If two friends are celebrating their birthday together, is it rude to get one of them a nicer gift?

[Anonymous]

Two people I know have the same birthday so they’re sharing a birthday dinner. One of them is my best friend so I got him a nice gift. I’m cool with the other person too but we’re definitely not as close. They’re more of a mutual friend.
Is it rude to show up to the dinner with a nicer gift for one person? Or is it understandable that I’m much closer with one of them so of course I’d get them a better gift?

[art84]

I have a niece and nephew who both have a birthday next month. But my brother is making them both a party on his son's birthday. I actually thought of getting both gift cards as both are picky. Now if I had two friends, I would probably not get one a better gift than the other. It would definitely be like showing you liked one over the other.

[Asker]

Well I do 😭
One is my best friend and the other is more of a mutual friend

[Anonymous]

Knowing your better friends with one of them I think that’s fine. If I were the friend who got less I’d actually be flattered that you got me anything at all. People have to remember it’s not a competition as to who got more, it’s the thought that counts.

[TrueConfection]

It's totally understandable unless the other guy is a schmuck. However! Your best friend might feel awkward getting a mixer gift in his friend's presence.

[LazerBean]

It would probably be kind of tacky, yes. It might be better to give them both cards and then later in private give them their gifts when it's a good time.