My husband is a sissy and I love him, granted its a little weird for me, but I try not to show it to him. I still love him and we make it work for both of us. We talk about it frequently to understand both sides of the matter.
🌿 Never show him that you are even slightly uncomfortable with it. Stop talking about it and just accept him for who he is. Continuing to talk about it would be like the both of you discussing how he doesn't find you as the most beautiful woman in the world but he's going to stay with you for now and discuss how he struggles with it. Get over it! He has gotten over the fact that their is always going to be somebody younger and prettier than you around the corner. Get over how you feel about his insecurity if you love him. It''s ok to stop talking about it now and show him you have accepted him. He is married to you and commited himself to you and only you. You should do the same and stop throwing his insecurity in his face. He will love you even more than he does now if you fully accept him by forgetting about both sides of it. Relax! It's just sex!
In today's society there's lots of men that are cross-dressing behind their wives backs. Because he has opened up to you and told you I think he's come to a point that he knows you'll accept him and understand that he enjoys the pleasures and how it feels on his body. Trusting isn't about being sexual with men in some ways some people do take it to that extreme and then the transgendering or transsexually towards men. How would you have responded if he would have said that he was bisexual that he enjoys men and women? Most crossdressers and sissies are not bisexual or gay. Most still love the woman they're with they just want to share their femininity with their partner. In most cases cross-dressing is not a sexual fancy that you want to play out with another person. I know because I have explored it myself. I enjoy wearing female clothes the more complicated is to put on the more I enjoy wearing it I do like to go out in public to parks or even driving on highways being seen it's not time out looking for hookups. But it does make me feel better about myself as a female than a male. It did take me many years before I went out in my vehicle and drove anywhere. But I can say I've been to places where women do talk to me and they accept me for who I am and appreciate what I do to look it's close to a normal female as they do. Don't get me wrong I'm not a Barbie doll I represent the older generation woman and guys still flirt with me not even knowing if I'm completely female or not. I guess what I'm saying is try to enjoy what you can with your husband if he wants to be dressed a certain way buy him some things that make him look better help him with his makeup adjust his bra help him find a perfect fitting bra. Some sissies want to be dressed in all pink, some want to be dressed as a normal woman let her be comfortable in your home has a normal woman and support her with this and you'll find that she will be much happier.
If my husband 'said he was a sissy and like(d) to dress in women's clothing'
I would tell him to cut the self depreciation, stop with the 'sissy' mentality.
As long as he was in love with me, I was in love with him, and we were just two great lovers ...I don't see how I could initially break up with him just because of that fact.
I'm not going to lie and say it wouldn't be an initial turn off, because I would associate skirts or dresses with femininity. And I like masculinity...(not some macho guy but just...a guy)
I would definitely try to stick it out and not dump a perfectly good man because of clothing tastes.
🌿If it did happen and you still love him then never tell him that you are turned off in any way shape or form. It would destroy him initially and or he would always feel insecure about it and may never recover. I'll explain. It's his thing, his trigger, his on/off switch. His one thing above all other sexual desires that makes him happy. H-A-P-P-Y! Happy❣❣❣ Not to be confused with just happy from any old orgasm. If it makes him happy and fullfilled to be a sissy why would you want to take that away from him and make him feel bad about it. You can't change it and if you try to he will fantasize about his fantasy with someone else and/or, possibly hate himself for not being able to change his embarassing sex fantasy to satisfy any judgment, criticism or misunderstanding of his sexual trigger, by you. You will always be the woman of his dreams if you accept his sexually side. He is simple in this regard, not flexible, just like every man on the planet. Relax! It's just sex :)
I would never tell him his other side puts me of, nor would I be cruel to him. I would support him in every way that I could. However, I am attracted to men not women and do associate skirts and dresses with women. I would respect my sexuality but not at the price of his happiness. I know how to be tactful.
I would be really angry that he didn't say anything before we were married. I have no idea whether I'd want to end a relationship because of this reason or not. It depends on how attached I was to the guy. If my boyfriend of a year and a half told me this, I wouldn't know what to do since I love him, but at the same time, it is a big turn-off for me. It isn't wrong to dress in female clothing, people have their turn-ons, and if that's yours, then fine. But no one is obligated to be attracted to this. I would suggest not telling your wife. Keep it your secret. If I was the wife, I wouldn't want to know about it at this point.
I would support him in any and all the way possible and I would help him in be a real looking sissy girl. I would show him how to put on make up how to dress how to paint him fingers and toes nails and do his hair and how to walk in high heels. I would even like to go to the clubs with him when his dress up as my girlfriend
I love your frankness and willingness to support your sissy! It is actually an exciting time watching the transformation into womanhood and the fact that it is you who is her mentor into femininity is remarkably rwarding and your love and respect for each other is amazing! You are a rare and special woman!
If this is your husband and I were you... I'd share some clothes maybe.
Guys like this are CDs (cross dressers) or otherwise known as transvestites. As a rule they are heterosexual... they just enjoy dressing in girls clothes.
If your marriage has been and otherwise is good, l wouldn't break it up over this. He still a man and he still loves you... He just has a little girl inside who likes to dress up.
Still... l could understand if this were a bit distressing...
Well, as long as he's straight and won't dress like a woman in public or in front of me and he doesn't wear my clothes, I think I'd be okay. I'd be pretty pissed that he didn't tell me that before getting married, but everyone has weird interests. I'd just prefer that he'd keep them to himself.
Most likely he doesn't want to dress in public. Yes, you would be justified in feeling upset. You have to ask yourself if you still love him and if not, divorce him. Choosing to stay married and rejecting his sexual insecurity he can not change would only serve to divide you. He can't change his sex trigger just for you. That's like telling a gay person to not be gay. If you were married with children you'd then have to ask yourself what's more important. My sexual preferences with my husband or my children, marriage and my husband's vunerable tie? Relax it's just sex!
Well, I'd be put off and would feel a little awkward. I don't think I'd be okay with my husband dressing up like a woman. If that's who he truly wants to be then I might think about separation rather than causing him to be unhappy being someone he didn't want to be.
I told my ex wife about my wanting to dress as a woman & she was accepting at first but as time went on, I got greedy. I began to keep my body totally hairless, my toenails were always polished a dark red, I started wearing panties, bra & pantyhose 24/7, even under my work clothes & I started sleeping in nightgowns. When I was let go from my job & began collecting unemployment, I took my dressing even further, growing my hair out & keeping it in a feminine style, I grew out my fingernails & kept them shaped & polished, I even went as far as getting my ears pierced & having my eyebrows waxed into ultra thin lines with a high, feminine arch in them. It was not long after I did this that my wife outed me to her friends by bringing them over to see me dressed. She filed for divorce shortly after that.
I have been married for six years now, like two years ago i started having these fantasies of dressing like a lady... it feels good having girls panties skirts lingeries and dresses on me... i also have submissive fantasies sometimes but not to men... i did not tell my wife about it because i am afraid she will not accept me... especially that she is more into the classical male/female role. My ultimate fantasy now is to treat my lady like my queen, serve her and dress for her and sometimes i think of pegging as it gives me the pleasure of being her girl too... but maybe that will never happen... and who knows... maybe its better not to happen.
I am a sissy & I would like to tell you how it went for me. When my ex wife & I were married, I told her I liked dressing as a woman, she didn't like it but tolerated it. By our third year of marriage, I couldn't stop dressing as a woman & I would sneak out after my wife went to bed. My wife went away for a weekend & I lived as a woman, I had my ears pierced & my eyebrows waxed into ultra thin lines with a high arch, when my wife returned I told her I wanted to be a woman & be with men, she quickly divorced me.
There is no reason behind it. I have tried to find things out about those guys and why they do it. Its just something when they were growing up they were curious about. And once a guy put on something a girl wears, he is bitten by it and can never stop doing. They like it so they want to keep doing it. My brother told me growing up he will never stop dress ever. You either except that part of him or you leave its that simple.
🌿He'd probably say both. Imitation is a very sincere form of flattery. Possibly the most! Especially if the woman feels good about and is secure with her self.
Of course he loves you. and he is having way too much fun in a dress to want to be you. Women do not feel euphoria over wearing a dress. Men do.. All men would be crossdressers if they understood what was in it for them. Rememder everyone starts out female. Men simply dont understand why they are instantly aroused by gender euphoria but its very instinctual.
@paula3198 That is the way you should be, you should support him in what ever he does just as he would support you. Maybe you should go out with a guy and then tell him if he stops cross dressing you will stop going out. You will win cause he will never be able to stop doing it, they just cantget it out of their heads
@bigkitty he might not care if you get another guy, if thats what it would take for you to get over his crossdressing. Women seem to miss the part about how easily they can wear anything without shame. and its not just the taboo that fuels the freak. It has more to do with the fact that man was created both male and female, then woman was extracted from the man. putting panties on a man will instantly arouse that feminine that he never knew existed
You are 100% correct lol... If a woman learns of this and is not bolting for a divorce lawyer, there is still hope to keep the marriage however there will probably be some significant changes. She will expect that he takes on the traditional house"wife" role, doing all the cleaning, cooking, washing and essentially being the maid (ideally giving her more free time)... The probability of being cuckolded at some point is very likely. While keeping the marriage "officially" alive, maybe the woman finds herself happier in such an eventual scenario..
@coast2coast That is how my brother is. He is a house slave to all are friends and family now that he has expressed he wants to live as a girl now. He is the best dam house cleaner I have ever had and he's cheap. He wears dresses with flats when he cleans and he enjoys dressing and acting like a sissy. Sometime we invite a few gay guys over to have their way with him so he will be reminded of house a girl is used.
@bigkitty I would love to find a woman like this that loved me still and make me into the house wife or slave that woukd fulfill me big time. But it's hard to find one
@bigkitty If u said u would have someone else fill this role for u as well with your friends and family I'd love to take that role. What kind of things do u and the others do with him?
It's just sex and he does expect you to be insulting and judging in a sexual way, not a personal way. It's just sex and he loves you. It's what turns him on sexualy and has nothing to do with the rest of his life. Don't make it personal. It's just sex and if you are disgusted by it and told him so it would have the same effect on him as if he told his wife that he didn't think she was the most beautiful girl in the world. You know! He finds her attractive but tells her their are prettier women around that he does in fact find more attractive. What woman wants to hear that? Most men are smart enough to know this. We all know their are plenty of fish in the sea. Of course their is always somebody more beautiful or in your case, someone with a more appealing sex fantasy for yourself. You should understand he is a man, not a woman and has a different way of feeling accepted by his companion. Empathy, compassion, understanding and compromise are the motives for you to accept him.
Identifying as a sissy is just part of the kink, For men to put on womens clothes can be like a drug. Its called gender euphoria. Identifying as a sissy gives him more of that same drug..
I have a sissy guy pal who’s just so caring and lovely but I could never marry him so difficult for me to answer. I think sissies are born that way but in adulthood they do it for mental gratification so as long as your sissy is happy with you seeking your sexual gratification with an alpha male then it could work x
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