Girls.. how would you react if a guy friend or boyfriend asks money from you?

Question

What do you think? What impression will guy have if he asks money to a girl for etc reasons?

emerald77 · Accepted Answer

It would be okay if we have been together for a while and it was an emergency. However, I have only had one experience in which a boyfriend asked me for money. And it went something like this.

I got a call from him at 3 in the morning. I picked up of course, thinking it was an emergency. He said he got in a fight with his parents and was on him way to my house so I could cheer him up. He didn't have a car so he said his friend was dropping him off. He ends up showing up with two of his friends and there seems to be nothing wrong with him at all. He then asks me to give him $20 to give gas money to his friend. (He only lived about 15 minutes away, so $20 was definitely wayyy more than what he needed). But I gave it to him anyway. The whole time he was over he was just having fun with his friends. Then he tells one of them to go to the gas station and get him a pack of cigarettes and some beer, and GAVE HIM THE $20 I GAVE HIM FOR THE GAS MONEY!! So his friend didn't really need gas money at all, and I pretty much just bought them cigarettes and beer and the 3 of them wouldn't leave my apartment until 11 in the morning. When I had to leave for work (wasn't able to sleep all night, obviously). The guy was such a loser. I will never give money to a boyfriend ever again!!

pr3ttybr0wn · Accepted Answer

I really don't like to loan out money. he would have to be like on the verge of homelessness before I did that. A lot of people who ask for money don't actually NEED it, they just were being irresponsible at some point and now want to spend your money. Sorry but I get up go to work and go without some of the stuff I WANT so I can take care of what I NEED so I expect my man to do the same. I'm not paying your phone bill etc because once you set that expectation people always look to depend on you.

SophieAnne · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't mind at all. He wouldn't even owe me, I will just give him the money

Redsfan192 · Accepted Answer

This isn't the 1950's anymore. I am infuriated with gender roles in general. Men and women an pay. Men and women can cook, clean. Men and women can do physical labor.

Of course, even though young women seem to agree gender roles are ignorant, they are still gold diggers for the most part and love the idea of men paying for everything.

MrAtticusLebowski · Accepted Answer

Damn iT! miss read the question before voting lol. Honestly, chicks shouldn't be lending their dude money. exception being they're engaged. At which point they should probably be sharing finances anyways.

I mean a few bucks till the guy hits the ATM in a bit is ok.

linkywinky · Answer

I had a guy friend who forgot his money at home one night and he was really hungry and he kept begging me to buy him subway and promising to pay me back. I wouldn't do it at first, because he can be kind of sketchy and I've had people be flaky with paying me back before but I finally gave in and did it, and he paid me back the next day.

I will say I was only reluctant at first because I myself didn't have very much money in my bank account at the time. I usually don't bat an eye when it comes to buying things for people. It's when they wanna buy ME things that makes it a problem.

But I won't actually give someone cash.

rosedream · Answer

That feeling is not so good. If my bf ask, i'll give him not because i want to but because i don't know how to refuse it politely. But now, i m in that kind of situation. Both my bf and i r in foreign country for further studies. I have a bank account so usually, i don't have money problem but he doesn't. His parents send him money every month but that amount of money doesn't last a month. So after he broke, i have to pay everything we eat as we always have our meals together. After he gets money, he also pay for me but i think i use more money than him. Sometimes, it annoys me but i try to accept this because i think it's my fortune.

bunnyy · Answer

All of the options were pretty biased I mean we all know how you feel about it lol! I mean I have heard of boyfriends crashing with their girlfriend and paying no rent and never wanting to get a job, which is ridiculous for anyone to do really unless one partner is very well off. But I mean it's my boyfriend not some guy I've been on one date with, of course I'd give him money! And I pay for dates and I buy him things at random if I see something he'd like and he spoils me right back! When you are in love you want to spoil your significant other it's only natural! I mean if he was asking for money constantly I'd ask him what was up but other than that it's no big deal!

TheTimidGirl · Answer

Definitely in emergency situations only. Whether he can distinguish an emergency from a non emergency is left for you to decide. There are times when we need to ask for a little help. In the spirit of friendship you should genuinely want to help him. Relationship-wise you should still help because it may have taken A LOT for him to admit he needs the helps and his gratefulness will bring you closer together. Be warned not every guy has good intentions. If you trust him there's no need for that but if there's a question in your mind that he could be lying, gauge his body language, tone and reasoning for wanting the money. Dishonesty is not tolerable and can often lead to bigger lies and secrets.

SammyGurl · Answer

What I have done in the past is just give them the money, without the expectation of them paying me back. (Everyone is or has been short of cash at least once.)

When you loan money to a friend or even family member with the expectations of it being paid back in a certain amount of time, something odd happens to the relationship. Almost something I can't put into words.

To avoid this I just usually say, "my treat, or I'll pay" relationships are more valuable to me than money. Stand by a friend or family member and chances are good they're going to stand by you.

emmabee11 · Answer

It's ok if he really needs it and that it's not a huge amount but he has to pay me back after, a tenner is cool but any more than that i don't lend money out because they could just take it and not give it back, at least then if it's £10 then i'm not losing out on much if they don't give it, although i've refrained from lending anything to people since high school because i would give stuff to people but they would take advantage, nobody is ever nice to me if i give out stuff they think they can take without earning or giving it back so i only do in rare cases.

Scmitch · Answer

Haha to be honest, I'm super uncomfortable asking for money from anyone. But if he asked for it and needed it, I'd definitely be willing to oblige if I had enough to survive. :P But as long as I know him like really well. And I'd wanna know what he's buying. :)

watashiwahanadesu · Answer

I've have guy friends borrow money from me countless times. It's not a problem I mean isn't that just an aspect of being friends. I borrow money from them too. The only time it gets on my nerves is if they forget to pay me back or keep on saying they'll pay me back but never do however I've experienced more of that procrastination with my girl friends than with the guys.

Hannah591 · Answer

If he needed to pay for something but had no money, I probably would but he's not very good with money so I would be hesitant because I'd think he got himself in that situation and didn't plan things out. I've told my boyfriend I would be a shareholder in his business if ever they struggled with money. I would give him money but no-one else other than my mum.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the real question here is, why should a guy needing to borrow money be any different from a girl needing to borrow money?

People hit tough patches, man, woman, blacks, whites, etc. Everyone has it happen, so why should anyone be looked upon differently for it?

Alcoto12 · Answer

I lend money and buy my friends and family gifts all the time. There is nothing wrong with a friend or boyfriend of mine asking for money as long as I have the money to give.

Allway · Answer

Don't know if i would lend my money to girlfriend or not. Although , if any friend (Genuine one's) comes to asking for it , i don't mind giving to him/her. I don't even need it back because real life people are more valuable than money. I know for sure they are my real friends because they help me when i'm done with my pocket money in the first half of the month :P

MzTee · Answer

If he's good friend that has helped me out in the past i'd have no problem loaning him money anybody else absolutely not. I gave a guy i liked money to pay off a ticket and after that he seemed to think he was on my payroll, calling me for money every other week.

BassistForever · Answer

I don't loan people money. It's a bad idea. They probably won't pay you back.  Also I'm not really in a place to just GIVE them money considering my financial status.

FlyingTurtle · Answer

My boyfriend just asked me for $20 because he loaned his friend some money and needed some little extra cushion to help him make it to his next pay check. That was no problem to me, I was happy to help him out.

Indigo_Moon · Answer

Just in an emergency. Which I have done in the past, and I would again in similar circumstances.

punkbaby · Answer

Girls need to step up. People are people, if you want to give them money then do it and if not don't.. I pay for what I want to pay for, guy or girl. Sorry if this isn't an understandable answer but I'm going with it lol

dragonfly6516 · Answer

Option F, in this economy, it's weird if close friends haven't asked or money at some point. So long as we're close and I know I can trust them to pay me back prompltly, it's no big deal far as I'm concerned.

GoldenSunshine · Answer

It depends on how much money and when I can have it back. There's no problem if we're out shopping or at a restaurant etc., but if he has money problems and/or wants a high amount of money I'd be worried.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I don't have any money to give him so... he'd be stupid to ask me for money.

KindHeartedBeauty · Answer

If I have it and he really needs it, then I have no problem with helping him out. We never know if the person who needs us now, will be the same person we may need later. Just a though!

ChocChipCookiez · Answer

i'd give him the money. if he's a friend/bf then i'd know he'd have my back when i needed it for an emergency. but if he's asking for big amounts then i'd expect him to pay it back.

Izzex3 · Answer

I'd just ask "How much?" Not a big deal unless they were just trying to use me for money.

Shpuddo · Answer

If it wasn't anything massive I wouldn't mind as long as he returns money back but otherwise I would have a long think about my decision. Can u answer mine please?

Babaorom1 · Answer

My boyfriend never let me pay for anything. So when he does need change, I'm more than happy to give it to him.  Compared to the amount of times he paid, it'd be nothing at all.

hapajessie · Answer

It's really not a big deal... why isn't there an option for that? I would just lend him money like I would do for any friend, regardless of gender...

IndependentGal15 · Answer

I wouldn't mind, as long as it wasn't like 2000bucks then I'll be like... Dude what gang wants to kill you..

renjisgirl12 · Answer

Gender has nothing to do with lending money. Depending on how much, I'd lend money to any of my friends or my friends friends

Olgaxxx · Answer

I would totally agree to give him money duhhh he is my friend / boyfriend. As long as he pays me later. But if it gets to a regular routine of him asking me for money, that's just plane wrong 😒😒

valentina_alexander · Answer

i didn't vote since it's not any of the choices, but i would give him ofcourse and their is nothing weird at all

Greenapples · Answer

i wouldn't mind because I would ask for money from him to if he did and its not fair for a guy to pay for everything.

Lonelywolf21 · Answer

I would vote D. Only in emergency situation and he/she should have a good reason for it. ^^  Or it would be totally weird. :/

girl111m · Answer

I wouldn't care in giving him some money if he needs it as long as is not always.

kangy · Answer

Vote D, money issue should be transparent even between couples.

Anonymous · Answer

My guy friends and I would spot each other a bunch. No big deal.

NotMattyWalker · Answer

As long as he needs it and i trust him to pay it back, I don't care in the slightest.

WhaChaChaKing · Answer

I reluctantly voted A. I see nothing wrong with a man asking for money if he needs help. Very close-minded and sexist to think so. Don't have much money myself though haha.

lovelina14 · Answer

I wouldn't really care but if it's constant and I start paying for stuff that's useless then it's a whole different story

itselectric · Answer

If you've been seriously dating the guy for a while and know he really needs it for a legit reason then why not?

xXiTacoXx · Answer

If he needs it at the time an will pay me back all he owes I don't have a problem with it. :T

JustGotStuck · Answer

I'll go for D.. it's fine but also depends on the situation though.

DulceDana · Answer

I think if he comes to you asking for money. He must have a reason. Normally it doesn't happen, so ill help him out without thinking twice. Isn't that the reason why im his friend /girlfriend.

TheFlavour · Answer

Okay first I know im a guy but the emergency one is probably the best

Anonymous · Answer

"What do you need money for." "I could do that for you..." (Please read with an Orlesian accent)

Anonymous · Answer

My boyfriend would never ask me for money. He buys me whatever and gives me money. If he needed some I wouldn't hesitate to give it to him since he's been generous to me.

Anonymous · Answer

A small amount of money, sure. Anything more than $100, its a no. I work hard for my money.

JustaLili · Answer

In emergency if i didn't give him money i dont deserve to be with him. Otherwise, no i dont like it when guys ask for money!

tina15xox · Answer

I would give him money he's done a lot more for me than I could buy!

JackKerouac77 · Answer

They will give it to be, because I'm a dollll

Ki-Ki · Answer

Asking is just fine, taking is a deal breaker.

dudeman · Answer

If u need help u need help. I got u bro

Anonymous · Answer

Lol@ the results.. so much for feminist equality.

Anonymous · Answer

If he really need it I won't mind.

clong · Answer

thats not good on a date answerm ien

Anonymous · Answer

i think thats a huge turn off

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