Do you think getting married and having kids is less of a priority for modern men/women?

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MisterWack · Accepted Answer

It isn’t that it is no longer a priority, the issue is that it is becoming harder to acquire financially.

Traditionally a man and woman start a family after marriage when there’s a reliable steady flow of income to cover health, housing, utilities, repair, travel, food, clothing, luxuries, taxes, vacation expenses.

Dating apps, frustrations, grievances, political temperatures high mean less successful relationships that last for marriage or even stay stable enough for multiple children let alone one.

Then you have rising cost of living, inflation on grocery store goods going up, wages not going up the rate of inflation the way it used to be, housing market pushing housing prices through the roof, student loans through the roof, debt, and so on all contribute to less married couples having children.

You can’t solve the family crisis, until you solve the financial crisis.
Capitalism is notorious for selling market solutions rather than real solutions to make a quick buck off the disfunction of democracy for Americans who are sold “you’ll just have to live with it”, so we need legitimate discourse and real world solutions that actually lift the people up, not the corporations.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I think "protecting your peace" is a bigger priority -- AND IT SHOULD BE. Too many of us married too young to meet the "prime directive" of populating the next generation and were miserable in the process due to several factors, one of the main factors being a lying, cheating duplicitous partner with wanderlust issues. Who needs THAT? Nobody. So... I agree with the protect your peace, though now the pendulum's at the other extreme with the "zero identity, zero accountability" camp that hops into bed with everyone and everything, heavy on the plastics (which is ironic since we're all "Non-BEP Plastics" but then have a multi-billion-dollar sex toy industry... pfft).

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

While I don't think it should be, I'm finding more and more people are content with being single but I will never be content or happy with the single life. I want to be married with kids.

Summeroflove · Answer

It genuinely depends on the person I think most people want kids (not all) but it’s important for your kids to pick the right spouse even if you’re not picking the right person for yourself…. It’s bad when people just get married it’s becomes toxic and then… divorce. And guess what? That’s the picture of relationships you send to your children.

Either avoid them…. They’re toxic and suck. Or…. That’s just how a relationship is supposed to be.

HawkPerception · Answer

This is statistically proven. Apparently there is a correlation between higher IQ and more education and having fewer kids.

It's a sad state of society now where most people seem to be opting out of having children.

AviatorTom · Answer

Global statistics indicate that getting married and having kids is less of a priority for modern men/women, as evidenced by the declining birth rate and the replacement rate.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I think that marriage is a low priority for a small minority of young people, but they are quite vocal about their choice. That small group seems larger than it actually is.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Marriage and childbirth rates are at their lowest in over a century.

teehartman55 · Answer

Absolutely! first is cost. although you want to care for the little rugrat clothes, food decent or not schooling etc.
Interference with jobs. Both men and woman affected as at first it takes two incomes to navigate a marriage let alone putting a mudeater into the relationship Housing! even if interest rates are 1% how do you save enough money if you have a paper pee-er sucking up your money Finally, sanity. Your married and it takes a bit of time to navigate the relationship of having a 24/7roomate who demands the toilet seat stays up. It's possible you weren't aware of just how meesy or disorganized the person is despite the other wonderful qualities which brought your hearts closer.
I think you need to work out all of that and more before even considering having children and by the time you decide you have ED so don't worry about it. Let the Chinese and "third-world" countries maintain human population and growth.

MrOracle · Answer

A recent major poll in the US showed that having children was the top priority (out of 22 life goals) for conservative GenZ men and 4th for conservative women, but for liberals, it was 14th for men and dead last (22) for liberal women.

This continues a widening trend between conservatives and liberals, with conservatives having 2.3 children on average and liberals 1.5.

Though GenZ is more conservative than the previous 2 generations, the gap between liberals and conservatives continues to grow, with conservative having far more children. If this trend continues with GenAlpha, the demographics will be substantial - conservatives will outnumber liberals by about 2:1 by 2050. Those are the kind of numbers you can't come back from.

SixFootSexy · Answer

Religion solved this long ago with rules. No adultery. No coveting. Get married before sex. No divorce. Birth control screws with women's ability to pick partners. They vote for the State being their husband, who has more money than any individual man. A monotheistic religious culture forced people to chose ONE and STICK WITH IT. As a duty. No matter what. This made people unhappy if they choose poorly so people made careful selections. Long courtships. Big decisions. It created the foundation around duty to a family. Now that the family, home and community fabric is gone, men have nothing to fight for. Good luck for the hard times ahead. Women will really want a man to take care of them when WWIII starts.

HighValue · Answer

Many men would want to, but most women are very immoral, disloyal, untrustworthy, and only looking to use, abuse, and steal from men so those men would rather stay single than get ripped off and abused. Many women prefer to get ran through when younger, then are upset that no good man wants them later in life so they have no choice but to stay single. The men that want a family and can afford it are more and more going to different countries where not as many women have been morally corrupted.

RavVid · Answer

For me both are negative anti priorities at -99 out of a -100 where the later is committing suicide.

Marriage & children leaves you still alive to contemplate the destruction of your life. Maybe that is worse. Perhaps suicide is -99 and marriage & children is -100.

After 30 a lot of women seem to take marriage and pregnancy as their top priority. Lots don't according to GAG posts but a lot do and there is probably a third group who are willing to give it a sporting chance at the pub and are happy enough if it happens.

Stats seem to say 50% of 30+ women want babies.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Compared to other past ears I would say yes because the modern-day era is filled with modern-day conveniences and places to go suddenly on a thought buying a plane ticket to go somewhere or renting a car from your phone to visit another state.

Also, you can entertain yourself for several hours with the technology we have today unlike in the past eras and besides people living in today's eras seem to not want to be bothered and stressed with kids and how the economy and salaries are going a lot of people are saying screw it they don't want to deal with it and not to mention a lot of people are lazy too which they see kids and marriage putting more work and stress upon them.

CherryLove007 · Answer

For most of history, marriage was... economic survival, social obligation, religious requirement and the only “acceptable” way to build a life

Today, people (especially women) don’t need marriage to survive. it’s no longer automatic or a priority for people that are relatively young. It's been the 21th century for a very long time now. lol

OneViewpoint · Answer

I think getting married and having kids is getting a lot less possible for modern men and women given the current level of income inequality for 99% of US society and the wealth hoarding of the 1% who are trying to wipe out the middle class and replace it with an underclass of economic slaves from birth to death.

Let's focus the hate and violence where it belongs for a change. Take back the US government from the 1%. End the possibility for billionaires to exist.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

From what I'm seeing women these days have a major chip on their shoulders. They either hate the idea of kids or hate the idea of having kids and a man. They seem to think that the only two ways a relationship can go is either they raise kids with some guy they have to be in charge of or they'll effectively become enslaved to their husband.

Its kinda sickening

WindAtMyBack · Answer

That's been the trend for a long time. Back in the 50s and into the 60s, there was a lot of pressure to get married and have kids. By the 70s, most ( but not all ) of that pressure was gone. It became accepted by most of society to be single, to not have kids, and to live together without being married.

There are still parts of the world with a lot of pressure to get married and have kids, but you see very little of that in modern first world countries.

BCRanger10 · Answer

It certainly seems like it, if not being outright shunned. And that's really unfortunate and sad because marriage is great. There's just a lot of propaganda coming from all sides against it about how marriage is slavery, how it's only about whom it benefits, and a host of others.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, for several unfortunate reasons.. A culture of increased, encouraged, selfishness.. Where entertainment is easily obtained and people have become lazier minded or just too distracted.. A lot of people view kids and relationships as an inconvenience to their lives and drive to have careers or travel.. The culture has become increasingly hedonistic and convenient to the point where it's neutering the natural human need for connection, community and family.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

There's not much point in marriage anymore, because people use it as a legal excuse to rob one another of their income for life.

The planet is 10x stable population already, so there's not much point in having more than one child in your lifetime either.

DextroShade · Answer

Most men still want families while most modern women do not; they have done polling on this. Modern women are the most worthless, entitled creatures to ever exist. They are bringing about the end of the human race with their selfishness and narcissism, which is probably every successful civilization in history limited their rights.

Lalalove11 · Answer

It's sad but it's too expensive to raise a family nowadays. It's really difficult. Where I live in Ireland the rent is ridiculously high. I know some people who would like to have kids but they can't really afford it. Some are opting out.

Quigly · Answer

Of course, We had a baby boom generation when housing prices were in line with wages. We have a baby bust generation when they are not. The cost of housing is directly related to the birth rate.

The Government would rather bring illegals into the country than Fix the economic issues. It's not a priority of the Government and so it's not a priority of the people.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. For one thing, depending on where you live, you now have to seriously evaluate if bringing a child into that environment is a good thing. As for living in the USA right now, there's no god damn way a good man should even THINK of asking a wife to risk getting pregnant if you live in a red state. Any complications and she's dead.

Lots of guys especially & some women don't want marriage now anyway. They feel it's not worth the hardship. I don't blame them at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely, and it's one of the reasons why today's women in general are less happy than their counterparts were decades ago. It's also one of the reasons liberal women are less happy than conservative women.

Women have feminism to thank for that.

Hussar · Answer

Simple: Modern society is super expensive for everything including kids. It's hard to think about a family when you're looking at a 50 year mortgage 15 year car loan and spending the majority of your paycheck on basic necessities. I would have hoped to settle down by now but I'm really not in a position.

molonski2 · Answer

The numbers show. it to be true  I have 2 girls , both have never had a child , one living together long term , the other is not in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

For your age? No (maybe the "women" of G@G. But G@G is a very POOR example of your avg. woman).

Now for young women I'd say yes. But it's not really that they're choosing marriage and kids less as societal factors are making it less.

LazerBean · Answer

Definitely, and polls show that it is lower on many people's priority list than it has been in the past.

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. Marriage only matter for tax benefits if you're top earner and kids are just resource for the system, quasi slaves. Fuck the system

snermcger · Answer

It's harder because everything costs so much now.

Rent, homes, cars, food, childcare, medical, dental

Pretty much everything is just more expensive and people don't have salaries that keep up with inflation.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

It certainly looks that way. Men see women as scheming to steal their money and dignity. Women, in contrast, are making their own money and don't need no man, but will take free meals if offered.

Miristheiss · Answer

Absolutely. Just look at the numbers. Birthrate is down. People marry much older. Many more never marry.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Having kids is challenging with the cost of living the way it is.

UrLoveMocha · Answer

Yes to me it appears that way, but it could only be a social media thing.

beenherebefore · Answer

I think is less of a priority for modern women.

Kelly6 · Answer

Yes modern people have stopped having kids or getting married all because of cost. but in future this could backfire us very hard by having low population

JesseP1nk · Answer

I think for western women yes. Feminism have told them career is the most important thing in their life. Go ask from russian women how many of them want kids.

mrshooiser · Answer

For woman yes mostly because they choose careers over family.

Mike_Hum · Answer

yes. to the detriment of themselves and our society

dragoblack · Answer

Well, duh. The economy is collapsing and survival is rough as is

shortster · Answer

It shouldn't be, but sadly it is; especially for women in America.

blackeagle007 · Answer

I’m seeing that a lot more nowadays. I’m ok with no kids. But I’d like to meet someone

Diana2828 · Answer

Depends on the person should be a priority bc now days it’s only career first and what not

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah between MeToo statutes, collapsing economies and overpopulation it's hardly surprising

SofiaMay18 · Answer

Depends on the person. I'm a young woman and I look forward to being married and having kids

fonduegirl · Answer

Economys fked, what can we do

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Abso-fucking-lutely

butterly248 · Answer

Paying rent and eating is more important

BananaSeller · Answer

modern women dont want

MasterKS · Answer

Yes its outdates, specially marriage.

4ngelic · Answer

i think so

Pohjolan · Answer

Evidently.

zombiewoof · Answer

Yess

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think so.

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