Good Things About Womanhood

[Jjpayne]

Wow so this is my first mytake and this is partly inspired by @omgjassy
Did you ever had a dream where you were the opposite sex?

I figured I would aim for more of a good view and considering this is all about girls asking guys, I figured it would be good to put out there what I think is good about being a girl. I had heard some interesting rants before so I am going to try to stay on topic and be positive and honest about it. This is my opinion and based on how I have seen things in society and my family and friends. This is a celebration of women, not a reason to say they have it better than us. But to say that both sexes have their parts. Well let's get started, shall we?

1. Pregnancy

It's the first thing that popped into my head, not the first thing that popped out. lol

It really is more than just having a baby, it is the whole experience.

There is a whole culture around it. It is a celebration and a fun womanhood experience. I know there is throwing up and uncomfortableness and the pregnancy pains but ask this, if mothers could say they would take it all back, would they?

2. Clothing options

I suppose we can start with, how many clothing places are there in the mall for men and how many are for women?

I think just about anybody would say that there are clearly more women's stores than men's stores and with good reason. A lot of men don't care as much about clothing as women do. I think that's a pretty accepted fact. I know myself that if I got to get clothes I will be on a mission, we want it quick and we want it simple.

And girls will fully enjoy the experience

That's not even getting into girl specific clothes

3. Hair

Girls have the most fun with their hair! They spend a lot time but honestly the time spent on hair is a small price to pay to for the fun of it.

4. Make up

Now I know you say natural beauty but this is clearly an advantage to women that most of the time is unacceptable for men.

You can not help but be drawn to the right hand side. This is a good thing.

5. Generally more acceptable with children.

Let's be honest, I googled babysitter with kids, how many images with men and kids came up? One, and I am surprised to see that. Girls are the best when it comes to kids and are seen as the best when it comes to kids and let's be honest, how many times do girls think kids are cute compared to guys? How about a higher pitched voice closer to a kids voice and on average shorter and smaller in body size, which looks less intimidating to a child.

6. Girls can been seen to be freer and have more fun.

We as guys are more closed off and less able to get jiggy wit it. I have seen girls just be able to unwind and let loose easier than guys.

Sure many guys can be the life of the party but I heard a song recently that said where the girls are that's where the fun is, and I personally think that to be true.

(just ran out of pictures :( sad face) Lets come up with one final one. Lucky number 7

7. It can look and feel more attractive to be a girl.

It just looks powerful me. I honestly don't know what makes girls turn heads but I feel like more often it's the guys that are turning theirs.

Well, hopefully you agree with most of my assumptions, hopefully there will at least be a good mix anyways. Cheers, as some gaggers would say.

[cherryphi82]

I love men. I think men are the greatest creatures on earth, and I'll argue anyone who thinks male bodies are not amazing. There's no better invention than a penis. Men are able to let loose and shoot the shit way more than women. We wish we could, so we imitate it, but the original inventors of the friendly jab or affectionate competition are men. Men can just roast each other to the ground and still go drink a beer afterwards. Men are great at playing and working side by side. They can hang out in complete silence and still know what the other is thinking. Their friendships run deep, long and consistent and they don' t give up once they've decided they want someone in their circle. Men would jump on a grenade for you. They do the main lifting and they carry heavy because they are often told not to let go. Men provide the semen which is magic to me. There is no other way a child can come into existence. Men's sense of style, presence and physical gorgeousness is often underrated. So is men's gentleness. Men can be both tender and firm and they are experts at diffusing angry and explosive situations. Men have grace and elegance in the way they move. Have you ever watched salsa dancers? The original cuban motion? All men. Men know and possess both confidence and humility. They have to learn to be both at a young age. That's what gives them that swagger. They know when and how to take the lead and to direct in a way that makes everyone else want to jump in line. They inspire and they are visionaries. They get stuff done and they know how to inspire others to want to get stuff done. Men are the original dreamers. Their motto is actions over words. They govern tribes and build villages. They hunt and they prey. They are swift and precise and their ability to concentrate in the face of danger is beyond anything I've ever witnessed. That's how men are. Bold, keen, slick. Men are needed. They can more than hold their own in terms of beauty, strength, prowess and ability. Their aura is what causes excitement. Their scent is to die for. There's nothing a woman could give me in comparison to the comfort and majestic strength of a man.

[Jjpayne]

Very insightful! Thank you! I have actually been looking for detail like this about the value of men! Thank you for the detail!

[cherryphi82]

Thanks so much for MHO!

[Jjpayne]

You're welcome! Thank you!

[Shydude91]

Not all men are bold, i'm actually timid.

[cherryphi82]

@Shydude91 Not all women like fashion and make-up.

[Zefram]

This post was awesome to read, I'm following this smart chick.
But also in relation to this whole thing. My girlfriend is SUPER cute, sweet, warm and welcoming to everyone, especially kids, but I'd like to point out that both of my sister's kids and even my gf's nephew like me and run to me first for comfort so there's something to be said there. We're a lot alike, I'm sort of uppity and really nice and comforting in personality but I also recognize I'm slightly more closed off emotionally than my girlfriend, just how we were raised I guess, she's female and I'm male. But the kids still like me... I think a little more.

[cherryphi82]

@Zefram Thank you ;) Yeah, men can definitely be nurturing too.

[Zefram]

@cherryphi82 It's sort of a war between my girlfriend and I for which one is more nurturing and cuter. Well, I mean she wins cuteness but I've been told by her and other women I can be pretty cute myself. But damnit we're a match in that department 'cause her niece still runs to her first but her nephew will come to me for comforting so I'm the winner in the kids department right now. Hell, I'm even better with dogs, both mine and hers really gravitate to me even though when it comes to dogs I'm a little more strict but still fair and nurturing.
And I'm the kind of guy who was raised tough, you know, show no emotions as a man, to the point where I still say a man can't have the level of nurturing a woman can. I'm fucking proving myself wrong.

[A_Bell]

Fashion is a huge perk. I love the options we have from hats to shoes and everything in between.

[Jjpayne]

There are so many options, I honesty find myself going through the woman's section and going that looks cute and if I were a girl I would totally wear that. I get bored looking at the men's section, the women's section is so much more fun and colorful

[A_Bell]

I have never been comfortable in pants. Being tall and strangely proportioned, they never fit right and also seem so claustrophobic on my legs (especial means). I could not imagine being trapped wearing them like men are.

[Jjpayne]

There was a recent post of men in skirts. I am just waiting for it to happen. I think it has happened in fashion. and I would like to see a main stream version. I think leggings are becoming more acceptable for guys to wear, they are not there yet but they are slowly becoming more possible

[Jjpayne]

i.pinimg.com/.../...rts-for-men-unisex-fashion.jpg

[Jjpayne]

I think the tights may be a bit much

[A_Bell]

hairy man-leg wouldn't go with a skirt.

It doesn't look horrible, almost like a kilt, but men in frilly girls clothing looks terrible.

[Jjpayne]

Yeah, hairy legs would look kinda bad. and there are lines that guys can't cross and frilly is one of them

[Jjpayne]

It does not look that bad. I picked it out because it looked like a respectable option

[clampfan101]

Ya, being a women definitely has some great advantages. (I wouldn’t want to become one, because that would make me a lesbian Christian. lol Awkward.) But ya, being a woman looks enjoyable. 🙂
I wonder what a woman’s version of this,(regarding manhood from her perspective), would typically be like. 🤔

[Jjpayne]

Nice to see another fellow Christian, Thanks for the post!

[Unit1]

I love women!

More nice things about women: Naturally more kinder, nurturing, Wey quite caring and they get so mushy and cuddly and lovey dovey when you got their heart 😍 mmm😋😋

And of course the sex!

[Jjpayne]

I might think about doing a part 2 as long as the good comments outweigh the resistance, my goal is to have fun and not to debate. I want people to enjoy it and not get offended by it

[Unit1]

Mate, there will always be those trigger happy special bigots, who will never be happy no matter what and they cannot handle opinions. Your duty is to ignore these losers.
Misery loves it's own company.

Go and write a part 2 if you like.

[Unit1]

Cheers mate!

[Anonymous]

nice take but
1. i dont want to experience pregnancy for medical reasons and i dont think its a fun experience? at least from my perspective.
2. mens clothes are baggier, cheaper and just fun to buy and try on. i also hate shopping so it isn't a very fun experience for me.
3. i have thin and frizzy hair so its not really that fun? lol
4. i dont wear makeup. i admit it makes me look slightly better but i just can't get myself to wear it , it makes me uncomfortable , maybe because i try to draw as less attention to myself as possible.
5. which could be a bad thing because people will think they can trust the babysitter because she's female but who knows? maybe she's untrustworthy around kids or creepy. i personally dont get along with kids and only babysat relatives.
6. i have no fun believe me lmao. a lot of people think girls are happier and more cheerful but believe me some of us are gloomy and shy and aren't that fun.
7. im far away from attractive my friend but i agree there are many tools and ways a woman can be attractive.
all in all i guess i just dont experience those perks so i dont really enjoy womanhood since I've always looked and been kind of like a dude.

[Jjpayne]

I admire your honesty. I wish we could talk about it face to face. What do you think is a perk of womanhood for you and what have you personally experienced?

[Opinion Owner]

i look physically strong and taller than the average female so its very rare that someone steps in to help however some days im very exhausted and about to pass out and a man will lend a helping hand to me out of chivalry and i think thats a good thing when it comes to being a woman when you are being hurt or when you are tired usually men will lend a helping hand. or offer to let me in front of them in line , usually women experience these things.
i guess growing up and seeing my body go through changes and become feminine was fun (though that didn't end well haha ) .
and being able to apply makeup for fun , though as i mentioned i hate going out with makeup so i dont wear it outside the house. however i do love seeing the changes it does to my face.
and i appreciate the little in our hands , legs, hips. all those detailed differences between a man and a womans body and behavior amazes me and i love delving into the scientific aspect of what makes us women , well , womanly.

[Opinion Owner]

little differences*

[Jjpayne]

Chivalry is a great perk for men that still honor it! and gender differences in bodies it pretty crazy. If we go into biological things of gender it is like opening a can of worms. There are so many studies and it becomes really interesting. I had fun with that in college and I really in enjoyed the books, the male brain and the female brain. Thanks for replying back!

[AngelaAng]

Maybe you’re not conventionally attractive, Anonymous, but you do sound attractive and interesting. Nobody has to conform. In fact, none of us can fit an image totally. I hope you work on #6 and start to have some fun in life. It’s fine to be shy.

[Opinion Owner]

@AngelaAng thank you. i guess its a problem that i sound interesting and i have an alright personality but i dont look attractive , though i have stopped trying to conform since i realized there isn't much i can do to fit in or change.
and i hope i can loosen up and have fun but negativity has been my thing for a long time now.

[AngelaAng]

I'm going to ask a question about this since I'm interested in how attractiveness impacts being able to meet someone.

[Anonymous]

I so strongly disagree with those things. I don't even know how to start
1. Pregnancy. You must have completely NO IDEA how much it can destroy a woman's body. Personally, I want to sterilize as fast as I will be able to. Fetuses are monsters who are weakening their own mother. I have sadistic impulses when I see a newborn creature.
2. Clothes are fun unless you have no sense of style... Girls are judging me on that, and it sucks to look bad in your clothes, but I have so much choice that I simply don't feel how to combine it all to look good.
3. Hair is fun? Not when you have them naturally weak and small amount of them. They look horrible, but you can't do anything with them since any heat would damage them.
4. You know how much make up costs? I mean, even if I didn't think that make up is fakeness, I wouldn't be able to afford it.
5. Kids again? I don't think you need more of my descriptions on how I would torture all of those disgusting creatures.
6. I don't think that's true, you can party and do all the things girls do as well
7. Attractive yeah... It's a genetic lottery. I have rectangular shape of body and bad face features.

I understand that some women might love kids, have no problem with style, have great hair to play with, have fun while putting make up and be attractive. This is just my take on your take

[Jjpayne]

Thanks for sharing

[TwinklingNeurons]

xD this is great

[Opinion Owner]

@TwinklingNeurons?

[TwinklingNeurons]

Your bluntness and honesty

[Astoriana]

There are plenty of women who regret having children. My best friend’s mother is one of them, and she’s not alone. There is a private Facebook group for mothers who regret becoming mothers with well over 9,000 members that is growing all the time. And that’s just the Canadian group.

Here are some articles on women who regret becoming mothers:

https://www.macleans.ca/regretful-mothers/
https://www.BBC.com/news/education-43555736
www.marieclaire.com/.../

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Of course there are some women who regret having children. However, the vast majority of them don't regret having children. If anything, women who claim they don't have kids often change their mind when they get pregnant-I've seen countless examples of this.

Actually, I don't think most people (men, or women) regret having children.

[Astoriana]

@EnglishArtsteacher that’s hard to gauge, given the intense stigma around admitting that motherhood isn’t the rosy perfect picture that you’ve always envisioned. You get called selfish, entitled, lazy and have your femininity questioned if you dare to admit that you don’t want kids. Why is it such a stretch to imagine that some women regret becoming mothers?

[Celtero]

Simply bad parents and human beings tbh.

[Astoriana]

@Celtero so I suppose that 70% of mothers in the mid-70s were “bad people and bad mothers” because they regretted having children?

Child, please. Don’t judge what you don’t understand.

[Celtero]

What I understand is that those women don't wanna grow up and they're inept when it comes to properly raising children.

It's one thing to not to want to have kids, but having them and regretting it? Simply despicable. An admittance to a failure as a parent, and a human really, since our purpose is to procreate.

I mean look at those women in the articles, they're all freakin' selfish, hedonist single mothers. Women like that are irresponsible, unrealistic, incapable of finding a good father or committing to one, and unworthy of the ability to create human life.

[Astoriana]

@Celtero that’s a whole lot of judgment. Did you actually read the articles or did you just open them and decide that everyone mentioned was against God?

You have to say something interesting fast or I’m going to block you for being the most boring human to ever live.

[Jjpayne]

I want to aim to say that children are a gift and a blessing and motherhood is a special thing, not a curse. I understand not all women feel this way but there is a lot of fruit that comes from being a mother. It is not easy but I know many women that do not regret having children or the motherhood experience. In fact, I don't know of any one in person in my life that does that does. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have children but it is sad that mothers don't want their children or want to be a mother to them. Sure maybe the timing is wrong or maybe they were not planning on it but babies are beautiful things. I am not saying you are wrong about mothers I am just saying that motherhood should be viewed positivity not negatively, it is a good thing.

[Astoriana]

Is it though, Asker? Because for me, it seems like I give up 20+ years of my life to a life of drudgery and a stalled career.

[Jjpayne]

I place things in a different way. If I could be pregnant I would in a heart beat. It is not about my life being impacted, it is about creating a life, a legacy. If someone told me I would need to put my college or career on hold for a child, I would. I think pregnancy is something to look forward to and not something to dread. It is a celebration, not a funeral. It is life, not death. It may not be for everyone but I still think it is a special moment of womenhood

[Celtero]

God? What God? There is no God. What I'm saying is that it's a terrible thing to regret having kids. Either you're naive and ignorant to how hard it is to be a parent and you had kids selfishly, or you raised bad and unpleasant people.

Kids deserved to be raised well with parents that don't regret having them.

Your parents gave up a lot for you to exist, and now you're reluctant to do the same? And it's not 20+ years, kids start going to school before they're 10, and they're very independant at that point anyway. Having kids is the only way you'll ever experience childhood again...

But that's besides the point. I don't really give a fuck if you don't want to have kids, it's just wrong to regret it. Because it means either you aren't a suitable parent and had kids anyway, or you messed up raising them.

And I dunno where you got 70% from, but in one of those articles it seemed <10% of people regretted having kids.

Motherhood being a bad thing is just feminist bullshit.

[Astoriana]

It’s totally a funeral. It’s a waste of my degrees that I paid over 100K for. Any idiot can get pregnant.

@Celtero, you’ve been blocked for being boring and self-righteous. I hope you’re happy.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

I never denied that women regret having kids. I'm just saying that are definitely a minority. You said there are 9,000+ mothers in the Canadian Facebook group, and Canadian estimates there are about 9.8 million mothers in Canada. That's clearly a tiny percentage of Canadian mothers part of that Facebook group.

You're probably right a lot of mothers are ashamed to admit they regret being a mother, but I can't blame them for not admitting that. That makes them appear as if they're neglectful, or abusive mothers. There also seems to be a stigma for women who don't want kids.

[Astoriana]

@EnglishArtsteacher there's huge stigma. Now it's expected that every woman has to be this earth mama who breastfeeds until the kid is 5 or something equally ridiculous, and be totally cool with working fewer hours - but doing the same amount of work in their career. And your kids have to do so many things now. My cousin's kids are four and two, and she's got them in ridiculous amounts of extra-curriculars. They're not even in school yet. And she's doing that essentially on her own because her husband is off on business trips up to five days out of seven.

Being a mother sucks. You'd be stupid not to regret parts of it. Your time isn't your own, and never will be again. You never stop being a parent, not even when they leave home.

[Jjpayne]

"It’s totally a funeral. It’s a waste of my degrees that I paid over 100K for. Any idiot can get pregnant. "

"Being a mother sucks. You'd be stupid not to regret parts of it. Your time isn't your own, and never will be again. You never stop being a parent, not even when they leave home. "

I am not going to change the way you feel. That is your opinion and I will respect that.

[Jjpayne]

My thumbs up is still there. Thank you for your posts!

[binarybabe001]

To be totally honest with you Jj, the only thing I enjoy about being a female is multiple orgasms. All of the things you listed above haven't really worked out for me well (and I hate shopping and only do it once a month if, I can help it) except for the beautiful hair which I inherited from my grandmother who is native American and Filipino.

[Jjpayne]

Not all girls fit into a box. I appreciate your honesty! I know these are all assumptions and they don't always fit perfectly with everybody...

[binarybabe001]

👍 cool beans dude!

[lilaqua]

I don't really experience the shopping thing. I hate shopping and if I have to go I go online first, work out what I want and just get in and out as fast as possible. That was when I actually shopped at normal stores, nowadays I just can't do it, so I pretty much am reliant on thrift stores and hand-me-downs from my mum.

[Jjpayne]

You can find some really cool things at thrift stores!

[EnglishArtsteacher]

You're the second female I've ever met in my life who hates shopping (the other being my cousin).

[LovingZombi]

this is a really good take and i believe girls have more things that they can express while guys are expected to only have short hair and baggy jeans... Honestly i dont mind when guys show personality into their outside looks. i just want a celebrity to say "this is the new thing" so people aren't judge for wanting to be who they are...(sorry if this sounds cheesy, just my own takes on this)

[Jjpayne]

Preach it sister

[CubsterShura]

The greatest thing about womanhood is that women are nearly one half of the world but give birth to both halves. A woman's contribution in the world is really underrated.

[Jjpayne]

I could not agree more

[RussianBorn]

a man is needed for that
so women have only half of glory

[CubsterShura]

Of course that's true, a man is needed for that. Both men and women are needed to reproduce but seriously who bears the growing baby for 9 months and then breastfeeds for another few years?

[YourFutureEx]

"How about a higher pitched voice closer to a kids voice and on average shorter and smaller in body size, which looks less intimidating to a child."

Learned something new today. Thanks!
Great debut.

[Jjpayne]

Thanks! and thanks for reading!

[Anonymous]

I can honestly say, with the utmost conviction, that no man on the face of the earth would EVER want to share the physical burden of carrying a child to term. But whatever you want to tell yourself, bro.

[Jjpayne]

What I am trying to say is the benefits outweigh the costs. Having a child is a beautiful thing. I am not saying it's an easy thing by any means but it is a beautiful thing. It is a meaningful experience. It's about carrying a living thing inside of you. There is a romance to the pregnancy experience. It is not just about throwing up and pain. There is more to it than that.

[Jjpayne]

Women do get excited about having children too. It can be an exciting time in a woman's life to have a child.

[greencarpet]

Women may get excited before you're born, but, they soon stop loveing you affter you're born and they're faced with the daily grind of nappy changeing and feeding. ITV ought to be banned, they advertise expensive toys on telly then you beg your mum to buy them for you, but your dad dosn't earn enough so alll the other kids can have things you can't afford, we should ban all forms of advertiseing to take some of the presure off mothers. Then you fail all your exams and can't go to university and your parents love your brother because he passed his exams and hate you because you're thick. Pitty there isn't some sort of a test they can do before you're born, find out how inteligent you're going to be, if you're too stupid to pass 5 A levels your mother could have an abortion. Life's not worth liveing if you hav't got a degree, only inteligent people like my brother have enough money to make life worth liveing, stupid people like me are better off dead.

[AngelaAng]

@greencarpet Sweetheart, don't cling to that kind of thinking! Even without money, you can love and be kind to others. That's what makes life worth living, how much good you can put into the world. It's a way to fight back against those who have been cruel to you.

[POTAYTOPOTAHTO]

It’s interesting to see what men think is good about being a woman. Thanks for sharing!

[Jjpayne]

You're welcome! Thanks for reading and posting!

[Logorithim]

Interesting Take. I haven't really thought about any of these things, other than pregnancy (and that only because I am a father).

[Jjpayne]

Thank you and it is fun to hear a fathers prospective!

[Anonymous]

Great take. The only bad thing is that women have a such a short period of prime attractiveness 15-30 compared to men 18-45.

[Pejtu]

That is true when girls are around 27-30 and older their "sexual marketplace" goes down like hell fast for men when we are 20-45 we are at the beginning of the journey

[Pejtu]

thats why my grandfather told me life starts after 25 ;)

[arnoldsmith]

usually once a women hits 25 its starts to decline slowly

50 years old
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[Pejtu]

@arnoldsmith yea but those guys are exepctions there is like 10% of man above 40 that look like this or not even 10% be real dude our time is to 40 maximum

[arnoldsmith]

@Pejtu

any guy can do this
put in the work
especially at an early age and the guy or girl will look a lot better

[Opinion Owner]

@arnoldsmith I dont know many people who can devote 4 hours per day 28 hours per week to working out.

[arnoldsmith]

well that's cause you are all slaves to the system
I'm free
so I can work out as much as I want

I work out 4 and half hours a day
with tons of free time

sometimes only 3 hours a day
and on days of rest only 1 hour
so to those who want true freedom
go be poor

[Opinion Owner]

@arnoldsmith do you live with your parents?

[EnglishArtsteacher]

I don't know if the range is wider; it's just that men have their prime later.

Women prime out in their attractiveness in their 20's; men prime out in their 30's, and it may bleed into their 40's.

[arnoldsmith]

nope i live on my own

[Celtero]

Not if you take care of yourself.

[Jjpayne]

Yeah that is sad but it does not change the fact that girls can still have fun after 30. I can still call a woman in her 50's a girl if I want to. In fact, there are many old ladies I know that spunkier than young girls. As long as you are young on the inside the fun does not have to stop!

[EnglishArtsteacher]

@Jjpayne From my experience, women in their 30's/40's are more fun, and can cut loose, than women under the age of 30.

[arnoldsmith]

@EnglishArtsteacher

yeah cause they have less options
not like a 20 year old

[JuarezTheCurious]

Well just what can I say... lol. Excellent post. I was wondering what advantages women might have, because let's be honest here, especially with how much society pushes it, men SEEM like the superior, more free sex/gender... but of course, there are perks to being a woman over a man. And this post layed them out very well.

[MarketData]

Big womanhood supporter here.

[Jjpayne]

What's that a picture of?

[MarketData]

Woman in a hoodie.

[Jjpayne]

She has a small voice but is great at writing and drawing anime

[greencarpet]

Best thing about being a woman, you don't have to work hard or pay attention in school, just find a rich guy and sucker him into marrying you and you're set for life.

[Gedaria]

Yes, yes, yes, Oh how you hit the nail on the head. It like you were reading my mind. Brilliant I really enjoyed this. Being transgender my life has been one of envy towards women and you said it all.. Thank you !!!

[LegateLanius]

Both men and women should be acceptable with children.

[Jjpayne]

I agree

[Angelina25]

Well written.

[Jjpayne]

Thank you!

[omgjassy]

Those are indeed the perks

[omgjassy]

And thank you that I inspired you. Nicely written!

[Jjpayne]

Thank you and It was honestly also inspired by the fact that I did not have a mytake yet. So strange that gaggers like myself can go so long without a mytake

[omgjassy]

Hahah indeed, because you always write long thoughtful answers.

[dandee55]

Pretty good for a debut take.

[Jjpayne]

Thank you!