Why do interracial marriages have higher failure rates than normal marriages?

Question

The divorce rates are usually higher. Why do you think that is? Culture differences? I’m asking for myself to see if it’s a good risk to take. If you see the statistics and chances are better within your own ethnicity then why would you marry outside anyway?

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

My theory is that an interracial marriage is sometimes tied with the "othering" variable in attraction, where people pick partners because of their difference from those in their community and not because of their actual or objective value to the relationship or to them. Another possibility could be that people are more likely to choose their racial other if they are unhappy with the relationships in their biological family and somebody with problematic family ties is less likely to bond to others in adult life in a healthy way because it's very hard to bond when you've been stunted in your developmental phase, and it requires more effort to be ethical if you weren't given ethical models to show you the way.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly from what I've seen of interacial marraiges it's usually white girls mad at their dad or want validation for having a non-white boyfriend.

kylee2437 · Answer

Cultural differences as familys in conservative cultures often do not accept interracial marriages

sheikalana · Answer

Really? Where do the statistics come from? I was born from an interracial relationship and my parents are still together for over 30 years. I'm in an interracial relationship and me and my husband are locked in forever.

Sometimes people in interracial relationships are not ready to deal with cultural differences or are not aware of the differences and when confronted with the truth can be a huge shock for them. This is something people need to discuss before getting married. Other important topic I believe it needs to be discussed is where you both want to leave short term, long term and in the future Being in a interracial relationship means that one or even both partners are from a different country than the one they currently live in. In case you and your partner decide to move to a certain country there are many things that need to be discussed like what kind of jobs can you take at x, y, z country in case you don't find a job what do you plan to do etc etc etc. All these things and many more if are not discussed in advance play a huge role of the future of your relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

It's common sense. It's not because of race. Race has literally nothing to do with it. Stop saying interracial. That isn't the problem. The problem is culture. Culture is paradigm or conditioning. Culture is a set of beliefs, habits, ways go thinking and doing.

If you want your relationship to last you both have to be on the same page. If you are not then you have to learn how to alter your beliefs and conditioning. Most people don't know how to do that. Maybe 1% of humans know how to do that and are consistently upgrading their conditioning to achieve bigger and bigger goals. If you don't know that info you cannot achieve goals bigger than your current self. That is fact. You'd have to marry someone just like you in conditioning to give it the best chance at lasting because you dont know how to change yourself.

So why do they fail? Cultural difference which has nothing to do with race. If 2 people of the same culture but difference race got to together it would cloud the race stats.

This isn't rocket science people. That is how goals are achieved. You have to change in the inside. You have to change your conditioning and beliefs to match the goal. You have to become the people who would rightly succeed. It's that simple. That is also how to law of attraction works. It works based on deep rooted conditioning not what you think.

@captain-obvious if u want to succeed learn how to alter conditioning or just date someone who is just like you and that has NOTHING to do with race. Someone of a different race can be just like you. Perhaps it is more likely that the same race and same country will provide you with that person but I dont think white and black people in America are all that different. Other races however can be.

BadApple69 · Answer

I am married to an Asian girl and yes cultural differences can cause issues. If you can talk through these differences you’ll be ok. But communications isn’t most people’s strong suit.
As a simple example. I grew up where Christmas Day was spent with family at home with ham or turkey dinner the exchanging of gifts… Christmas music on the tv. Our first Christmas without telling me she bought tickets to a movie mid day for us and her friends because the movie theater wouldn’t be crowded. She said we can eat the ham later. To her this wasn’t a big deal to me this was horrifying (yes I over reacted). This is just one example but with good communications this type of thing can be avoided.

provokeesmokee · Answer

For me, I refuse to date a cishet white man - and am hesitant dating white people in general - because it's a lack of shared experience.

The sheer amount of explaining everything from why some people sound different, to why an Indian coworker being away for a week long wedding is normal, to having to accomodate for usually very bland tastebuds.

It's overall exhausting for BIPOCs dating most whites. Some white people are worldly and have spent time, effort, and money to understand global cultures. Those people I can befriend.

But I have had enough of exhausting partners. It's not worth it.

I yearn to date someone who doesn't need me to teach them, to explain the world to them. I want to date someone who shares a deep love and appreciation for other culture and who doesn't just watch anime and claim they know Japanese culture. Or someone whose textbook from the 90s was the extent of their cultural education.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

As we grow up we become cultured. There are certain rituals, traditions and expectations we learn and they become subconscious.

When you mix cultures and you unwittingly hang onto these traditions because you never seriously questioned them it causes problems.

Like an Arabic person inturrupting an American. The Arabic person is used to inturrupting as a careful tool in conversation. It's acceptable to him, the American, will almost certainly take offence.

In some cultures it's kids are raised differently, love is communicated differently, the responsibilities and expectations of men and woman are different, now throw on top of that that every culture is changing slowly as people adopt to new social norms. Many ideas of today have only really been popular for about 20 years... Sometimes less.

It's a wonder anyone gets along at all rn

katiesmuff · Answer

That little four lettered word (LOVE) so often misused might be a reason to take the chance and have a successful interracial marriage. Mine has been almost 12 years now, three kids and we are as happy today as the days before we married but were together. Yes you need to be aware and prepared for some cultural differences and the fortitude to overcome them.

inhua · Answer

interracial marriages between white men and non-white women do far better than interracial marriages between white women and non-white men

despite western society's "Eurocentric" beauty standards, seems like white men can still make good logical choices in choosing a partner whereas white women are making bad emotional choices in choosing a partner often preferring the "toxic masculinity" over the most traditional gentlemen

electromagnetic · Answer

We didn’t get married but my partner was a different race then myself completely. And although we broke up not based on anything race relations, there were a lot of noticeable differences. We dated for years and we both sorta said the differences were because we grew up in different household dynamics but looking at it now, some moments were extremely cringe.

ariadneR · Answer

First of all how are interracial marriages not normal marriages?

In my opinion marriages fail because of lack of communication. Partners don't talk about what they're going through, their stresses, their joys, their problems. There is no communication.

All relationships take work, it's not something that "I've mastered it, I don't have to work on it"

Divorce rates have nothing to do with the colour of skin

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I chuckled when I saw... ''normal marriages'' :)

I'd say that one or both partners in mixed marriages fail (sometimes) because they aren't mature/aware/interested/informed enough when they make their choice.

I believe to notice that in such cases at least one partner projects his/her/its/whatever phantasies on the partner, instead of just looking at realities?

Anonymous · Answer

I have no idea actually, unless one or the other is fetishizing the skin color of their partner or something.

Here is a fun one, the divorce rates and abuse rates are 4 times higher in lesbian couples than it is among straight couples, and higher still than gay couples.. This is a very telling Stat..

Does it say who initiates the divorce more among interracial couples? The man or the woman?

RoseySarah · Answer

Cause they get tired of the culture and the other families do all they can to grind on her nerves! Like let me be me but they won't cause they force Thier culture on everything!

cth2188 · Answer

BW / WM have the highest success rate when it comes to IR dating - I'm a BW whose been married to a non BM and about to get married again. It could be cultural or external factors like infidelity.

Billlewis · Answer

I think there are a lot of reasons why they seldom last very long, cultural differences chief among them.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Maybe they feel they NEED to make it work to prove a point and you can't base a long-lasting loving relationship on that!

Sasha0426 · Answer

Interracial marriages are normal marriages. I don’t know what you’re trying to imply here.

Anonymous · Answer

Who the fuck keeps stats on race in marriages and divorces? Any such stat is bogus.

Anonymous · Answer

Normal people don’t check statistics to find out if they love someone. Call me old fashioned.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Why r people prejudice, and still date outside their race?

monghjay2 · Answer

relationships are fake lol no point in dating

LiamJHayden · Answer

Probably outside pressure.

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