Is $400 too much to spend on his birthday?

[dazzlethemdead]

By the time his birthday comes around, my boyfriend and I will have been together for 2 and a half months. Is $400 too much to spend on presents alone? I'm only buying him two things, a new winter coat and a new mp3 player. Am I over doing it? I don't want him to get the wrong idea. I just REALLY like him.

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ok.. does it make any difference that we've known each other for almost four years?

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Alright so I bought the jacket.. it was $65 so that's not too much and he won't know how much it costs anyways. I already bought the mp3 player but I'm just going to keep it until xmas. And I'm throwing him a small surprise party. Just a few good friends+

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+and drinks at my apartment.

[GaavensGirl]

No it doesn't matter that you've known each other for almost four years.The RELATIONSHIP is still fairly new.Everyone here has pretty much told you the same thing, even the guys told you how it would make them feel so you should be able to choose wisely...and wayyy less expensive.

Truth is, my boyfriend's birthday was in July and it was also our 1st month anniversary and I went crazy planning all the things I wanted to do for him(this included a romantic surprise with our closest friends who are all couples at a moonlight picnic, buying him a few games for his Xbox, a remote car, a poem I wrote him which I planned on framing for him, and baking his favorite cake)then I realized this was wayyy too much stuff and it was stressing me out.So I cut everything out except the moonlight picnic(only the two of us instead)and my poem which really expressed how much I REALLY liked him and you know what?He REALLY liked it!When I looked back at all I had planned, the stress and the money I would have spent when all I needed to give was something directly from my heart, I just laugh.So I hope this helped(as long as it was)and I'm sure you will choose wisely.Good luck : )

[GaavensGirl]

it's only been two and a half months and when guys receive things as expensive as this so soon they start to feel uncomfortable and might not want to accept it.Also when it's your turn to receive a gift he'll feel pressured into buying something more expensive even if he doesn't have the money .Go smaller and he would love you for thinking of him no matter the size or price.How about something like a watch or wallet or his favourite brand of clothing.Trust me,smaller gets you further in this case.

[confused84]

I was going to say no until I saw that you've only been dating for 2 months and I think that's really early for that.

Just go more simple. Buy him something from his favourite sports team and make something for him yourself, its cute and more personal :)

[WeaponZero]

Way, way, WAAAAAY too much.

1. You've only been together 2 and a half months. If it were me I wouldn't spend any more than $50 on someone I've only been dating that long.

2. You're going to make him feel guilty for not being able to get you back with something just as costly.

3. It makes you look clingy as hell at this point.

[Anonymous]

Yeah totally not. Make him feel incredibly guilty. I'd say well under 100$. It would probably just make him feel like sh*t. Especially if for some reason he's unable to spend the same amount or more on you. It would make it awkward enough if you'd been together for a while but 2 months you're still getting to know each other.

[redheadbabygirl]

start out like you can hold out. if you can't afford to spend 400 3 times a year (christmas, birthday, and valentines day) then don't spend it now. You don't want to set a precedent, or worse, make him feel like he has to spend as much on you when it's your turn (especially if he really can't afford it!).

Subtlety is best.

[sammisinger]

Personally I think that is a bit too much. What's going to happen NEXT year on his birthday - he'll probably expect something big and extravagant like this year. Start out smaller. Maybe just do one of these gifts - like the mp3 player. That's my advice. I'm sure he'll love whatever you decide to do though :)

[canadianguy58]

too much for 2 months

its a nice idea but you kind of put him in an akward positions hear

cuz now he's gonna think that he's has to spend that much too if not more

[hunnie-bunches]

ask your self would he do the same for you? maybe I would buy one of the items but not that expensive.

[hunnie-bunches]

that is waaayyy to much honey if you spend that much on him he will probably just end up using you