Guys, Would you marry a housewife?

[Anonymous]

Yes if she was hot

Yes if she was nice

Not even if hot

[RationalMale]

No. My mom was a teacher and became a housewife with my dad, who made great money in IT. She hated it and would tell us how she gave up her career and wasted her life for us.

Ironically she went back to teaching last year and hated it and decided she wanted to retire.

[rievious]

That's some complicated emotion she got. How will she spend retirement?

[RationalMale]

@rievious she will resume her craigslist/fb market place gig of buying and reselling home goods. Which she ironically got very frustrated with a few years back and wanted to quit and have a regular job.

[rievious]

Would I jynx it if I said "I hope she finds one she likes"?

[RationalMale]

@rievious haha jynx away, I have no pity for a woman who wants a bunch of kids then gets to retire at 25 to be a stay at home mom with them.

[rievious]

she's 25! I thought she was in her 60s

[rievious]

Was that a miss type? Your 29 and you said she was your mom

[madgoat]

@rievious he's saying she stopped (commercially) working at 25 to have kids. If he's 29, that now makes her retirement age or thereabouts.
Very unfair to take her life decisions out on her kids.

[RationalMale]

@madgoat correct. She wanted a bunch of kids, retired to be a stay at home mom before 30, and is in her 60s now.

[yofuknutz]

For she definitely knows how feel a type of way how did your father put up with her

[Jersey2]

I think your mom forgot that work is work. She got used to a life of freedom do do what she wanted when she wanted.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your mother was like my mother, she had no business raising a family.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, if she was good with kids and wanted to have a lot of them

[Avicenna]

Thanks for the mhob

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Avicenna
Would you marry a housewife?
That means she would already be married.

[Avicenna]

@MysteriousDarkness: I'm obviously not going to marry a woman who's already married

[OlderAndWiser]

The word housewife, at least for me, implies a woman who stays home and takes care of the children and the home while her HUSBAND is at work.

[KrakenAttackin]

@OlderAndWiser. Yes the mother is the head of the house and the father is the head of the family.

[Iron_Man]

@KrakenAttackin That’s an interesting statement

[Iron_Man]

But who is head of the table? The tribal chief?

[ShortCircuit]

I would've said no for a long time, but recently I've started warming up to the idea, granted I make enough to allow for it. It'll be easy for me to work from home in my profession, so if my wife was also a housewife, that would make travelling extremely easy, and we'd be able to pretty much spend all day, every day together.

Buuut, in order for me to feel like she was contributing equally, she would have to be a damn good housewife. She'd have to do 100% of the cooking and cleaning, and actually take the time and effort to be excellent at both, and she'd also have to do all of the shopping and help with the clerical work.

[CallmeTheKnight]

It is 2021, women have as much opportunities as we men do when it comes to finding love, a job, a house, or a passion. I don't see a housewife in this day and age as something valuable because to me that's not only a mouth I have to feed but she's going to require an upkeep. Why would I take that away from a woman when she can provide it for herself when she is working? Let's be honest most women have worked plenty of jobs some have make and graduate college at a higher rate than men. I don't want a housewife, I want a life partner.

[CaliDad]

So, here's the rub... a "housewife" implies someone who chooses to not have a career. If her job is taking care of the home, the kids, and herself then that is valuable and a good partner. But most housewives I know - including the wife I left - would be fired if that was their actual job. Don't be lazy and you might make it work.

[Sensmind]

What she is should not be an issue but who she is - Feelings about her being a housewife can be dealt with during the getting to know each other stage - I don't think it would perturb me beyond the practical stuff , does she have kids or do we want kids - Can we afford for her to stay at home?

[CrypticViper]

Sure. If that's what she wants to do with her life it's fine with me. Taking care of kids single handily by myself, doing housework, and working a job is tough. To marry someone who's able to help out would be nice, considering if that's what she wants.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@crypticviper
Would you marry a housewife?
That means she would already be married.

[CrypticViper]

@MysteriousDarkness I figured OP meant someone who's a homemaker, but in that case, nope. I can marry someone who's already married.

[andreasderjuengere]

No - she IS already married :D
...
but seeing what you mean: from tradition I'm not against it. But from observation I personally find the housewives I know a little too... normal?

[rievious]

No. I don't want to work all day to support us all. Also I want to see the kids too. I know I couldn't if I worked all day to support the kids and a wife.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@rievious
Unless you would be gone before they wake up and get home after they go to bed how would working stop you from seeing your kids if you had any.

[rievious]

I wouldn't consider 2-3 hours a day as seeing my kids. If I'm at work for 8 hours a day plus the hour drive to and from work and my time asleep. 8+2+8 is 18, 24-18 leaves me 6 hours to speak to my kids, clean, shopping, other tasks could get in the way like car problems, furnace, health issues. Do you see what I mean? Plus I bet I'd need overtime at work to make ends meet. I'd like some free time to relax and listen to my kids. I don't want to be the Dad who has no time to spend with his kids bc he needs to pay bills.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@rievious
You do get days off from work don't you?

[rievious]

I'd get even more if my wife worked too

[WesBrewer]

I would prefer a housewife, and she doesn’t need to be hot, as long as she is pretty, but hot is always good thing so I won’t say no to it.

[Iron_Man]

Yes but when the kids old enough I expected her to work part time so she can find her self like purses and get her hair done so she can buy clothes and shoes for herself

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Iron_Man
Would you marry a housewife?
That means she would already be married.

[Iron_Man]

I will marry a single girl then if she wants to be a housewife that’s her decision but later on in life I expect her to work part time so she can help pay for her own clothes and shoes purses etc. and get her hair done whenever she needs it.