Ever told someone to let you down slowly

[linka_pat307]

LET ME DOWN SLOWLY

Loneliness!, a big word in the world today. But what is loneliness? Some say it's a strong emotion when you feel unwanted.

I decided to say it differently, loneliness is a emotional feeling where your self decides to leave you, it hurts to be lonely. People feel lonely in different ways. Others when their beloved leaves or feel unwanted by a certain group they want to belong to.

I felt all that but there is this loneliness that I feel every time, self loneliness. I don't have any idea about that, no proper words to describe it or explanation. Have you ever felt like you are not communicating with your inner self yet you seek for attention from yourself

There was this time in school, I felt really lonely. My family was going through drastic changes and I was not ready to cope with it. Usually I cried in front of my twin sister when I felt hurt but this time I wouldn't. I can't be doing that all my life although she does cry in front of me. I so much want to prove myself and other people around am strong yet every day, am sobbing in bed. It hurts how things don't go right in life yet everyday we try to be calm and hope for change. It's either relationship fails, exams results aren't good or disunity in the family. We all want to be happy and around people that only listen to us but also understand us...

I tell my inner self to please let me down slowly, maybe on the way I can stop myself from falling. I mean when someone looks at me or lives with me for some good time, he or she will know am a cheerful person, makes jokes and only hates crying babies but deep inside am different, someone with mood swings and introvert to her own feeling

The best times in my life are when am with friends over lunch or over weekend in school, complaining about school or seriously making jokes. I could say my friends know more about me than even my family. We share a lot, dreams and challenges we face. Although my friends act like carefree, I mean we are of different backgrounds, and ages so I don't get shy to talk about anything.

It's much noticeable how much people feel lonely nowadays. Is it because we pretend to be fine because I keep doing that. Areas are getting urbanized with modern technology where by fun seems possible, one would say then why is the big population feeling lonely. Like Wiseman said, "Urbanisation increasing rapidly world becomes digital, people become digitally social but socially they are " alone".What should we call it, urbanisation or urban loneliness "by Yashaswini Jordan. The world has gone to the point where people depend on the digital world, marriage, education and even curing loneliness but what we don't realize no matter how much we try avoiding the problem it won't be dealt. It's up us to realize within us what is causing the loneliness in our lives.

I have decided to speak with my inner self every time I feel am lonely, tell it to let me down slowly if it's tired of holding me up. I speak myself with good nice words that make me realize that am not alone if I decide not be alone. Having good people in my life that add color and flavors in my life. I don't feel ashamed talking about how am depressed about the problems in my life and the decisions I have taken to solve the problems with the people who are always ready to hear.

Linda Patrick

[Leapfrog00]

It is kind of a challenge, isn't it? You try to convince yourself to accept your lonely self, but there's always more to it. You struggle and struggle, people say they understand you, but they don't. You think they do, but they don't. People never understand. Sometimes they listen, but just because they listen, that doesn't mean they are good listeners. Some people are, but most aren't.

I'm by myself all the time with no human interaction. I barely ever leave my apartment, unless I really have to. Living in a digital world, texting does not compare to real social interaction. I don't have any friends anymore, so that doesn't really apply to me anymore, but I understand.

I was taking care of an aunt last year and to make a long story short, I ended up homeless for the longest time. People only complicate things, but it's nice to have at least one person there to listen.

I just finished book 3 in a book series I'm writing about 5 people that die and have to come back to earth to learn how to face fear. My protagonist is a lonely soul who is so shy and backward, he has trouble keeping friends. Then when he dies and comes back, he joins 4 others and they eventually become close.

On this journey through life, loneliness can make or break a person. Let your emotions fly free. Any decent person would listen to your voice and let you cry.

If I publish my book, I'm getting the hell out of here and never looking back. If you have a friend who is willing to listen, vent to them. A true friend isn't going to judge you! I know how you feel, trust me, I do!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

People understand just fine, they just don't care. We all have problems

[kevypatyy7]

Wow, your story is touching. I wish you the best in finding someone who will understand

[11lily]

Your words reflect a deep and personal experience of loneliness, and it's clear that you've faced significant challenges. Loneliness can indeed be a profound and challenging emotion, and your description captures its complexity and impact on well-being.

Your perspective on the importance of genuine human interaction, the limitations of digital communication, and the value of having someone to listen is spot-on. Many people struggle with loneliness, and your words may resonate with others who are going through similar experiences.

It's also inspiring to hear about your creative endeavors, particularly your book series. Writing can be a therapeutic outlet and a way to explore complex emotions and experiences. Your protagonist's journey from loneliness to forming connections is a powerful narrative, and it's a reminder that even in our most isolated moments, there's potential for growth and change.

Remember that while loneliness can be a formidable challenge, reaching out to others, as you've suggested, can make a significant difference. Sharing your thoughts and emotions with a friend who listens without judgment can provide much-needed support and connection.

Your determination to publish your book and move forward is a testament to your resilience and strength. Keep pursuing your creative passions and seeking connections, as they can be vital sources of healing and growth.

[Leapfrog00]

You really understand where I'm coming from. I plan on writing a nonfiction book one day on my experience with loneliness, anxiety, depression, and my experience with narcissistic people. I hope to help those who are struggling from any one of these experiences or all of them. I mostly write fantasy / horror, but I wouldn't like to write at least one nonfiction book to help others.

In my current book series, my protagonist, Triton, as always faced a wide amount of fears and anxiety, and and then there's my character Valentine, who is a bit mean-spirited and rude, which is mostly because her mother was abusive to her, but I'm really hoping that if I were publish the series, my readers can connect with these characters, and know that they're not alone, even if they are fictional because these experiences do occur in actual reality.

I myself have generalized anxiety, a severe panic disorder, acute anxiety disorder, social anxiety, and a major depressive disorder. If I didn't have writing, I'd go crazy.

Last year I was living with a narcissistic aunt, who tried to poison me, so there are a lot of crazy people out there. That's why I was homeless for a while.

I try to be more of a listener for those who have experienced loneliness and depression, or even anxiety because I found that it usually helps someone with these experiences more if someone is actually listening to them.

[linka_pat307]

Heyyy sir, do you mind sending a pdf of your story. I feel like i would to read it.

[Leapfrog00]

sure, send me a message with your email address so I can send it to you. I haven't showed many people my stories or novels and I honestly could use some feedback. I worked really hard on the series, and I would love to show it to someone.

[ohsheeT]

Omggggggggg you just broke my heart. There was a question the other day about men crying . I have tears runny down my face fuck I want to hug you. So bad I need to walk away from this for a min. But I will be back to answer it

[ohsheeT]

Linda all I can say it that you are probably one of the most beautiful persons I have ever come across on GaG
You insite your wisdom your heart is absolutely beautiful it is absolutely gold we all could take a lesson from you on who to be in life how to be in life
I felt every word you said I felt your every tear I felt your pain your hurt. I felt ur heart beat. And stop.
I felt you get and put 1 foot in front of the other
I felt you hold back your tears with your head held high I felt your heart breaking in a million pieces . As I felt your. Confidence you're straight your wisdom with every step you are totally amazing

I have always when we were born we were all given a gift and that gift was choice we get to choose who we want to be by the things we say and do you have taken that choice and you have defined it you choose to be strong and powerful bold and Beautiful Within and on the outside too you know who you are I don't think you're ever going to have one problem this world I hope you are blessed and I hope you smile for the rest of your life every single day beautiful job good job when I grow up I am just like you

[ohsheeT]

Well I just wrote a book on what I felt about your message I sent it but I don't know where it went

[linka_pat307]

Oh really, that is nice.. Can't wait to read it

[ohsheeT]

I sent 2 and they didn't show up

[linka_pat307]

Try again please

[kevypatyy7]

Wow... This is one of the best my take I have read on this site. THANKS a lot for that piece of work. Keep it up

[abigail432]

yeah there's a song about it

[linka_pat307]

I guess by Alec Benjamin, am a fan of it

[soulOnDisplay]

Lonliness is much like living in a dream populated by shadows. I have tried hard for years now to comprehend what lonliness means to me, and only lately in the summer have I been able to put the experience into words that are tangible. Solipsism comes to mind. It is as if I am the only consciousness navigating among many simulations, or projections if you will, of human consciessness. These walking, talking projections are incapable of exercising free will, they merely run on a scripted program, and I cannot touch a projection, for it is not physical.

This is the best way I can describe it.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

What you lack in life is purpose and meaning. You're "lonely" because you crave attention and validation from other people. You lack any meaningful direction in your life, which leads to self loathing and searching for meaning in relationships and interactions with other people.
Get off your ass and quit feeling sorry for yourself

[sheenagwapa]

i am so sorry... glad you are communicating it to your trusted people. i watch a yt video about a cold 🥶 country and communication is really important to manage depression and loneliness. as a person who is super sure of Lord Jesus i just wanba share that when yky talk to him rest assured that He listens to you.

[LiamJHayden]

No, I prefer it when people are straight up.

[TheAfrikan]

This is a nice idea and it really makes sense thax for sharing.

[Z1pTD]

Yeah I had to tell a girl I had a lottttt of mutual interest with once that it wouldn't work and she needed to let me go

[midnightmoon05]

That’s a mature way to communicate. 👍

[shades777]

I mean don't be an asshole about it, like bye click*,
even if you let them down slowly they qill still cry, Im not very good at break ups

[strateguy632]

very deep concepts.