Honestly, this is very relatable. I defenitly see it. I'm the same. To the point sometimes I even isolate myself from my friends and family because it's SUFFOCATING. I love them to death but I can't stand having people always there 24/7, 365 days of the year. I like my alone time WAY too much.
I got used to it. It's certainly nice being alone. Doesn't last for too long for me however. I mean I'm totally fine being alone - even if I will die alone. I however would really prefer a nice lady by my side. Love and sex feels like a verge between a want and a need. Because why not, Oxytocin and Serotonin are really nice.
It is understandable and relatable what you are saying. I had a time, where I felt the same. Those were my MGTOW days.
Yeah but after you get those hormones and are done, what’s the point? You just cater to someone else just to feel good for a few seconds. It just seems trivial to me.
I love to be alone in certain environments but if I'm feeling some type of neglecting I become depressed. But i love being by myself. Sometimes i dont even think when I'm by myself i just observe nature and life or the moment that I'm breathing in because i love love love space
I honestly skimmed some kf what you wrote because I haven’t slept and am falling asleep but the title is what made me.. to the point People who experience true loneliness dont want to be alone but me at least dont know whata to so anymore And people who aren't comepletly lonely want to be alone so its a vice versea glass haf full thing
I've literally never related more to someone more then once. I was the “anon” rape writer lol
2 times in a row.
I think you should look into astrology. Honestly finding out your natal chart will help you understand yourself even further, its fascinating and scarily true.
As it says in Josette Sona's book: "Woman to Women", a lot of women find themselves alone eventually anyway (if the woman has a boyfriend or husband who trades her in for a "newer model". But there's no reason why we can't be happy with our own company. ;) At least we can depend on ourselves.
I am like this too. I find watching romantic shows so cute and i love them so much but when it comes to having a romantic partner myself i can’t imagine it. I didn’t know why i felt so weird but i think that now i got an idea why
I'm kind of like this too. Just me surrounded by the universe, you get a kind of odd connection with all that is especially when far out in the wilderness. I won't say it's normal though, I will surely take myself out of the gene pool this way.
I love being alone, I’m not very lonely, I have my cat, she helps me a lot. I have a boyfriend too. I have social anxiety, cuz I have Aspergers, I also have sensory issues, I go out, but not a lot anymore. I’m happy staying home more, I have friends online, I play games, do stuff on my iPad.
I DO understand what you're saying up until the explanation of "loneliness" being the result of a 'biological emotion'. I believe your emotions stem from your thoughts which function on a higher level, not your body which functions on a lower one. I don't understand how you can be truly "happy" by yourself, and with your friends, yet still "feel lonely". Perhaps loneliness is not the right word for what you're experiencing?
You can count me in there sweetie, I just always want to share everything with someone n do stuff together who I now have. He knows I need space too coz him being overweight but wants gastric sleeve fitted too n he doesn't wanna make me cranky when I am asleep too. He is happy giving me as much space as I need n he is my best friend for life tooneven if we broke up. We promised to add OK ways be there fir each other, if not physically, then by phone or Internet n to talk everyday too. XXXXX
If you find a relationship to be a burden, you are indeed better off alone. I am lonely my self but I manage a different perspective. Due to things I haven't accomplished yet is better for me to stay off from romantic relationships. A relationship is a responsibility.
Yeah love is sacrifice. But I can understand what you Are talking about. I go years without trying, and sometimes I get interested in girls again, sometimes it was only sex, but I get bored Of that quickly too. I do find awesomeness in a woman and keep that excellence in my life as long as I can sustain the buzz of that inItial love. The women of my life have taught me everything about relationships that are great and so worth Being in a relationship for.
I used to think like this. I never saw a man in my dreams. People would always tell me "when you get married... when you have kids..." I would always reply "who said I was?" I think once you find the right one things change though. Now I'm in a relationship... where my decisions affect him, and we move together as one. It's nice to have that. Nice to have that peace and that unconditional love thing going on. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
It is looked down upon because most of those people who choose to isolate themselves from the world, are mostly ones who don't know anything about being an actual person, they don't know/don't want to know what self-improvement is, they find staying where they are a good thing which is unhealthy in the longrun, they barely contribute to society, they're aggressive and unstable when they have to deal with others, they're too lazy to step out of their comfort zones, they're aliens/freaks, while being isolated MIGHT be good in certain rare cases, it's mostly negative.
I like space and get worn out NY people, but love having someone around. For now it's my roommate and her dog. Before moving I was on my own. It was meh. Not do much lonely, but solitude can suck. I have my own spsce, but it's nice having someone around.. Then again. We get along pretty well sooo.
Being solo and alone s not bad thing but believing that being alone only gives you happiness is wrong you should spent quality alone as well as with good people they need not be boyfriend or girlfriend to know how people are and also to know how to be in society and grow up in all respective like opportunities career etc
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Honestly, this is very relatable. I defenitly see it. I'm the same. To the point sometimes I even isolate myself from my friends and family because it's SUFFOCATING. I love them to death but I can't stand having people always there 24/7, 365 days of the year. I like my alone time WAY too much.
I got used to it. It's certainly nice being alone.
Doesn't last for too long for me however.
I mean I'm totally fine being alone - even if I will die alone. I however would really prefer a nice lady by my side. Love and sex feels like a verge between a want and a need. Because why not, Oxytocin and Serotonin are really nice.
It is understandable and relatable what you are saying. I had a time, where I felt the same. Those were my MGTOW days.
Yeah but after you get those hormones and are done, what’s the point? You just cater to someone else just to feel good for a few seconds. It just seems trivial to me.
Not for me. It doesn't end there.
I love women. I do what I love and love what I do.
So long it's true, it keeps repeating.
I love to be alone in certain environments but if I'm feeling some type of neglecting I become depressed. But i love being by myself. Sometimes i dont even think when I'm by myself i just observe nature and life or the moment that I'm breathing in because i love love love space
a lot of pepole here like you, even if they dont admit it honestly like you.
all of us here get this place to escape to clear our mind, jelp each other,
loneliness is not good for you or any of us thats why we are here giving advices to each other but none of them to ourselves 🙃
I honestly skimmed some kf what you wrote because I haven’t slept and am falling asleep but the title is what made me.. to the point
People who experience true loneliness dont want to be alone but me at least dont know whata to so anymore
And people who aren't comepletly lonely want to be alone so its a vice versea glass haf full thing
I've literally never related more to someone more then once. I was the “anon” rape writer lol
2 times in a row.
I think you should look into astrology. Honestly finding out your natal chart will help you understand yourself even further, its fascinating and scarily true.
That's sexy
As it says in Josette Sona's book: "Woman to Women", a lot of women find themselves alone eventually anyway (if the woman has a boyfriend or husband who trades her in for a "newer model". But there's no reason why we can't be happy with our own company. ;) At least we can depend on ourselves.
I am like this too. I find watching romantic shows so cute and i love them so much but when it comes to having a romantic partner myself i can’t imagine it. I didn’t know why i felt so weird but i think that now i got an idea why
I'm kind of like this too. Just me surrounded by the universe, you get a kind of odd connection with all that is especially when far out in the wilderness. I won't say it's normal though, I will surely take myself out of the gene pool this way.
I love being alone, I’m not very lonely, I have my cat, she helps me a lot. I have a boyfriend too. I have social anxiety, cuz I have Aspergers, I also have sensory issues, I go out, but not a lot anymore. I’m happy staying home more, I have friends online, I play games, do stuff on my iPad.
I DO understand what you're saying up until the explanation of "loneliness" being the result of a 'biological emotion'. I believe your emotions stem from your thoughts which function on a higher level, not your body which functions on a lower one. I don't understand how you can be truly "happy" by yourself, and with your friends, yet still "feel lonely". Perhaps loneliness is not the right word for what you're experiencing?
You can count me in there sweetie, I just always want to share everything with someone n do stuff together who I now have. He knows I need space too coz him being overweight but wants gastric sleeve fitted too n he doesn't wanna make me cranky when I am asleep too. He is happy giving me as much space as I need n he is my best friend for life tooneven if we broke up. We promised to add OK ways be there fir each other, if not physically, then by phone or Internet n to talk everyday too. XXXXX
If you find a relationship to be a burden, you are indeed better off alone. I am lonely my self but I manage a different perspective. Due to things I haven't accomplished yet is better for me to stay off from romantic relationships. A relationship is a responsibility.
Yeah love is sacrifice. But I can understand what you Are talking about. I go years without trying, and sometimes I get interested in girls again, sometimes it was only sex, but I get bored Of that quickly too. I do find awesomeness in a woman and keep that excellence in my life as long as I can sustain the buzz of that inItial love. The women of my life have taught me everything about relationships that are great and so worth Being in a relationship for.
I used to think like this. I never saw a man in my dreams. People would always tell me "when you get married... when you have kids..." I would always reply "who said I was?"
I think once you find the right one things change though.
Now I'm in a relationship... where my decisions affect him, and we move together as one. It's nice to have that. Nice to have that peace and that unconditional love thing going on. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
It is looked down upon because most of those people who choose to isolate themselves from the world, are mostly ones who don't know anything about being an actual person, they don't know/don't want to know what self-improvement is, they find staying where they are a good thing which is unhealthy in the longrun, they barely contribute to society, they're aggressive and unstable when they have to deal with others, they're too lazy to step out of their comfort zones, they're aliens/freaks, while being isolated MIGHT be good in certain rare cases, it's mostly negative.
Not always I don’t isolate myself. I have friends, and go to college. I isolate myself romantically
Yeah I'm not talking about you, sorry I forgot to mention.
I was mainly talking about people who negatively isolate themselves from the world.
I like space and get worn out NY people, but love having someone around. For now it's my roommate and her dog. Before moving I was on my own. It was meh. Not do much lonely, but solitude can suck. I have my own spsce, but it's nice having someone around.. Then again. We get along pretty well sooo.
Being solo and alone s not bad thing but believing that being alone only gives you happiness is wrong you should spent quality alone as well as with good people they need not be boyfriend or girlfriend to know how people are and also to know how to be in society and grow up in all respective like opportunities career etc
The introvert in me doesn't just enjoy being alone, but needs it. It is where I recharge.
But then, I get all these thoughts and ideas in my head, and if I didn't have people in my life I could share them with, I'd go insane
I've been alone most of my life and only have depression unrelated to being alone. So I'm fine.
That's sad