I've been on here for about three years now and in all that time I've been on here, I realized one very important thing. No one REALLY gets what a person is trying to say, they seem to miss the point entirely. I'm not going to say it's an online thing, because it's not. It's just a people thing. A thing where people seem to focus on one specific thing, like a dog with a bone but not take the time to focus on what the point actually was.
So, I'm going to go over a few things and see if when I'm done people finally get it.
Disclaimer: This will have a very many hodge podge of things, so bare with me.
Let's start, with some word definitions. I feel people like to say words,but I'm not sure if they actually get what it means and what would qualify the use of said word.
Definitions:
Preference: 1. preferring or being preferred. 2. somthing preferred. 3. an advantage given to someone over others.
The word Preference in a sentence: I'm not against the color green, I just prefer the color blue.
Demand: 1. to claim as right. 2. to require. 3. to ask for in an urgent or peremptory manner. 4. to ask. 5. a claim. 6. an urgent requirement. 7. consumers' desire for a product.
The word Demand in a sentence: I want those reports on my desk by five o'clock sharp and no later!
Opinion: a belief or judgement
An example of an Opinion: I'm not sure buying a house in this economy, is a wise decision.
Insult: 1. to treat with contemptuous rudeness 2. contemptuously rude remark or act.
An example of an Insult: Are you really going to wear that? I can't believe you're actually going to wear that.
Pervert: 1. to corupt. 2. to turn to improper use. 3. to distort 4. a perverted person.
An example of what qualifies as a Pervert: The guy that cut a little peep hole into the Victoria's Secret dressing room, so he could watch girls undress.
Now, that we have established some definitions. Let's talk about the points people miss or what they don't get.
What people don't seem to get:Is with all those words, there's very huge differences.
So..........................
When a women, say's that she will "only date tall men", that's not preference. That's a requirement, which is the same as a demand.
When a man, get's upset by girls saying that, it's not because they don't feel a woman has the right to have a type of man she prefers. He's upset because she has a requirement not all men will be able to meet and he feels it's unfair.
When a man, makes the statement of "ladies, stop with those pixie cuts". That's not a guy indicating he prefers long hair, that's a guy demanding that all women everywhere have long hair because men feel it looks better.
When a women, gets upset it's not because they feel men don't have the right to perfer one hair length over the other. They're upset, because men think it's okay to make women with short hair feel like they're unpretty and undatable. Or, make them feel like they're not allowed to do what they see fit with their own hair. Which, is what women find not right and unfair.
When you, ask a person "how do I look?" or "what do you think of this color?" or " will you taste this, I just made it and I'd like you to tell me what you think. Does it need more salt?" Those are people looking for and opinion or wondering what another person thinks.
When someone, just comes up to you out of the clear blue sky and say's " Whoa, what did you do to your hair? It looked better the othe way". or " I really hate your clothes, you should let me pick out your clothes. I have better taste than you do" or " Are you playing video games, again? OMG, you are so boring and dull. Don't you ever do anything fun?" Those are not opinions, those are insults by people who think they have the right to say what ever they want. And, are in total disreguard of how the person hearing that might feel.
When a guy, looks through a telescope to look into his neighbor across the streets apartment, that's a pervert. When a guy trys to look up a girls skirt or down her shirt, that's a pervert. When a guy goes to a bar or resturant and slaps the waitresses ass, that's a pervert (or more like a creep).
When a guy, say's "hi, how are you?", that's not pervert. When a guy compliments you or tells you're pretty, that's not a pervert. When a guy sends you a message online and there's nothing sexual in it, obviously he wouldn't be considered a pervert.
My point with all those examples? Those all things I've heard a lot, epsecially on here. People getting upset at other people for getting upset. People thinking unnecessary comments are just people giving their opinion. Girls thinking guys who are being friendly or sending them a message, are guys actually being a pervert or a creep.
So, my point is that all of that is what people seem to be missing. They seem to be missing the true definition of the word. They seem to be missing the other persons point of view. They seem to be missing how hearing certain things, might make certain people feel. They seem to be missing that "pervert" and "creep" aren't new fad words you can just through around when ever a guy annoys you or you're not interested.
I feel people believe what they want to believe and when you try show them otherwise, they freak out. I feel people (on here), only read the title of the question or the take and don't take the time to read the whole thing because it's too long. And, they don't want to bother with something lenghty. So, because they don't REALLY read it, they just pick up little things here and there and comment based on that. Which, leads to people missing the entire point or taking things for opposite of what they are.
In Conclusion: Understand the True meaning of a word, before you use it. Take the time to REALLY listen to a person or REALLY read what they wrote, so you can truly understand what they are saying. Don't let what YOU believe, over shadow what someone else is trying to ACTUALLY say. Be sure you know what they really meant before you start getting on your high horse and calling them names, be sure you understand their point of view. If you feel you don't really get the point, ask them what it is so there is no confusion and thus no negative comments.
Hopefully, now everyone gets it or is at least more aware.
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