Bought a gift that can't be returned and we break up... what should I do?

[mandeemay]

My boyfriend and I had a bad fight. It is unsure if we are getting back together. Since I do want to get back together with him, I have to figure out what I can do. But the reason why I am here is because a week ago I set up something to get engraved (our fave line from our fave movie - nightmare before Christmas - on a glass heart with jack and sally). I already paid for it. What should I do when the engraving is done? Should I send him his heart and explain what happened (I paid - we broke up but I still think you should have this) or should I just keep it?

[Iccess78]

If it was meant for him you should still give it to him. The same happened to me. I bought a Valentine's gift for my ex and we broke up like the day before Valentine's day [i know, tragic, but I'm over it]. I gave him the present anyways because it was meant for him. He can do whatever the hell he wants with it now. My point is, you need to clear your head and you start with what's his, then any gifts from him, you handle that your own way...best to clear them out of your room though. Just saying!

[Iccess78]

You should still give him the gift. It was meant for him after all. Make sure though, that you clarify that it's over with and you just had to give him his things. I still have the gift meant for my ex and now, all I want to do is get rid of it. It too is nonrefundable (mainly because I waited to long).

[minx101d]

That is an awesome gift by the way. I say you should keep it for yourself if you two don't get back together. Even if both your names are on it, eventually it will be a reminder of the good times you had. If it hurts to look at it now just put it away until you can look at it and smile.

[mandeemay]

I actually bought two of them.. one for each of us. I just didn't know what I should do with his.

[minx101d]

Well that is different then. Matching book ends?

[Allupinyah]

You should keep it for at least another 2 - 3 weeks. People in relationships argue, fight and get upset all the time. Give it sometime for the two of you to cool down, and miss each other. Let time heal what had happened. You do want to be with him still. So, do not say or send anything to him about what you bought.

Just wait it out, you guys will be talking again. Then you can decide whether to return the item, or give it to him.

[NicoJonesInc]

Honestly, I would give it some time, and if things don't resolve themselves I would keep it. After all its not just his favorite movie. As for the engraving, most places can actually buff out the engraving fairly easily and make it look like it was never there. Keep it as a present for yourself if things don't workout.

[TyroneJayJackson]

You could keep it because after-all you are the one who paid for it, Or if you want to be creative you could smash it into pieces send it to him and put a note with it saying "i broke this heart just like the way you broke my heart".

[mandeemay]

I like the idea but I spent too much on it to do that

[slipslender]

you clearly put a lot of thought into the gift, I would give it to him anyway... if you don't mind me asking, what line did you select?

[mandeemay]

"My dearest Friend, If you don't mind, I'd like to join you by your side, where we can gaze into the stars, and sit together, now and forever, for it is plain as anyone can see, we're simply meant to be"

[slipslender]

:) beautiful line. yup. definitely give it to him.

[minx101d]

After reading the line you used I have to say try giving it to him. Explain to him what happened then ask him if he wants it.

[Anonymous]

Just keep it. Find another guy whose favorite movie is Nightmare Before Christmas, and date him. Then give the heart to him. BAM! Problem solved.

[slipslender]

oh, smh.

[mandeemay]

I can't because our names are engraved in it too

[Opinion Owner]

I was being facetious.

[Opinion Owner]

More seriously, don't give it to him. Pawn it if you can. Otherwise, throw it out. There's no reason he should get any more gifts from you.