When a guy say's he's giving up on women, what do girls mean when they say he needs to change or improve on things. Like what would he need to do?

[CHRIS11796]

This question is to help guy's out who are feeling down on themselves and need advice on what they can do to improve. Because a lot of guy's give up too easily instead of trying.

And please no need to be hostile or causing conflict here. This is to help fellow guy's out thank you. 🙏

[RJGraveyTrain]

If you totally lack success with women - literally, all women, you have to stop and wonder if you aren't the problem. There is no truth to the idea that all women on the planet will just - for no reason other than feminine evilness - not give a supposedly unflawed guy a chance. If you're not having any luck, it's likely due to your approach, and how you behave.

As humans we all have to grow, a part of growing is improving. What you need to improve will be totally dependent on your situation, and no, I don't buy into this "you never have to change" bull, because we all change, we all get better as time goes on because we grow as people.

So, what do you need to change?

Your attitude: Don't go into it feeling shitty about yourself, or acting like women are superior nor ill intended. Be confident in who you are, and let your good qualities shine.

Your ability to read social cues: This is where a lot of socially awkward guys falter, they don't know how to respect boundaries because they can never find them. It helps to ask female friends or relatives about this one.

Taking rejection as a learning experience, not a failure: Harness rejection into something positive, and you'll literally be able to pick out and fix your dating weaknesses and improve where you can.

Now, none of this suggests you have to stop being who you are at the core of your being, but don't let this "don't ever change" concept stop you from growing.

[CHRIS11796]

Thank you other guy's should see the advice you gave i think it will definitely help them out. 👍

[RJGraveyTrain]

Thanks much.

[Schrodingerscat]

This^
*Slow clap*

[RJGraveyTrain]

@Schrodingerscat Thank you my friend.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Thanks for MHGirl!

[Donlgoff7]

I'm one of those " giving up on women" type of people and this post gave me some insight. I still have no idea what all I do wrong. We will talk fine for a couple days maybe go out once, and that's it, total ghost. Over 30 times in the last year, before I quit trying. I tried to find out what I did wrong and asked female friends but they all just feed me the usuals. Your young, just stop looking and you'll find love, never give up. Nothing constructive.

Not whining, just looking for hints on what " social cues" to look for. I can never tell when their flirting or anytging, I feel like there's a complete language barrier I just can't understand up.

[Cady_19]

I guess it means that you have to work on yourself. If all your relationships are not working out then maybe there's more to it than that person.

[Anonymous]

Just do you, who cares what they think, you shouldn't have to change for anyone.

[CHRIS11796]

Good advice man hopefully the bitter dudes can learn from your advice. Awesome man!