Is it reasonable to leave if he isn’t proposing?

[cassidyadele]

It’s been 2.6 years.. and we have a baby together (not intentional). We have been living together for a solid 1.5 year (s). I found out he was proposing and he had MONTHS to plan, but he decided he wasn’t going to save for a ring. He then proceeds to tell me, as the date gets closer, he’s proposing with a ring pop but he will get the ring when he’s able to. I was upset because told him multiple times I don’t want anything expensive, I’d be the happiest with a $25 ring… but He insists he wants to get out of his own budget, so we are postponing the proposal. What I’m trying to ask is: am I wasting my time? I feel like he would’ve been more responsible if he really wanted it to happen.

[Anonymous]

maybe it's because you found out. or maybe it's because you are already living together. or maybe it's because you already have a child... nowhere have you said he doesn't want to propose... so just wait. some people wait 6 years... not sure what you're complaining about or what the rush is.

[LazerBean]

I would say he doesn't really want to marry you, but you probably should have figured that out way sooner. It's reasonable to leave, but honestly there's no great solution.

[Lycanthropic]

Well, you're stuck with him in some capacity whether you leave him or not because you had a baby with him. Also, you should talk less about the ring and be more firm about getting married. He might have trouble believing the ring doesn't matter.

[Gent207]

Just do a courthouse wedding and be done with it. Minuteman clearly has issues, so he's going to be in your life regardless

[Guy13]

It sounds like you are Parents whether married or not. It seems like you’re trapped. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[jahaims]

The fact that this is a deal breaker for you means you shouldn't be together. Marriage is just a legality. It sounds like you want to get married for the wrong reasons.

[Anonymous]

What other options you have?
You already living with him
You born his child...

Than what left for marriage?