My boyfriend of 2.5 years got me a watch for my birthday?

[Anonymous]

our last year of university together... I expected a more romantic thoughtful expression from him. I turned my back on my family for him. I supported him the last two years in every way possible. I have done so much for him. We never go off campus for dates. He has been inattentive of late... now a dinner and a watch. Am I wrong to think this is probably the worst generic present ever? Is this a sign of the end? I thought we had a future together...

[Anonymous]

I think you are overreacting. Just because it was a dinner and watch, does not mean it's the end of your relationship. For my birthday and 1 year anniversary with him, he got me chocolates, roses, a journal, and a hand painting from Africa. I didn't like the roses, the painting, or the journal too much. The chocolates I ate up, and the journal would have been nice had it been a better more prettier design, it was an ugly brown with weird green color. But he's a guy, some times guys don't know what to get. Try to hint him about trying to help you make a romantic night out of it. Go get a great recipe online on some pork chop or steak, and veggie side dish. Have romantic music, like classical music playing in the background, and some nice smelling candles. And maybe he can help you pick out the music or candle smell or the dish to make, and you guys can make the meal together to make it romantic and a night to remember. He probably just needed some pointers from you, some times guys don't know that you are expecting some huge romantic gesture from them. Give them some pointers, hopefully next time he'll get it, that you want it to be romantic and he'll get you a diamond necklace or something. But start small, baby steps of making anniversaries very important and big... it's just your first... you want to have a future, build it together with him... with clear converstaions, so you both understand each others wants and needs. By the way, I love fossil watches so I was super happy when my mom got me one for my 18th bday, but that's another story.

[selfishstars]

If the problem is just that you don't think he put enough thought into the gift, I'd say, "Get over it." Sometimes guys just don't know what to get girls. Maybe he really thought you'd like the gift.. or maybe he just felt clueless about what to get you.

If there is a "sign of the end", it's your bitterness toward him and your relationship. And maybe it's warranted. If you feel like you're putting a lot into your relationship and he isn't. That's the issue that needs to be addressed, not what gift he got you for your birthday.

The fact that you say you've "turned your back on your family for him" is the part of this that is most disturbing to me. You didn't really give much detail about that, but usually when that happens, it's because he's controlling/abusive and is trying to alienate you from your loved ones, or you made the decision on your own but for some reason blame him for a decision you made yourself.

[kaicee2010]

I would say get over it a watch is not a bad gift my guy of 4 years bought me like 3 watches at a time for x mas our first Xmas togather I loves it and them what did you expect to get? Now I find what I want and let him know that's what I want and ususally unless his funds are funny that is what I get but being upset at a gift is childish to me and mean

[ArtyGirl]

We talking Swatch or Rolex

[Anonymous]

Was it at least a really nice designer watch?

[Asker]

Seiko