I'm starting to find everything about my boyfriend very annoying. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I have been best friends with my long- distance boyfriend for about 6 years. We started dating about 2 years ago. I even lived with him for a while but moved back home to finish school. We talk on the phone all the time, we share mutual values in many ways, he's a wonderful person and a great friend. But lately I've started to notice that all he does is annoy me. Since we started dating, I've been proggressively improving my life. Going to college to pursue my dream career, working, and learning all kinds of interests/hobbies. He recently got a job after over a year of not working, and he's already calling off that place a lot. All he does is call off work, sit at home, play video games, smoke weed, and thinks he knows everything because he watched a YouTube video. He thinks he's cool because he just recently started smoking weed. Like dude, we all smoke weed... lol. He's constantly out of date with everything, as if he's been living under a rock his whole life and just now discovered things. He has never bothered to come visit me even though I've visited him, and it's only a 2.5 hr drive. When I lived with him, we got along in many ways but we have ZERO sexual chemistry. He doesn't even seem interested in sex. And he never took me out for dates or anything even though he promised he would. He said his dream job is to be a video game streamer.. I'm adventurous, outdoorsy, and ambitious. honestly I don't think we want the same things out of life, I think we've outgrown one another. but I DO care very deeply about him as a person. We have been there for each other through thick and thin and he's my very best friend. I just want to know how to approach this situation. Thank you

[smooth77]

Honestly if it's like that, um I hate to say this but he doesn't like you like that... If you like the guy then keep him as a friend and help him. But whats most important is you need to do you. You come first. Ok here is some great advice if you want him back as in back in the bed. Go out with a guy friend and make sure he knows about it. Watch how fast his ass gets off the couch.. Good luck!😉

[Avicenna]

Why are you in an LDR for this long? It sounds very dysfunctional.

[CapricornHoney]

You need to talk to him and ask him to change his attitude or you should move on. It sounds like you’re not happy and he’s possibly holding you back.

[worldscolide]

So you got with a loser... got it... ditch him.. why the hell would anyone give someone like that a chance to begin with.

[Asker]

I was definitely at a different point in my life when things started. When we were first friends, he was a lot more lively. He had a full time job making decent money with benefits and everything when I started living with him. Then I noticed he would call off a couple of times each week. Well he ended up losing that job. We had to ask family and community for help just to eat. Barely could afford to keep the rent paid. Thank God I was working or it could have been even worse. During that time I became extremely close with his family, so it's been quite difficult to end this whole thing.

[worldscolide]

I understand.. but he either needs to pull his head out of his ass or he really isn't a worthy partner..

[pigoat]

Seems like you csn friendzoned him

If he doesn't accept that, his loss

[Gedaria]

It sounds like it's time to call him an ex...