Why doesn't my boyfriend want to come to Thanksgiving dinner?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now and the other day I asked him to spend Thanksgiving with my family since his family doesn't gather for Thanksgiving. His first reply to this was that Thanksgiving was just another day of the year. I told him that my family doesn't gather much and I want him to meet them all at once. He told me that he was terrified of meeting them and that if he went he wouldn't be able to hold a good conversation with any of them since he was so scared. He said that he wanted them to meet the "real" him and not the him that was uncomfortable.

Well after we both explained our sides to the argument, he eventually said that he would think about it. Although, I'm afraid that that was just something he said to end the conversation. He seems like he isn't going to budge on his decision about meeting my family.

This upsets me because I've met a lot of his family, but he's only met my parents. He told me that he wished he was as "gung ho" about meeting my family as I was about his. I'm confused because I thought we were in a serious relationship and family is important to him. So why doesn't he want to meet mine?

I'm thinking about inviting him to my grandfather's upcoming birthday to maybe ease him into Thanksgiving since there aren't going to be as many people. It will be at a restaurant so I hope that it will be a little more comfortable for him. Or maybe I should introduce him to them one by one? What do you guys think? I really want him to come, and I'm afraid that my family will feel rejected if he doesn't show up.
Why doesn't my boyfriend want to come to Thanksgiving dinner?
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