My boyfriend gave me ring that is second hand and the stones are not real - am I not worth a nice real ring?

Well, I think you should be THANKFUL for anything you get! I come from a very wealthy family and always had good quality things so when I got with my fiance I always made it clear to him that I don't want anything expensive from him, I could get that anywhere. I just wanted something from the heart something that has meaning. So for holidays and birthdays he makes me things like really cool jewelry from bead shops or has a dress made for me with my fav colors or cool patterns. Well after 2 years he asked me my ring size. I already knew why he was asking ;) Sooo I told him and then made it clear again that I just want something simple, a band or something small. Well he proposed to me and the diamond on my finger is huge and beautiful. People ask if I'm signaling ships with this rock! I told him he didn't have to go all out like that he said he knows but he wanted to get me the best ring possible. I love it and honestly wouldve even loved a ring he found on the ground or in a cracker jack box! As long as your boyfriend gave it to you with good intentions and it was from the heart, who cares the quality or where he got it. Its not like he was making a joke about it and thought "ha ha I'm gonna give her this raggedy a** ring and laugh about it when she wears it" So I think you should wear it and maybe one day he'll get you a better more expensive one =)
That seems like a silly thing to break up over, but if it caused you that much conflict, maybe that's the best solution. I can understand you being upset that he gave you something he found randomly for your birthday, that is a little cheap, but I wouldn't be so upset about the stones being fake. I think he should have understood why you didn't appreciate a gift he found on the ground.
It really does not mean if the ring is second or third, its all about your feelings on that ring what you are giving to your partner.
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I'm with him - you knew he was a "simple man". Obviously, your values are different. If I were him, I'd take this as a huge red flag and end the relationship. Obviously, to you, the thought DOESN'T count. Hopefully, you can find someone more in line with your values; him as well.
The thought DOES count - but! - if it 'looks' gold and 'looks' like jewels - I just would prefer that they were real - or - not get anything at all - but your right - we have different values I guess - while he sits there quarrelling about me not liking the fakeness of the ring with his 100% gold chain - medallion bracelet and two rings on
OK... well, that last part was pretty integral to the story and completely changes my opinion. You said he was a "simple man". I assumed that he wasn't materialistic and that he believed more in thought than product. However, if he's decked out in jewelry himself, that's not the case (nor would I call him a "simple man"). Now he just comes off like an ass.
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Girl I’m with you!!
He gave you that ring with false pretenses. I bet if you never ask he would have never told. It was deceiving and cheap. A real eye opener of what your future could have been. If a a man REALLY knows you, then he should know you are a woman of quality. It’s romantic to give a woman jewelry. Does a man send a woman fake flowers? NO!!!
I would dump you over this. Tell you to get out
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