How would you feel if your co workers did nothing for your birthday?

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To add to that…I am the manager of the office. In the past an old co worker of mine got everyone together to plan a little in office birthday party for me. She no longer works with me. If it is someone’s birthday in the office I always get together with others to plan a little something. Whether it’s bringing in some food or snacks or ordering out for lunch that day. I get a card and have everyone sign it for them. I don’t expect anyone to ever do anything but it did hurt a little considering I do so much for my staff. I think what upset me even more is I went away for the weekend for my birthday and they asked if I was bringing back souvenirs? I don't know that just really irked me and now I don’t ever want to do anything for them again but I feel like I’m obligated too since I’m the manager.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I personally don’t like any attention or any praise or to be put in the spotlight in any way. Even if it’s my birthday. 🖕 So I don’t tell anyone it’s my birthday. 🖕 None of their business. And note that I’m 25. Never liked attention like that. Makes me uncomfortable. 😣 Makes me cringe 😬.

But if it’s the same staff as last year. And they did something for you last year. Maybe they all forgot. They were distracted with other stuff. They didn’t realize. They forgot what you did for them and their birthday. Or they just didn’t have a LIFE OF THE PARTY , LEADER person to plan something this time. In other words, they’re useless without that LEADER to remind them or convince them. That they’re more like depressed sheep 🐑.

And lastly, you did something that irritated all of them. LMAO! That’s probably what happened. Maybe it’s the pay. Or they wanted you to change or fix something and you never did.

BigWhiteWolf87 · Accepted Answer

You answered the reason in your own summary. You don't sound like a very nice person. In fact you sound overly emotional & a bit childish/vindictive not a very good personality when a manager.

To be extremely blunt if you act like you wrote that's why your colleagues didn't do anything for your birthday.

It's sort of like the junior levels of school, favorite teachers would get gifts and cake and all sorts of things on their birthdays or Valentine's Day or holidays but the teachers with bad attitudes that the kids tolerated at best may have gotten one or two things.

The person who used to arrange the birthday parties was very likely a kiss up, and that was their way of being on your good side all the time.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Had sex a lot of times with a minor over 4 days at a bachelor party in Las Vegas. I had no clue. I was 30 and she was 15. We got talking in the elevator and next thing I knew we were making out on my way to mu bedroom. She had the most amazing body big fat tits on her, she was kinda thick but not fat and real pretty in the face. She was with her parents and they left her to her own devices.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

I never got anything, but nor did I give to others.  It requires a certain personality and leader to organize... you had one and she left. I wouldn't take it personally.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i honestly would not care. birthdays here in the philippines is different though. the celebrant is the one who will take other people to lunch or dinner.

i will not die if they did nothing and so i will also do nothing for them. why would i obligate myself. i will just enjoy my birthday with my friends. dang your friends are also the ones who facilitate your bday right. learn to enjoy by yourself. since this is a tradition thingy if they do something for your bday then they're being good friends if not then don't also do anything for them. find other friends

TenderFantasy · Answer

Was your birthday posted on the wall? At my work, there are usually reminders of when people's birthdays are. If it's a big corporation, sometimes, people have the same birhdays or birth month. But since you say you are the manager, maybe next time, have a reminder of when people's birthdays are.

In my old jobs, people didn't celebrate each other's birthdays. You're lucky you work for a company that does that. I just got a new job and this company apparently does celebrate birthdays. Hopefully they will celebrate mine when it comes around in a few weeks. :)

Anonymous · Answer

me, personally, i would be glad they ignored my birthday. here's the thing, i don't want anything to do with my coworkers. they always used to do birthday cards for everyone else. i was often left out of that. i guess i don't mind, but at the time they made me feel like shit.

not sure why you hold your coworkers up so high. like i get it. but this is work. these are not your friends. they go to work to get a paycheck and go home... and since you are a manager and they know you get paid more than them, they may not bother. i just feel like it's nonsense to celebrate coworkers birthdays. but that's just me.

Flower7 · Answer

I wouldn’t mind one bit. I most likely wouldn’t even tell any coworkers that it was my birthday.

You’re not obligated to do anything for anyone’s birthday just because you’re the manager. Seeing that you weren’t treated well on your birthday should be the point at which you stop going out of your way on your employees’ birthdays.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

I wouldn't be surprised. At my previous jobs, they never got me anything for my birthdays: no party, card, gifts... I had to beg for my birthday off as a vacation! (My birthday falls on the day before July 4 so I'd take the week off as a birthday gift to myself).

In other words, don't expect your job to care about anything other than what you can do for them. I like my current job, but I only put in the same energy and effort I'm giving... otherwise it's just my paycheck.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t care because i don’t even want to celebrate my birthdays anymore, and i hope nobody would ever wish me or throw a surprise party for me anymore

But i understand how you feel. Not getting anything from people you do everything for. Their audacity to ask about souvenirs. Some people are that lame, but hey they’re not worth your time.. Don’t think about it.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

It would make me happy because:

A. My coworkers get me! Who wants people to recognize their birthday? Maybe someone does, but not me!!

B. My workplace is professional and not distracted by insignificant personal stuff.

C. With any luck, I will get through the day without realizing it was my birthday.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I wouldn't care. Up until recently, everyone in the office got a card, but the warehouse didn't. We were even expected to fill out their cards. I've been there for ten years and only just the past two, received a card. I don't celebrate anything, to begin with.

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

I honestly wouldn’t care at all…I’m at a point in life where I don’t even celebrate my own birthday 😂

DizzyDesii · Answer

I hardly remember their name. They dont owe me a birthday celebration lol

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I never expect anything. Birthdays are personal to me, however, we all agree that certain holidays necessitates us heading to the local watering hole to have a brew together.

TrueConfection · Answer

I'd be thankful. Reminding me it's my birthday is like telling me I have a stain on the front of my blouse when there isn't anything I can immediately do to remedy the situation.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I don’t like that kind of stuff at work.  don’t take it personally. If you want to do it from you heart, then do it. Don’t expect anything in return.

DCooper · Answer

I don't really care. They can have a party if they want, but I always take my birthday off work anyway, so they'll have to do it without me, lol.

douride2 · Answer

Many of my coworkers don't even know my name. As for them doing something on my birthday I wouldn't want them to do anything.

Agape93 · Answer

My coworkers save for two, don't even know my last name, I don't care if they do or don't do anything for it. I wouldn't be anyways

welcomemen · Answer

I don’t even know when my co-workers birthdays are. It wouldn’t upset me that much. If it was my family, friends or boyfriend who forgot my birthday that would upset me.

KathrynTaylor · Answer

Wouldn’t care.. only my friends and family remember my birthday.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Happy, because they dont need to know my birthday

Zayed_ · Answer

Are co workers obligated to celebrate their manager’s birthdays now?

jamesgoldman · Answer

Glad... it'll be worse than I can do for myself I should suspect

Luopio27 · Answer

Here in Finland, no one cares about coworkers birthdays. We are antisocial nation.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Must be all women. In male work spaces we don't even mention birthdays.

Msnsns · Answer

Doesn't bother me at all. Coworker are not my friends and I usually take off for my birthday so my mood is positive

Anonymous · Answer

Aww you have such a wonderful heart.  Maybe they forget your birthday? Did they wish you?

jv12094 · Answer

Tbh I wouldn't care as long as there not a really good friend.

CateM · Answer

Whatever, it's fine

the-mad-german · Answer

YOU ARE THEIR BOSS act alike

singlemombizz · Answer

I would not care, I enjoy my co workers.

JosyJosy · Answer

I don't like to celebrate it so it's fine.

Texaskid1 · Answer

I would lose zero minutes of sleep

Still-alive · Answer

not a big deal to me

TrillXHippy · Answer

I would not care

OddBeMe · Answer

Not surprised since I don’t tell anyone.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Happy.

melanieeeB · Answer

Nothing lol

RusticFox · Answer

Couldn't care less just another day to me.

riverrat3 · Answer

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