Do you think majority of husbands are abusive? Would that explain the divorce rate being so high?

[SolitarySolace]

Yes, majority of married men are abusive

No, majority of married men are not abusive. These divorces are happening for other reasons

A total of 30 votes were cast: 7 girls and 23 guys. See detailed results

[msc545]

So women won't say that they were abused by their husbands until it's time for a divorce in which case they magically remember that they were. This of course gives them even more leverage in the divorce court and more goodies in the end. I think the truth is that some men at least probably are abusive, but it usually comes as a result of being seriously and sorely provoked by women who can't keep their mouth shut and don't have enough sense to try.

There is such a thing as victim precipitated assault and battery and even victim precipitated homicide that nobody seems to know about or recognize when the woman is supposedly the victim.

[strateguy632]

of course not.

majority of divorces are "no fault" ones!

the fact that lesbian divorce rate is higher than hetero indicates the lady is more abusive magnified by 2 lady.

people just lack commitment. that is what is expected when people dont study the new testament.

religion doesn't help this if the religion "has divorce" for anything beside her cheating because they aren't commited to make things work.

[Abbycado]

That would mean, at minimum, 51% of husbands are abusive.

I’m not buying that.

[SolitarySolace]

Then why do so many women who divorce their husbands claim it’s because he is abusive?

[Abbycado]

How many do? Provide a link.

[SolitarySolace]

I don’t have a link I’m going off of what I’ve heard from women who file for divorce. Just seems to me like majority of those divorces are accusations of abuse.

[Abbycado]

And exactly how many women have told you, personally, that was the reason they got divorced?

[SolitarySolace]

Why do you care?

[Abbycado]

Lol, you brought it up, and you are making the claim based on it. So, back it up or you look like you’re full of shit.

[SolitarySolace]

Yup. I’m full of shit. Hope that adds to your entitlement complex. It’ll make you an even shittier person

[Abbycado]

XD how does asking you to back up your own claim make me entitled?

What is so hard in giving me a number? Ballpark it for me, or is that too tough?

[SolitarySolace]

Domestic Abuse Prompts a Divorce in 24% of Cases

[Abbycado]

Wow, and you claim you aren’t full of shif and reply with that?

First, you are point out that domestic abuse prompts divorce. Duh. That’s a very good reason to get divorced…. when there is abuse.

Then you say 24%. That’s clearly not a majority. You just buried yourself. Don’t feel bad, I know it is early.

[SolitarySolace]

You know… even though I’m sometimes wrong about things didn’t change the fact that women like you just have to be complete assholes about it.

[Abbycado]

If I have 24% of a cake and you have 76% of it, who has more, or is that too much thinking for you?

[SolitarySolace]

You don’t have to be an ass

[SolitarySolace]

No wonder men abuse women

[Abbycado]

For someone that hates women as much as you do, we sure do live rent free in your head given that is all you shit post about XD

[SolitarySolace]

Can’t hate something without having the reason for hating it live in your head 🤷🏻‍♂️ otherwise it wouldn’t be hate now would it

[SolitarySolace]

Why so condescending?

[TonyMetal___86]

@Abbycado telling him that he's full of sh*t makes you a sh*t yourself, if you weren't sh*tty than you would of kept the debate respectful!

Just answer the guy's question, you're in an investigation here 😒

[TonyMetal___86]

*aren't

[RavVid]

Divorce correlates best with the time it takes a woman to have two babies and for those two children to get into elementary school with it's dual child care.

After that the husband loses importance to her and she is happier with just his money and getting a job herself.

[KrakenAttackin]

@RavVid She is also happy with his house, half+ of his retirement, alimony, child support, half+ of any other possessions. She can than jump comfortably back on the carousel.

[RavVid]

@KrakenAttackin Oh yes indeed, without an inconvenient husband getting in her way she can whore away.

[MichaelBarnes99]

No I think it's a small minority.

But I do think many wives are verbally very abusive, which goes underreported.

I've seen many women complaining, nagging, and winging until they get their own way, and men put up with it.

If a man was this abusive, women would leave, and the divorce rate would be even higher.

[SolitarySolace]

I believe men shouldn’t be putting up with it. It doesn’t make them more of a man by putting up with it. It makes him weak for sticking around and drowning himself in a bottle

[msc545]

Verbal abuse by women is what often precipitates physical abuse by men. Women literally do not know when to stop.

[backdoorman]

No.

https://www.aamft.org/Consumer_Updates/Domestic_Violence.aspx#:~:text=In%20almost%2020%20percent%20of,abusive%20relationship%2C%20help%20is%20available.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think the majority of divorces are because they are abusive, sure a fair number maybe because they are dumbasses.

[SolitarySolace]

Why do you think majority of divorces happen?

[OfMiceandMen]

I think the majority of divorce happens because the couple outgrow each other and want something fresh/new and exciting. Some people get married too soon and find the person they married is not someone they want to live with the rest of their life.

[SolitarySolace]

It’s sad that getting a divorce is so easy. What happened to “until death do us part?” This is why I’m choosing to never get married. Marriage is basically dating.

[OfMiceandMen]

I wouldn't rely on statistics to make you decide. Most people marry each other on a whim and that is why it doesn't work out. If you and the other person have your head on straight, you increase your chances of lasting dramatically. There's still lots of time.

[SolitarySolace]

Sure but why should men marry when a lot of men have lost everything in a divorce? You think it's worth the risk? I don't think it is

[OfMiceandMen]

Anything you accumulate prior to the marriage is still yours. It is only what you accumulate during the marriage that becomes a shareable asset. If you are both working on things, together then those things should be shared if you split.

[SolitarySolace]

And that is why I'm neve getting married is rather not share anything with a woman what's mine is mine and what's a woman's is hers

[RebelinSteel]

No as there are likely millions of reasons a couple gets divorced.

[ChiTown33]

No. There's abuse to be sure. But it's far from the norm.

As far as reasons for divorce rate being si high. Most people today are simply not capable of a lifetime commitment.

[Chthou95]

Look at lesbian marriage divorce rates. Pretty high so that means lesbian marriages are abusive as well

[JacobJordan]

No it has been proven very few people are abusive. 1/4 to 1/5 of all guys are

[Dongie]

No, not in today's society. 35+years ago possibly. I know my dad would win the award as most abusive ever but my mother always went back.

[handsomelad70]

No;likely (in my opinion) one-fifth to one-third may be so classified.