Holiday one night stand

[Anonymous]

so on a very recent solo holiday, I went out to dinner by myself in the town and after eating go chatting to the Manager guy. He was 26, very fit, buff and good looking.

He was very complimentary, we had a laugh, lots of flirting, he was kind, looked after me, walked me to a cab etc

I invited him to come to my hotel after he finished work, which he did! We had a nice few hours, he was very nice again but he left and didn't stay. I did bump into him (in passing) in town the next night again he was lovely but that was the last I saw of him. I have his mobile no and he has mine.

I am glad I did, I know it was just sex, but am now full of self doubt, did he really think I was beautiful, did he think I was ugly or rubbish in bed, is he just doing the sex and run guy thing, will I ever hear from him again, if not why not. And the thoughts have got worse since I returned during the week.

Need to stop the thoughts but I fancy him so much, I'd love to see him again.

What should I do?

[Simple-Simonette]

What would it hurt to call him? I don't think you have any real feelings for him, just an inkling about what your relationship might be like. So there really isn't anything to lose. You seem to be struggling more with how you feel about yourself after this encounter which is why your are projecting your own negative thoughts to what he MAY be thinking. You don't know what he's thinking - he might have gotten the impression from you that it was just a one night stand. You shouldn't doubt yourself because you've decided to be in control of your own sexuality.

He seemed to have enjoyed your company prior to your "invitation", so there must be something about you that attracted him.

Call him, be casual and mention how much fun you had with him. See how it goes from there.

[Asker]

Thanks, all answers are good but yours hit the nail on the head

[LadyLearner]

Did he volunteer his number to you to me that says he may be still interested because he wouldn't have given his number if he was a sex and run guy or at least I don't think.

If he is a sex and run guy I hope your feelings aren't hurt later on.

[xbeautifulx]

call him I don't think he would lie to you I'm sure he found something attractive about you or he wouldn't have had as much fun

[l-hedoniste]

If you're that sprung on him, go see him, hang around, and see what the vibes are. I will say that it smells like the "sex and run guy thing" given that he didn't want to hang out at your hotel. But some face time with him gives you half a chance.

Remember to play it cool; if he feels pressured, odds are he'll bolt.

[Asker]

I would if he was in the UK and not Portugal/Neatherlands! Makes it difficult

[MichaelCas]

It happens all the time read for example onenightstand1. com... But, if you ask did he really thinks, probably answer is yes, but he like any most of us think for every girl that slept with that is "georgus, beautiful, unique, blah, blah..." :) Don't be mad at me, this is just honest guy opinion :)

[Benvr4]

call him