Guys, What is your idea of the perfect wedding?

[princeofromance]

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Good question, thank you for asking it!
I'd say that in my opinion, the perfect wedding for me is the one I had last Friday!
A little civil ceremony in Milan's town hall, some photos in plaza Gae Aulenti and then off for the celebrations in an out of town villa.
Very limited invitations, around 20 people.
She specified she didn't want for me to wear any tie so I went with a black abacost, while she wore a simple white sundress.
Everyone was happy and it was just a beautiful day - it rained a little towards the afternoon but it was alright!

[Massageman]

Sounds neat!

[DaveToo]

With the person, you plan to spend the rest of your life with. Or, in my case, her life with.

[DaveToo]

Thanks for the MHO!

[OlderAndWiser]

When I got married in 2011, I thought it was the prefect wedding. But we got divorced in 2015, so the wedding is just an event that does foretell the success of the marriage.

We got married at my church at 4 pm on a Saturday. I had selected all of the music and written and printed the bulletin myself. We had about 120 guests. I wore a morning coat

because I am a very traditional guy and my bride wore an ivory wedding gown that was very flattering for her. I had two ushers and a best man; she had two bridesmaids and a matron of honor, all dressed in royal blue gowns. The service was a traditional Lutheran marriage ceremony. I wrote a song for tenor solo, piano, choir, and oboe accompaniment and sang that to my bride during the ceremony. Our photographer was rather unobtrusive and that worked well for us.

A limousine took us to the reception art a historic building on the edge of the downtown district:

We had a live band for four hours and a catered dinner. We also had an open bar. My bride and I had our first dance before dinner, and it was a choreographed dance to "IOU" by Lee Greenwood. My bride and I danced a few songs after dinner but we spent most of our time going to each table and talking with our guests. We did not have a reception line as I think they are a waste of time.

We had a wedding cake, of course, but none of that smash-the-cake-into-her-face stuff that some young people think is so cute. That date was also my aunt's 75th birthday so we had a separate birthday cake for her. Almost everyone stayed the entire four hours and most people said it was the best wedding they had ever attended.

Ultimately, the marriage failed, but the wedding was an event to remember.

[exitseven]

You had a good handle on how to make a wedding. Too bad the result was not better. Singing a song you composed yourself was a nice touch. I could never pull off something like that.

[OlderAndWiser]

@exitseven I wrote the song and then I sang it to her every night for six months before the wedding, so that neither of us would get too emotional about it at the wedding. It worked for us, but all the other women in the church were crying!

[exitseven]

holy crap- I can imagine it.

[Anonymous]

For me as a man, the perfect wedding is no wedding at all. Marriage for men today is a perilous affair that doesn't return the same benefits it used to. In addition to the well-known problems men face in divorce, it is a sad fact that half of marriages end in divorce and the vast majority of them are filed by women.

The common perception is that women divorce men because they behave badly or cheat, but the facts show that is typically not the case. The highest divorce rate is in couples in their 20s, and women cheat more than men in that age group.

And equally important, if you compare divorce rates among heterosexual and same sex couples, married gay men divorce less often that heterosexual couples, and lesbian married couples divorce more often than heterosexual couples. Lesbian couples actually divorce at three times the rate of gay couples. So the common denominator in divorce is clearly women.

Marriage is dying a slow death because of these issues. I would expect marriage will disappear within the next generation is things don't change drastically. In the meantime, getting married is a very unwise choice for men.

[MrOracle]

No such thing!

I was a DJ for most of 35 years as a side business (and for some of those years as a primary business), and I've worked lots of weddings. I also spent most of one year doing wedding videography when I started my videography career (which lasted about 4 years). I've seen some nice weddings, and I've seen some absolute horror shows.

But I've also seen many of those weddings end in divorce - I've even had a couple of clients call me to tell me about them!

Anyway, weddings would be okay if marriage wasn't so broken, but since it is, I want nothing to do with a wedding for myself.

[Syrian_survivor]

I'm curious to know what those horror shows looked like haha

[MrOracle]

Vendors no-showing, brides who paid for 100 meals but invited 130 guests and can't understand why there isn't enough food, drunk relatives acting badly, etc. Maybe 1 in a dozen weddings ended up having some serious drama, and occasionally violence.

[perfectchaos]

This is going to be really stupid. I would want it at a park with friends and family. We would barbecue out there. My mother is actually licensed to marry people. So she would marry us. That it simple stupid because it doesn't matter what band or where it's out. What's important is two people coming together to make a promise that in the worst of time they will try to work through it as a team.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The perfect wedding to me is one that never happens. You see marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone. On the other hand the perfect wedding would happen after the prenuptial agreements & all your assets are protected.

[jamesgoldman]

Cigar bar
Brioni suit
Demi-sec champagne for toasting
A sit down meal
And the bit I have started on lucky 50% silver sixpences

[exitseven]

I wish we could have the wedding we wanted to have that everyone else was opposed to. My wife and I caved to keep the peace.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Just me and my Fiance having close relatives and maybe some close friends nothing too big cause I feel it takes money to have a big wedding

[MLGbreezy]

Wedding Ha I don't think I'll even be able to get a girlfriend marriage is definitely not in the relam of possiblity anytime soon if at all

[Anonymous]

1) Just the two of us in front of justice of the peace or appropriate government official.
2) Big party later (minimizes costs)

I figured this out after an overpriced wedding that ended in divorce rather quickly!

[clampfan101]

Anything with the perfect bride, but I do think beach weddings look particularly lovely and fun.

[CuriousMufuxka]

None. Well if the possibility of time travel was available.. Wait that might be worse!

[Enochian]

One in which my parents don’t attend

[JesseJayNeak]

A botanical garden