If you were previously married, do allow your former spouse to know about your personal/ love life?

[cth2188]

Seemingly my ex wants to include himself in my love life.. he doesn’t know I’ll will be traveling overseas next year..

I don’t feel obligated to tell him anything ( honestly thinks that we’re still married despite her remarried) we discuss the kids , when are boundaries a problem? He arrogantly said I’m not getting remarried.. lol help he’s crazy !

Updates

+1 y

Has any of you read the question excluding @Sixgunsound yes we have kids together , but I don’t feel my ex should be in my personal or love life

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't maintain contact with exes of any variety and they don't know a damned thing about what is happening in my life now. Maintaining contact with an ex would simply give my current girlfriend a legitimate reason to feel concerned/jealous.

[cth2188]

I have kids involved I just can't exclude my ex

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, that is the one exception to the rule about contact with exes.

[cth2188]

Yes I don't tell him about my personal love life however

[Adam1978]

No an ex is a ex for a reason they will have no news sent their way from me. They have to source that info from other people. Only exceptions would be if there is kids involved. They have a right to be a part of the new arrangement. Otherwise it's none of their business.

[cth2188]

Thank you! I wouldn't put my family in my business or ex

[DermalPunch]

Women should especially keep their past history on a need-to-know basis. Men are extremely judgmental on this front.

[cth2188]

I didn’t say anything about the new partner did you read the question

[DermalPunch]

Now I read it sorry. I mean why is anyting you do any of his business. If you get married then he can know. Otherwise he needs to you know...

[cth2188]

Even if I get married still none of his business

[cth2188]

Marriage business is off the table..

[DermalPunch]

What is it he wants to know? What do you mean by include himself? He wants threesomes?

[cth2188]

Its none of his business what goes on in my personal and love life. Anything pertaining to the kids sure...

[cth2188]

Who said anything about sex? Why are you mentioning that?

[DermalPunch]

Sorry.

[Friendlybro79]

Your update gives the answer to your question from the only person who can answer this for you and that is you. Don't worry about what we have to say. Live your life, love your life, and be a good person to others including yourself. Don't worry about anyone else's opinion.

[cth2188]

This is a question for previously married spouses who is dealing with over stepping boundaries by an ex

[Friendlybro79]

Got you. My answer would be basically the same for anyone in this situation. I misread your section slightly. My apologies

[cth2188]

Thanks

[Xtendable]

He shouldn’t be intruding. That is now your business (your former spouse is your ex for a reason). Also, he shouldn’t be making demands on how your current love life is progressing (unless it has a negative impact on your kids).

[cth2188]

Agreed I don't tell him anything about my love life

[Avicenna]

I’d tell this delusional ex nothing. It’s none of his business.

[cth2188]

Thanks

[driven159]

They are an ex for a reason if you don't have kids together then there is no reason to even talk to each other

[cth2188]

This is a question if you were previously married and dealing with a former spouse who over steps boundaries

[humanearth]

No way in H E double hockey sticks

[Sixgunsound]

Is he unsafe to you?

[cth2188]

Nope just over steps boundaries

[cth2188]

I don’t think he’s happy with his wife.. I left the marriage faithfully after he cheated ( seemingly I wasn’t enough )

[Sixgunsound]

Set some boundaries?

[cth2188]

I did ( I spoke with my lawyer he’s complicated with the kids - he’s a complicated man even his 2nd wife doesn’t understand

[cth2188]

She’s asks me about her husband

[cth2188]

Going to Ireland to his home town ( other property ) his family adores me and the kids

[Sixgunsound]

My wife’s family likes me at least as much as her lol.

[cth2188]

He will flip out.. but, but

[cth2188]

His family doesn’t like the 2nd wife

[cth2188]

Me and him aren’t getting back together..

[cth2188]

90% of Ireland vaccinated smh

[Sixgunsound]

Most of Europe is duicidally leftist. Even Germany is letting itself be invaded and colonized. Pfizer is from Germany.

[cth2188]

Yep I have to meet the in-laws I have no ideal way I’m waking in

[Maddux]

How old are you

[cth2188]

How old are you? Aren't you too old for GAG

[cth2188]

Young for GAG