Let's say the person has to care for a child, whether legitimate or not, and expects the other potential spouse to automatically act like their biological parent and legally claim the child as their own. Even if they (potential would be spouse) say they don't expect this, the potential spouse (one considering marriage to the spouse with child) does not want to marry because they don't want the situation to end up lopsided wherein the non-biological parent is tasked to care for this 'other child' they never planned, nor asked, for. Personally, I think it's an unfair situation for a potential spouse, so I would think staying friends and possibly marry later or else find a different spouse who doesn't have baggage of an illegitimate or ex marriage child.
Girls, Would you wait until a man's kids are adults and for them to have cared for their child till adulthood before marrying them?
What Girls Said
I don’t have any problem being a mother to somebody’s kids but the kids might have a problem with me. I would only move in if the kids are okay with it.
If you're dating a father, you cannot pretend he has no children - not even when they're grown.
If you can't accept that, don't date a father. Period.
I’m cool with it as long as it is only one kid and that kid isn’t a newborn and has already been pottytrained