OK, so yesterday it finally happened - I hung out for the first time (one-on-one) with this guy I like (I'm pretty sure he considered it a getting-to-know you as friends). We had some great conversations. he suggested playing the "I love" game (take turns saying something we each love.example "I love music" and explain) . he did this lie detector thing with me where he took my hands in his and looked into my eyes while I told him 4 truths and a lie and he had to guess which one was the lie. etc. etc. And he would joke around and sometimes seem a little flirty but I'm not sure if he was actually flirting or not! (Like we were on a train and I originally sat across from him. he wanted me to sit NEXT to him. he said "I bite, but just playful bites" etc. etc.
I don't know! we each talked a little about our exes (I know on dates you're not supposed to but I didn't think this was a date!) and shared some personal things. anyway I thought it went pretty well there were some awkward silences but mostly I was ok with the silence, I would just be thinking about something to say and he was more of a can't - stand-the-silence guy who kept trying to talk at all times. ANYWAY
at the end of the night, I drove him home (he came out to the city from the burbs on a train to see me, I drove him back to the burbs because I"m nice like that) , went into his house to use the bathroom/get directions home and then he walked me out to the car , I ACCIDENTALLY made this very awkward and kind of stood there looking in his eyes and smiling at him, I WAS NOT EXPECTING A KISS OR ANYTHING but I just blanked out on what to say to end it, (I should have said something like "have a good holiday!" or something! but I froze!) ended up he said "I had a really good time, Sarah" I kinda giggled, then we hugged, I think I stood there another awkward minute, then I got in the car.
I AM SO MAD AT MYSELF! I mean I texted him when I got home to tell him I made it safe, and that I had a good time and he was like "awesome! let me know when you get back so we can go out again" so I guess he wants to hang out again. I couldn't have f***ed it up that bad, right? I JUST HATE THAT I MADE IT AWKWARD! I DIDN'T MEAN TO AND I WASN'T LOOKING FOR HIM TO KISS ME!:-/ GAH! help!
also throughout the night we would mention things we'd like to do sometime and he would be like "yeah we should do that sometime" etc etc so all along he was acting like he wanted to hang out again and stuff even before it was all over.
GUYS, is it always awkward at the end of the night? have you ever not known what to say/do? could he have wantedt o kiss me (even though I am pretty sure this wasnt a date) and been shy, or thought it wasn't appropriate yet? pleaaasse help!
I don't know! we each talked a little about our exes (I know on dates you're not supposed to but I didn't think this was a date!) and shared some personal things. anyway I thought it went pretty well there were some awkward silences but mostly I was ok with the silence, I would just be thinking about something to say and he was more of a can't - stand-the-silence guy who kept trying to talk at all times. ANYWAY
at the end of the night, I drove him home (he came out to the city from the burbs on a train to see me, I drove him back to the burbs because I"m nice like that) , went into his house to use the bathroom/get directions home and then he walked me out to the car , I ACCIDENTALLY made this very awkward and kind of stood there looking in his eyes and smiling at him, I WAS NOT EXPECTING A KISS OR ANYTHING but I just blanked out on what to say to end it, (I should have said something like "have a good holiday!" or something! but I froze!) ended up he said "I had a really good time, Sarah" I kinda giggled, then we hugged, I think I stood there another awkward minute, then I got in the car.
I AM SO MAD AT MYSELF! I mean I texted him when I got home to tell him I made it safe, and that I had a good time and he was like "awesome! let me know when you get back so we can go out again" so I guess he wants to hang out again. I couldn't have f***ed it up that bad, right? I JUST HATE THAT I MADE IT AWKWARD! I DIDN'T MEAN TO AND I WASN'T LOOKING FOR HIM TO KISS ME!:-/ GAH! help!
also throughout the night we would mention things we'd like to do sometime and he would be like "yeah we should do that sometime" etc etc so all along he was acting like he wanted to hang out again and stuff even before it was all over.
GUYS, is it always awkward at the end of the night? have you ever not known what to say/do? could he have wantedt o kiss me (even though I am pretty sure this wasnt a date) and been shy, or thought it wasn't appropriate yet? pleaaasse help!
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Ohh I remember when those moments happen to me. I was at a party and a girl that I like was there. We were on the swings talking about random stuff and when she went to leave she said bye. I kind of felt angry for myself by not giving her a hug goodbye but I realized that I'm going to see her a lot so yeah I decided to take it slow with her.
I don't know if this is true but if you guys live in the same town then don't worry about it, you have plenty of time to hang out with each other, and if you don't then the best thing you could do is to call him to hang out with you again.
Thanks - he does live in the burbs and I live in the city (so we're about 40 minutes away from each other) but he comes to the city pretty often because he has lots of friends here. AND he was the one to keep mentioning through the evening things we should do together, and also said "let me know when you get back so we can go out again" .... I do wish HE would be the one to call me for next time though.....
If your playing the "I Love" game or "4 Truths and a Lie" it's pretty obvious that he wants to get intimate with you. I for one don't think it was awkward for you to expect a kiss from him, but more so that he didn't have the balls in the end to pull through.
So you wouldn't play "I love" or "4 truths and a lie" with just a girl you were trying to get to know as a friend?
Definitely not. I'd think it would be too blatantly obvious that I wanted more instead of just friendship if I asked someone to do that.
Thanks. I hope :-)
You were awkward with each other because you were nervous and are getting to know one another. Basically you two are finding your rhythm within how you interact. If he thought you were so bad, he wouldn't have said he wanted to go out with you again. Calm down!
You're in like flinn!
Good luck!
Thanks - it sucks because even though I like him, because I don't really think he likes me back I was trying not to act like it -and I thought I had blown it when I made it awkward. I wanted to be relaxed and normal and fun and instead I thought I came across as nervous and boring. At least he said he wants me to let him know when I'm back so we can go out again...