I think for any girlfriend, when the guy she is seeing has a really close friendship with another girl she can find that threatening. It all depends on a lot of things, how long have you been going out with your girlfriend? How long have you known you friend? If you have been with your girlfriend for a while from her perspective she should be the most important girl in your life, at least more important than one of your friends so when you buy another girl a really thoughtful, expensive gift, your girlfriend might find that strange or threatening and it will make her insecure about how important she really is to you. This could be the reason she went ballistic at you and when she had a go at you and was calling you out on it you said how much your friend has been there for you and how much she means to you and how you wanted to do something special for her etc so you basically highlighted your friend to more important than your girlfriend, at least from her perspective, hence her not talking to you!
It all depends how important your girlfriend is to you. She should trust you more and be more secure in your relationship but if she is important to you you should also recognize the fact she felt threatened and worried and instead of basically confirming her fears, no matter how rational and reasonable your reasons were, reassured her that you buying that present for your friend was purely to show appreciation for her in a PLATONIC way. So I might try approach her that way! If she still doesn't come around after that she is being a little irrational! Hope you get it sorted.
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Okay this is just my opinion, but I think whoever decides to convert gifts to costs (as in like how much it cost) is super shallow and materialistic. If it's a gift, it shouldn't be about money. Instead, it should express how much someone cares about that person. I have loved the gifts that cost less than $50 way more than $100 ones. So...I really don't want to badmouth your girlfriend, but I think she's pretty shallow and insecure. It's okay that you have a best friend who happens to be a girl, assuming you don't cheat on your current girlfriend. :) I guess some insecure girls can find that threatening...
I say good lad for sticking up for yourself!
Your girlfriend SHOULD be gratefull that she has a considerate boyfriend who takes her out and has got nice friends. Your friends are a part of your life and your girlfriend needs to accept that!.
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I think yes and no. Like yeah you're best friend has been through a lot with you but I think you told your girlfriend in the wrong way... I mean I'm not gonna lie if my boyfriend bought his best friend (that was a girl) something that was a lot more expensive than me I would probably get a little jealous. Girls can be really insecure and then you doing something like that could have made her think that you might like you're best friend more than her, but I mean if you only have been dating that girl for a short period of time she really should even have said anything to you at all.
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sorry its just so funny :P well I can tell you that much-- that thing you said to "calm her down", it just added more oil to the fire :P
its kinda like your saying I like my bff more than you ^^No and Yes... You have every right to buy your best friend whatever you want and your Girlfriend really shouldn't say anything about it however it was probably a little unfair to tell your Girlfriend that your Boyfriend has been through more with you etc and therefore deserves more...
Forget her! Seriously man- you don't want to be with a girl like that in the future getting jealous over things like that!:)
lol, never give more to another girl than you would to your girlfriend.
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