How to Get What You Want Out of Your Life, a Life Changing Read

This is information I paid £360 ($455) to learn which I am sharing with you for free.

We all have things we want that we are not getting. A better job, a bigger house, fluency in the Portuguese language, fitness, weight loss, finishing that novel we are writing, a family, etc. You are probably all like, "Yeah, that is why I hate myself so much. I want all that but it is my fault I don't have it!" I have news for you. You are absolutely right. To a degree.

The truth is, it is our fault because we make excuses as to why we can't achieve our goals. That slim girl you see that runs past your house, she was not born on another special planet where they all magically look healthy, she has not had to sell her soul on eBay to look like that. Your friend that just passed a piano exam, he may be able to afford a teacher or may have talent, but he has spent a lot of time working on this skill while others have done other things. Question is, is it too late to learn? NO! Can you change yourself and do the same? YES! So stop making excuses.

So, let's do something here.

1. Think of something you want to do really bad. It can be anything.

2. Decide what you would have to do to achieve that.

3. This is when all the excuses will come up like "what if..." "but I can't..." Yes, you may have limitations, but what else are you going to be doing in that time? Why not work through the limitations as well?

4. Identify time wasted or activities you do you could replace with better ones. Make a schedule. Even practicing the guitar for just 30 minutes a day helps.

5. Be realistic.

6. Have fun! This is a game!

7. Don't worry about setbacks, they are all part of the process and will test your conviction to achieve what you want.

You are becoming the person you want to be, you only live once and not forever so what else are you going to do? Sit there wishing or get up and start doing it?

Remember that you can change!

One big, fat, horrible lie we tell ourselves is that we can't and don't have the means to change. That is the core of the problem. After being mistreated by others, told by the media that we are worthless, and having setbacks, we narrow our perspective of our abilities down to the same as looking through a straw. Imagine someone in a location where they are surrounded by everything they want, the love of their life, delicious food, lovely sand to run through, places to go hear beautiful music, that book you are dying for to come out, and they are crying and getting all upset because in their perspective, they are covered with huge titanium chains that are locking them down from moving. This is pretty sad from others' perspectives.

A leader that I admire put it very well:

Once any of us conclude—“That’s just the way I am,” we give up our ability to change. We might as well raise the white flag, put down our weapons, concede the battle, and just surrender—any prospect of winning is lost. While some of us may think that does not describe us, perhaps every one of us demonstrates by at least one or two bad habits, [or lack of achievements] “That’s just the way I am."

OK?

What happened to me.

So last year, I was really depressed. I was overweight, had little or no self-esteem, I had a piano exam coming up which I was not doing great at practicing for, I was was so behind with my math work, etc.

So, I ended up going to this place in the English Midlands along with 300-400 others where we were taught with all these workshops how to become better people, how to achieve goals, etc. I am sure you have pictured in your head this rehab centre thing with all of these medically depressed people, but that could not be further from the truth. These people, including me, went for fun. Imagine like an indoor summer scout camp thing with everyone smiling, happy, making friends, being treated with respect. I am going to share 5 main things we were taught there that have helped me a lot.

1. Our life is a story- we are the authors.

Some of you will have written stories, books, etc. You know how it feels to be able to control your plot and character. It is the same for your life, you have the pen and you only get one shot at it and then it is over when you die. What is going to happen to you? Decide!

2. Bad things happen, sometimes things happen differently to what we expected, but good things can be made from them and sometimes they provide a much needed plot twist which can be better.

It is all there. Sometimes we don't get the job, maybe there is a better one around the corner. We get ill, when you get better, you can become healthier and you will be grateful for your health and the experience can help you through other hard things. Thought: We have control, even if an unexpected circumstance occurs, we control how we react.

3. Resilience and Adaptability.

Ever heard of this guy? Ernest Shackleton. He was an explorer that went down to Antarctica, and to make a long story short, had disasters happen to him which included his men getting stranded in different areas around the Weddell Sea, being stuck for years, and finally getting them back together and returning home. We were taught about him, and the qualities of resilience which means no matter what happens, we return back to our original state (which is a learned trait buy the way) and adaptability. Adaptability means that no matter what life throws at us, we can still achieve our goals if we be flexible.

4. We should stop comparing ourselves to others.

In a judging way. Apparently, there are 3 basic ways of comparing ourselves to others a) I am better than you at something. b) I am worse than you at something. c) I am worse/better looking than you.

While it is good to see others' good qualities and try to emulate them, tell yourself 'well done' for achieving something hard, or trying to look your best, it becomes damaging when we beat ourselves up and others for these things. If we get upset with ourselves because someone is better, we can do the 'that's the way I am' thing and stop ourselves from developing. If we go around thinking we are better, we focus so much on what everyone else should be doing that we miss what we should be doing ourselves and so therefore, don't develop. With the looks, there is a lot more to life than looks and getting caught up with it will just cause issues.

So, I hope this helps you. I learnt all this for a lot of money and here it is for you for free. When I came back, I lost tons of weight, did really well with math and piano, I started doing exercise but found out soon after that I had a health issue that I needed to get over before I really got into the exercise like hardcore. I am working through it. I know I myself have not taken this advice as much as I should have, but there is still time and I can not wait to see what i can do when I get better. I have a lot more confidence and self-respect.

Enjoy!