Why do men get so angry with women for screening men based on money/job security, when men screen women for appearance (something they can't improve)?

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I mean isn't men's screening technique the more ruthless one in reality? Because at least men can do something to change their income situation. Women on the other hand, cannot change the appearance they were born with. Sure, they can wear makeup, but on some women, makeup just makes them look like drag queens. So honestly guys. The next time you complain that a girl doesn't want you due to your income situation, ask yourself if it's karma coming back to haunt you. Now I'm not saying that ugly women would be more accepting of your income situation than an attractive woman, but that's probably no different than the way you wouldn't start preferring ugly women just because you're poor.

Unit1 · Accepted Answer

It's fine having some standards when choosing your mate. You don't want to be with someone to live under a bridge or in a roach infested room, that was inhabited by drug addicts and alcoholics and losers while all he does is flipping memes, prestiging on Call of Duty or Fortnite and wasting his time on youtube or whatever.

Each man draws his line (if at all) when it comes to finances or feeling like being your primary wallet. Some men literally marry gold diggers and some men screen them out by splitting the bill or going dutch on first dates or going on free dates. I don't see a point getting angry about it. If a man was foolish enough to be used for a free meal and gets angry about it, then that's on him for enabling it and he deserves it. It's that simple. There is a reason we all have a front door for our homes.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Our #1 screen is do we get hard over you? You are good to go if we do. We aren't as picky as what you are suggesting in appearance. We are more picky in the type of woman you are - that is far more go/nogo than appearance.

Height is a characteristic that is unchangeable and one in which women seem to be picky about currently. Quite obviously it is not going to work if all women want a man in the upper 10%tile of height. But that is your choice to make.

RoseySarah · Answer

Really guys get mad about anything and they are free to scream about it be nasty and a key board warrior 4 life.

Great question!

No man paid me much attention cause my sister was the prettiest girl in school.

Took my amazing husband to even say I was pretty 😍. I'm so not ugly but just my sister getting all the looks now older losing that attention quickly.

It's so shallow and all guys care about online or off line.

At least here in judged on my advice and things I do.

Really guys get but hurt about jobs cause they are happy where they are or feel they can never do better. Just go down hill and most just wanna be lazy!

Especially my race 😅

Avicenna · Answer

LOL, women screen men for looks just as much as men do women if not more. Men get screened by women for much more and much more throughly.

blueonblack22 · Answer

“Because at least men can do something to change their income situation. Women on the other hand, cannot change the appearance they were born with”

Yes that’s true above but here are a few different ways to look into that:

Women who are born attractive did nothing to earn it they just got lucky. Other then staying in and taking care of their bodies (which everybody should do regardless) they did nothing to earn this incredible privilege. They will never realize how lucky they are until their looks are one day gone.
Men get judged on looks as well. Not to the extent women are but still an unattractive man will often get labeled “a creep” just for saying hello to a woman. How often do men label unattractive women “creeps” for saying hello to them? A good looking man is given a ton more leeway to be flirty (and often aggressive/inappropriate) and not get judged for it. This can directly impact a man’s self esteem and confidence one way or another.
We are supposed to live in a “gender equal” society in the west. Women now have more opportunities in education and career advancement then any time in human history. This has been pushed so far that often under qualified women get preferential treatment in promotions over men. But despite all this many women are still looking to be financially supported by men. Why? Seriously why? Is it just because you have a vagina entitles you to money
Yes men can change their income situation but so can women. The so called “wage gap” exists because most men no damn well that nobody is going to bail them out financially. We work harder and hustle more because we have to. We don’t get “paid more because we have penises” (fuck you on that one feminists. Really). No. It’s been on men for all of human history to provide so we do what it takes to do so.

Equality means EQUALITY ladies. You can not nor should not have higher expectations for the man you date when it comes to career/financial expectations then you have for yourself.

Now if you want to date a sugar daddy 20 years your senior then fine. But you are not entitled to “respect” in that scenario. You are no better than a prostitute in that arrangement. You shouldn’t be looked at any differently. So quit putting lipstick on a pig.

Anyway I truly believe women are struggling to overcome all of this due to evolutionary issues. There was a time in history where women had to look to men to provide and protect them. So at a subconscious level they are still looking for this even when it’s unrealistic and unfair in the modern world. You can’t undo thousands of years of evolution in just a few decades.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women's "requirements" as seen in countless street interviews are ridiculous. Women seem to expect a six figure income before they'll even consider a second date but if they guy has the "audacity" to require she bring more than her presence in his life to the table he's "unreasonable".

A high value man wants a high value woman. Simple as that. And honey, spending time doing your hair to grace him with your presence is of zero value!

I'm 51 and married, but suppose for a moment something happened to my wife and now I'm looking for a new partner.

I own my home. No mortgage on it and minimal debt. My car may not be too flashy, but I don't owe anything on it. I have my own business I'm just starting up after 20 years in an unrelated field. I'm not rich, but I can provide for my son and I've got enough to be able to be a single income household if I were to remarry.

Now suppose I meet two girls 15 years younger than me. One is vacuousness personified. Immaculate hair, nails, thousand dollar shoes and a minidress on a figure that says "fuck me". She lives off what daddy either left her or gives her.

The other girl is attractive as well. Pretty features but no heavy makeup. She clearly dressed "up" for the date but she wouldn't spend a thousand dollars on any item of clothing. If she was wearing the first girl's outfit her figure would be saying "fuck me", but what she's offering is a partnership of equals.

For me, I'd probably not stay for dinner with the first girl. And she wouldn't spend enough time talking and listening to find out I'm an amputee.

Men - mostly - are sick of going into a relationship where there's an 80% chance she's going to leave the second there's an issue to overcome. We're not angry. We just don't have time for the entitled behaviour of some preening bimbo who thinks a day's work means shopping. Probably for shoes.

TLconcentration · Answer

Good becomes great. Bad becomes worse.

What is a good women and why is it important? A good women is femenine and is someone that cooks for a man, massages him, opens the door for him, pulls the seat for him, grabs the ketchup for him, massages him afetr work. Does whatever she can to please and make sure her man is happy. this does not inclue anything sexual. Most girls are dating tyrants, pervs and coomers now and think pleasing a man = A BJ/FJ which is incorrect.

What does being a good women do? It makes men be more masculine. A more masculine man is full of love, joy, strength power, energy etc. By doing so. he ends up leveling to 10X his income or will be barely at home because you gave him that energy. he will work for you and make a lot of money/ security.

What does being a bad women do? bad women = toxic masculinity and femeninity. it creates tyrants, pervs and coomers and destroys masculine good men. the number of masculine men decreaseas they go into hiding to protect themselves. tyrants are now the majority and braiwnash women to think twerking = hot and whatever is shown is porn makes a man happy. Women will start to hate men becomes of this and not tyrants putting good men and tyrants in the same box. You think tyrants care about their income? All they care about is living a fake blissful life imitating pornography while having women work for them in the office and bedroom.

Grab her head and bang her from behind while choking ehr is real while having low income or high = real.
Kissing making eye contact in a slow passionate delicate manner preventing vulva damage with YOU powering him up to make high salary = fake.

Women are brainwashed. its so simple. Stop listening to the world and its lies. stop sleeping around with tyrants. find a good man. dO ALL YOU CAN TO PLEASE HIM ( NOT SEXUALLY) and watch him power up 10X and make millions.

A good masculine man does not exist if there is no femenine good women. Therefore you ( women) will not have money, security etc. masculinity only exists if women are natural, femenine and not brainwashed by the sisterhood/ society/ media etc.

Right now its every masculine man powers up himself without the women and lives his kings life of 0 COMMITMENT. he makes his money and travels the world being in REAL LOVIGN RELATIONSHIPS WITH multiple WOMEN. So incorrect good men are making money and are using it spiritually connecting themselves to higher consciousness/ god and having real relationship with women who are femenien and please him.1 day a women that pleases him the most will end up with the wedding ring because she's real and she will beenfit 10X by power him up. She will enjoy the money and security.

The wrong way to do it is, " i am a boss botch queen bade and i need no man because tyrants have braiwnashed and missled me. I feel devalued and hate men. I will now work for myself and 10X myself. My dear. Thats what the tyrants want you to do. Use your energy to serve them in the office in the ebdroom. you are falling into their trap.

Anonymous · Answer

If I look better than them and they say I don't meet their earning requirements, they're not worth a thing. I value people for their person-hood, not their utility; too many women have subscribed to the idea that men are nothing but a wallet and a toy to throw away when they get bored with it - and these women have nothing of value to give back besides fleeting looks; so there's no point wasting time on them when you could be finding someone with a Good Character and Actual Personality.

I'm the natural blonde. I'm the lean one. I'm the tall one. I'm the broad shouldered one. I'm the one with the low body count. I'm the one with morals and sense of duty.

If the only thing they bring is the bare minimum of exercise and an artificially maintained appearance, what reason would I have to interact with them outside of the bedroom, if their personality is non existent, entitled and/or narcissistic? The answer is not only evident, it's exactly what women complain about, "Why won't he stay?"

I do what all respectable men should. Laugh at them internally while the box they made for themselves gets smaller and smaller until it crushes them with age. Let the walls of requirements you built to exclude decent men come back to haunt you, it's only karma.

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Wokay, deep question. I can see both sides for sure. On one hand, guys want a girl to like them for who they are, not just their money. And looks-wise, it is what it is, so that's kinda shallow too. But at the same time, money and stability is important when you wanna start a family or whatever.

I don't know, the whole thing seems pretty messed up. Ideal is to find someone you really connect with on a deeper level. But we're all human - guys care about looks, girls care about security. Maybe the key is just being honest with each other upfront instead of playing games or getting mad. And also, gotta work on bettering yourself too if you can. Hit the gym, get your career goin.

At the end of the day though, all that shallow stuff don't mean squat compared to really liking someone for who they are, flaws and all. That's the kind of love that lasts, you know? If the chemistry is there, you make it work. My two cents anyway!

aceleon · Answer

looks belongs to the person itself we want you because of YOUR LOOKS

in case of money it is NOT US YOU WANT İT İS THE MONEY.

also if we have to have a high income to have a chance of getting a woman no self respecting man would go to that path. we want to be seen as a man not a bank account or credit card.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I don’t know that I’ve seen this but some people (men and women equally) can sometimes handle rejection poorly.

Truth is, I disagree with the premise of this question on its claim: everybody can improve. A man can improve his economic position, education, fitness, career prospects, housing, style, and grow as a person both mentally & emotionally.

A woman can equally chose to pursue fitness, develop her style and look, and work to be more desirable to a broader swath of the male population, if finding a good man is her goal.

I think, if you’re doing it right, there is a constant self-assessing process going on where you (should) be applying the lessons learned and pushing yourself to be a little better than the previous you.

People will always pursue the best they can get in life. Male or female - it’s almost universal.

ManOnFire · Answer

Women can't change their appearance? How we all look is going to be how we all look by nature of course, but some things can very much be improved with medicine, diet, and exercise. And I'm not even talking about body weight, but things like acne, double chin, improving eye bags, etc.

Most women care about guys' money not even for important things but wanting a man like that to make herself look good or who will take her on lavish trips that she can post on social media. If women really cared about a man's income as an important part of her life and having a family with a stable man then you wouldn't have women who are actually turning those guys down because they want to have sex with guys they can drive around and aren't employed.

HawkPerception · Answer

Sorry excuse me? Physical attraction IS something you can improve. You can workout and change the shape of your body, which also removes the fat from your face. You can tell if a girl is fit just by looking at her face. And it's way easier to workout than it is to be financially successful. And women don't just judge men based on financial capability. It's ridiculous what women's standards are nowadays. A guy has to be the whole package. I understand why so many men have taken themselves off the dating market. Women are way too egotistical due to social media and dating apps inflating their egos. They put nothing on the table nowadays.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know. I find people who get upset over anyone else's preferences to be the worst kind of hypocritical moron. Like, I literally don't even get upset if a girl isn't interested in dating me because of my race. If that's the case then we're not a good match. PERIOD. I'd rather she retain the right (which she ABSOLUTELY has) to reject me based on nothing more than my race (or my height, or my wealth, or whatever) and also retain MY right to reject any girl for any reason whatsoever, than to have a situation where there were some "limits" placed on her ability to reject me but where I ALSO had to be limited in my ability to reject.

Why there are people who don't see the logic in this, I don't get.

molonski2 · Answer

Well they certainly can improve appearances , health , fitness , diet , exercise , presentation , being the correct weight , and by correct I mean genuine correct.

As for wanting men to have good prospects , good job , understand financials , be achievers , I dont have any problem at all with that.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I honestly can't say. Maybe they're worried about gold diggers or getting taken advantage of financially? That's my only guess. But financial wise, I only care about if they have enough money to pay their bills, eat good food, be hygienic, etc. But that's because I'd want my partner to be able to take care of themselves. And in order to do that, you need a good amount of money from a good job. That's more important than spending it on me (my parents take care of me).

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't screen for looks, I don't get screened for bank accounts...

never been in this kind of superficial relationships myself...

now... appearance can indeed be improved and sometimes dramatically, but that goes the same for both men and women

Anonymous · Answer

exactly!!! men call women gold diggers for wanting a rich man. YET, these are the very same shallow ass guys who only want women 20 years younger. The very same guys who criticize women for being overweight are the very same guys who hate on women for wanting tall men.

fact is... men are more likely to be sociopaths / evil than women. This is why they start wars and bully women.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Well, because some women take it way too far.. And they want the 10%+ of top income earners.. But that's mainly online.. Most men and women are reasonable and just want somebody to be a companion to them.. Most men aren't looking for super models but just a cute girl that can call their own.. Most women aren't looking for rich guys, but enough to at least show the a guy is independent and stable.

Fireguy17 · Answer

because they don't meet those specifications?
I went out of my way not to show what I had, I used my older pickup truck on dates, got to know them well before bringing them home if I was really interested in them.
others if it was just a hook up it really didn't matter what they thought.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some men are single for a reason. They are so delusional. Just read some comments on here for an example.

Amiapowerlessman · Answer

If I get mad I usually get upset at myself if I can’t meet a woman’s standards when it comes to finances, I make about 70k a year but sometimes that’s not enough from what I’ve been told and it’s ok it’s my fault for not applying myself to do better

grega239 · Answer

Because contrary to popular belief, men want to be loved for who they are not just what they can do.

Take me for example. Im not wealthy but my case is a good analogy.

I hate it when women ask me for help or favors. And the reason why this pisses me off is because thats the only time i get any kind of attention from women.

Its kind of dehumanizing if the oppoaite sey only sees you as an atm or a utility servise.

Pohjolan · Answer

Firstly its objectifying and secondly a man's wealth is not a part of him.

However those who don't want to date gold diggers should just be glad that they expose themselves.

Moreover the majority of American women could improve their looks by just not being fat.

Also sport is a thing as are dermatologists, etc.

Makeup doesn't change a woman's actual looks.

Squats do.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I can control my career trajectory, sure. She can control her BMI before it gets higher than her age, too. Whether we do it or not is another story. I can't control height. She can't control her facial features.

trellbrown84 · Answer

I hate influencers. Id rather see them lining these type of narcissist up against a wall and dispatching them. I don't give a fuck whether they're malle or female.

You influence the world into absolute bullshit you deserve nothing more than death.

JacobJordan · Answer

I don't particularly care if women screen me because once they do and find out I have a lot of money I already know they are trash women. My wife didn't know I had money she assumed I didn't and when I told her she didn't care.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I think because so many women have arbitrary factors in their screening. When firms talk about absurd "icks", it is irritating. Having said that, women have an abundance mindset and most men don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Women inflate their looks way more by makeup. Money making is not as easy as you think otherwise everyone would be rich. Even ugly girls have tons of followers nowadays and hook up with several men. How many women will date a poor or ugly guy?

However there's no reason to be angry, it's what it is.

Darklydarkened · Answer

Because its in their own interest. Besides, men don't screen women just by appearence. That's a lie

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

Guys have less expectations for women — loyal, kind, can think, religion plays a role for me, did she pursue higher education. I don’t care if she can’t cook. That’s pretty much it.

Radiate143 · Answer

What do you mean women can't improve their looks? It's fae easoer to improve your looks than your job so...

exitseven · Answer

Women can make themselves look better. Wear different clothes, get a different haircut, get in shape all things that will help

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

because one thing is basically women just checking if they have a good chance to gold dig / rip off, the other is just guys checking if he is even attractive to him physically

slatyb · Answer

"Men?" You mean "men who feel entitled to a woman of their choice"

Anonymous · Answer

Because men are more inferior than women, and you're expecting us to make more money than you when you are superior.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't get angry about being excludedf by a girl's preferences. I am happy when she is honest about it so I don't waste my time.

blondfrog · Answer

Life is not logical and fair for that matter. That goes for men too. Men are just as irrational as women in their own way.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women are attractive by default as long as they take basic care of themselves. It really doesn't take much for a woman to be attractive.

I don't blame women for not wanting a bum, but this is silly.

HouseMoat · Answer

Actually with plastic surgery, you can, just depends on how well the plastic surgery goes, and if you can afford it

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Some feel it’s unfair if they have a min wage job that the girls want a guy making a higher income.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't date a broke guy and I'm pretty.

glennos89 · Answer

Sounds like a gold digger question to me tbh 😅

RedInnocent68 · Answer

I don’t. 😉

Anonymous · Answer

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