolutely! It's the best a guy is going to get after the perceived divorce :)

bclbn77006 · Answer

its her decision. but I think she should sticks to her native name.

Anonymous · Answer

YES, WHAY IS THE PURPOSE OF OWNING HER IF NO ONE ELSE KNOWS?

locutus9999 · Answer

i voted C... hahahaha, joking... why not everyone keep they're? I will totally offer that to my girl. I am proud of mine and bet she is with hers.

dragoblack · Answer

You can do either, or choose a marriage name you both agree on. Either way you both need to consent on a name before getting the marriage forms

loooooop · Answer

Don't care, it's just a name

Lιʅʅყ · Answer

If you feel like it, its traditional to do so but I'll personally do the middle name last name thing

MzAsh · Answer

Only if she wants to.

IveGotNoName · Answer

That is between the husband and the wife.

Barbaric · Answer

Yes. Any woman who doesn't is not all-in.

SphynxUK · Answer

I did. It’s personal choice though.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

If she wants. I wouldn’t.

Citizenkirk · Answer

I that is what she is wants too do, than why not?

JosyJosy · Answer

It's just a name to me, but sure why not

TallAnon · Answer

Disagree, it's just a name, who gives a fuck 😂

havingfun101 · Answer

'Don't you sass me, woman!'

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