Guys, Should the husband or boyfried be a lot more older then the wife or girlfriend?

[Alwayreckles93]

I recently married my wonderful husband which we happen to have a 17 year age gap between us I'm 30 he is 47. We connected right away and we get along very well. He is capable of manageming in making his own decisions and not ask mommy for everything. He is a strong devoted christian he knows his bible scriptures. We would talk for hours and hours we both enjoy our conversation which was something I never had with guys my own age. Now In the past I dated and was once married with a guy my own age catagory and it did not last at all. I've learn the hard way marrying a millenial 30 year old now a days a woman is also marrying his mom included lets just say that. The maturitu level isn't the same. I felt more like a mom rather then the spouse. He was very spoiled and violent with me. After my divorce I did try dating guys my own age to my surprised that millenial generation are all the same all mommas boy and non were devoted christian. I had men my own age even called me grandma and said I was to boring. Could it be that perhaps I'm just an old soul? Growing up with kids my own generation I never connectednwith them. Even teachers would say that I was mature for my age.

[smne35]

Why do you ask are you seeking a man a husband or a man to be a daddy figure, it don't matter if he's a hundred years older or same age or younger, how you get along is what you feel for each other real, age be damned it's what's in your heart for ever other that matters and if he's older his health, if you gel happily as one is that not more important than numbers, ones maturity level and both of you accepting each other as you are that's all see love does not discriminate and you shouldn't either

[Alwayreckles93]

Im asking because I've realized maturity really does matter.

[smne35]

That's the most important thing besides their feelings being true for you, maturity in both of you is vital and a strong bond

[DJB72]

He doesn't have to be older but he does need to be mature.

My son is 5. I'm 51. Most of my friends my age are getting ready or are already grandparents. I'm bracing myself for primary school.

My son's friends don't care about him having an "old" daddy, although I get some odd looks with my prosthetic. He doesn't care. I don't care.

Age is just a number - although sometimes the number comes with creaking and stiff joints! If you're happy then who cares?

[OlderAndWiser]

Being older is no guarantee of maturity, but it makes it more likely.


I am nine years older than my fiancée.

[smne35]

True some people are more stubborn and refuse to mature as they should yet want to be treated as such,

[BourbonAndBacon]

I'm getting married if a few months to someone 20 years younger. I don't notice an age difference at all. I'm very active and she's an old soul.

[Alwayreckles93]

You two are perfect lively couple. Congratulations.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I would say the man should be older but if it works for you then it's a good thing. Also all men around your age aren't like you ex you can't condem all millennials because you dated one or two and it didn't workout. Lastly I'm happy you found love cause you really deserve it

[aceleon]

your age gap is too much

i think it should be around 5 or 10 years the guy will get old and have difficulty with keeping up with you.

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh my goodness. Were christians andbguys my age dont care about anything.

[Alwayreckles93]

You younger men and your dirty toughs seriously.

[aceleon]

madam it is just a concern sexual problems causes serious problem in relationships but ifyou are tellingme that i can live with it go ahead at least the guy is a lucky one then.

[RealMarek]

I don’t think the age of the man matters as much as whether he is stable and mature.

[Redstang88]

Similar age almost always works better, but do what you want I guess

[NathanDavis]

if it works... it works, period

[LiamJHayden]

Whatever works for the couple.

[Exterminatore]

It’s not a bad idea.