Bought an extremely personal gift for him and we broke up before I gave him, it can't be returned what do I do?

[HerMaj]

I bought my boyfriend a book, where I had to fill out 30 things that I love about him/memories we've had, as well as a pack of his favorite rolling paper and 10 letters for each mood he could feel, and a personalized cup for him. We broke up a day ago, and he is supposed to come drop off my items, would giving him give out the wrong message? I had already informed him that I had his gift and was going to give him when I see him, pre break up. I don't know what to do?

[Aysen]

You've put a lot of dedication and hard work into making that book! To throw it away or burn it would be completely devastating for all the thoughts, feelings and memories you've put into it!

Whenever you have the opportunity to, I'd suggest giving him the book and tell him that this was made before the break-up happened; to show how much you really meant to him romantically. From there, it's ultimately his choice to decide what he wants to do with it. It could give him some wonderful memories to think about with the time you two spent together. An item with that much personality into it would be very difficult for someone to get rid of unless they absolutely hated that person with a fiery passion or feel completely apathetic towards them, which it doesn't like your boyfriend did. I'm not entirely sure how your break-up occurred and who initiated it, but just remember this, if you really love someone with all your heart and you want to express it, never shy away from it and show them how much you meant the world to them, even if they may not feel the same way at the moment.

I'm really sorry the break-up happened! If you still have feelings for him, I hope you two can stay in contact with each other whenever it's possible. You have a generous and romantic heart for putting in so much effort into a book that you both could share together of all those good moments you had together! I wish you best of luck with having this situation being fixed.

[newkinkboy1818]

What was the reason for the break up? do you still have feelings for him and is he worth fighting for? If the answer is yes give him the book and book a hotel for the night leaving the reservation in the book. if he turns up you go girl

[Justacatlady]

Give it to him. It’s not like you can do anything else with it. And it doesn’t send any message unless you say something along with it.

[Celtero]

I wouldn't want the effort of filling the book out to go to waste.

[abc3643]

Follow through.
GIve him the gift.

Who dumped who, by the way?
Why the breakup?

[HerMaj]

It was a mutual break up, I guess but it mainly had to do with the fact that he felt as though he was more invested than I was, which is because I genuinely never show any affection towards him, and he always initiated plans and anything intimate really

[abc3643]

So WTF were you thinking when you put together that personal gift?
It sounds like you need to work on you.

[HerMaj]

I suck at emotional stuff. But I did acknowledge that hr was important to me. And what I lacked verbally I put in writing. That was the whole point of the gift. To actually shoe him that I cared.

[abc3643]

And now you understand men.

[Anonymous]

Give him his stuff, then shove it into his chest and say "Here is your gift, you big jerk!" That way he knows that you aren't interested in getting back together. As well as how much he hurt you.

[jeremy_09]

give it to him in like 3 mos.

[OddBeMe]

go on a really specific dating spree

[Oldman401979]

Pitch it

[Flakey-Flake]

Burn it