Why does it seem like moms are more likely to go crazy ?

[xJayleenx]

It concerns me seeing my mom and my bf’s mom going crazy. It makes me a bit scared of the future. Could it be because of the husbands that they choose to marry? I think that’s my mom’s case but that’s definitely not my bf’s mom case it seems like she is losing her mind maybe due to her age (66)? I’m just worried.

[VIVANT]

More pressure to do things that go unacknowledged and non compensated. Even a person in a shitty job where you get paid will feel like sone small semblance of affirmation… Moms get a lot of garbage dumped on them and very little if ever genuine affirmation. They may get silly condescending words of appreciation but more often they get insulted mad hardness…even a dumb job you get paid and people know why you are responsible for and when you clock out you clock out. Most of the stuff moms do goes completely over the heads pf those around them and it never ends.. I imagine most moms (and dads who predominantly raise kids) feel like exhausted ghosts.

I know your mom gives you a super hard time. I think she treats you the way she feels she is treated.

be carful if you have kids. Make sure ok you both know all that goes into raising kids and that the tasks are going to be divided up fairly and that your partner genuinely respects you. I think a lot of moms or primary carer dads would be less likely to go I sane if powering was recognized as a full time and important career band compensated. We may ask then not have millions of psycho asshats running weird bc their parents were feeling too beat up and sorry for themselves to provide decent nurturing and wisdom. Parents feel unappreciated and unimportant and exhausted & the kids suffer.

[VIVANT]

Parenting not powering

Harangued not mad hardness 😂

[VIVANT]

😳

Wow.. sone of these answers kind of making my point for me 😬

Raise your kids to RESPECT parenting.

[VIVANT]

some*

[xJayleenx]

To be honest. I don’t know if I want kids anymore. If I decide to have kids I’ll wait until I’m 30. I was an accident and my mom had me wayy too young at only 23.

[xJayleenx]

I think I’m afraid of being a parent now because I’m noticing that every mom around me has gone crazy.

[VIVANT]

Understood I feel the same and yup I’m not doing it. Nope nope nope

I plan to be supportive of children around me, helping out in community volunteering etc, but I’m not having kids.

[xJayleenx]

I understand

[Anonymous]

It's important to note that mental health issues can affect anyone regardless of their gender, age, or marital status. While it's true that some individuals may experience mental health challenges as a result of stressors in their lives, such as relationship issues or other stressors, there are many factors that can contribute to mental health issues.

In the case of your mother and your boyfriend's mother, it's important to remember that every individual's experience is unique, and that there may be a variety of factors at play. It's possible that stressors related to their marriages or other life events could be contributing to mental health issues, but it's also possible that other factors, such as genetics or life experiences, could be playing a role.

If you are concerned about your own mental health or the mental health of a loved one, it's important to seek support from a mental health professional. They can help you identify potential causes of mental health issues and develop a plan for treatment and recovery. Remember that mental health issues are treatable, and seeking help is a sign of strength and resilience.

[ZackBan]

It's a matter of perception. Probably neither is clinically insane (I hope) but what makes them feel crazier than dads is the very primal feminin instinct of leading by emotions as opposed to logic.

And emotions are often influenced by hormones which at that age become very different in people.

Men have hormones too and that impacts their mood however men are generally more capable of putting their emotions in the back seat and making decisions based on facts which seems more reasonable but isn't necessarily so.

Regardless it's no excuse for anyone to act crazy especially towards family and if a person can't manage that on their own it's time to seek professional counseling.
I don't usually recommend therapy as a one size fits all solution but it's definitely a very valuable option to consider

[xJayleenx]

I don’t agree with this men seem to forget that anger is an emotion too and most men react in anger instead of sadness.

[xJayleenx]

I usually agree with everything that you say though

[VIVANT]

Lol yeah I did a double take here. I thought I’d been transported to the manosphere to be red pilled, for a moment 👀 👀

Disclaimer, generally I’m 99% zack fan 😛

It’s interesting too bc you didn’t ask about women but about moms. This isn’t women vs men. Obviously being a mom is not simply being a woman.

And of course I do think people forget anger pride petulance selfishness dodging accountability hubris — this is all negative emotionally charged behavior.

Honestly tho having been around so many people in crisis, at the point someone is really up against it, I see no difference. I think women are ground down way more in relationships than men, but when things are equal, I don’t recognize a real divide in the stress expression. I think it’s more to do w/ how usually women and men are not put under the same kinds of stressors and pressures and of course women have fewer outlets bc if a woman is angry and yells she’s “psycho” , whereas a guy is more likely to he seen as “taking control”. (Well not in my opinion but generally 😂 )

[ZackBan]

It's true that we rarely if ever disagree 😁

And for the record I am NOT advocating for the red pill, not now not ever.

My take is built around my own understanding of evolution theory which I know few people like to hear about.

It is by no mean an insult towards "mothers" nor a statement that being "logical" is better than being "emotional" as that's not proven either.

But you did ask a question that generalized all mothers as likely to go crazy which does force me to adresse the controversial topic with more controversy 😅

[xJayleenx]

Lol no worries you’re good 😂

[Aakash_Hangargi]

My suggestion would be don't compare , let's life take its course don't try to control too much.

People who tend to control everything are the ones that end up crazy or perceived as such and resulting in loosing the control.

If it happens it happens try not think of what would happen don't worry about permutations and combinations of future predictment of possible ways that you can choose from.

Just do it and keep trying to better yourself learning and growing eventually you will learn to handle things on your own instinct and a little bit of support.

All is well

[AMS700CX4u2]

It could be due to age, Hormonal changes affect women in different ways. Also becoming overwhelmed with housekeeping and childcare task is a lot of pressure which can be tolerated by a supportive husband and a steady supply of romance and sex. I think that the feeling of abandonment while immersed in family responsibility is the cause.

[Likes2drive]

Well, 66 isn’t really that old to lose your mind I think it has to do with having to deal with kids all her life which is very stressful

[xJayleenx]

She had 6 kids and two still live with her

[xJayleenx]

3 actually

[Likes2drive]

Yeah, no wonder she is going crazy

[xJayleenx]

And she recently lost her job due to her not remembering things but she was a nurse for over twenty years

[Likes2drive]

Well, she’s at retirement age anyway , hopefully the memory loss is a very slow thing with her

[TallAnon]

Crazy isn't a very scientific term, so I can't give you a hypothesis.
It's usually due to the culture.

[xJayleenx]

Culture how? I’ve seen this happen in two very different cultures.

[TallAnon]

If people are given responsibility and trust, they often rise to that expectation. If you leave them to do nothing, they'll get bored and do crazy shit.
Does your mother work?

[xJayleenx]

She hasn’t worked for like 13 years now but his mother worked as a nurse until almost a year ago

[TallAnon]

So both are now bored, adds up

[Still-alive]

Would you say she's superstitious? a very religious person?

[xJayleenx]

My bf’s mom watches the news like a lot but she is now always paranoid of people taking her money and cursed her other son and duaghter in law it was crazy that day.

[xJayleenx]

I think maybe his famiky is more religious than mine in mine my mom’s the only one that went to church and she stopped

[xJayleenx]

She wouldn’t stop yelling and screaming at them and her memory is failing

[Still-alive]

well some moms can be more prone to irrational thoughts i guess. they don't use their critical thinking skills as much as dads might. thats kinda like a muscle you really gotta work on so you get better at it.

[Luffy1990]

Life can be really stressful at times and that is usually how people vent

[AmeerX]

Stress of life is enough to destroy the body of the people. May God have mercy on us 🙏.

[Jamie05rhs]

Probably from relationship trauma.

[Guardian45]

Because they worry about their problem children