Does smoking weed change how he acts around me now?

[livethelifeyoulove]

the guy I like knows I like him and acts strange around me now. he acts rather nervous and like he doesn't want me near him. Its only when were out at a party or club that he acts like this he's fine if I see him during the day just weird out at night. he smokes a lot of weed now which he didn't before when we were friends. I don't smoke and I guess you could say I'm a "good girl" even though I hang round people that smoke. ever since he started smoking a lot and finding out that I like him he acts very distant and usually won't even come up and say hello to me anymore when were out . do you think it could be because I don't smoke and he doesn't know what to say to me or is nervous that I am judging him? or he's more paranoid from being stoned and he doesn't feel the same way so just stays away from me? he thinks highly of me though I can tell and before he started smoking and finding out I liked him he would always come up and give me a big hug.

[heatfan03]

hmm well about him not hugging you that could be because he's high and it can make you very lazy,

but in regards to him acting weird around you it really is tough because it can be 2 things,

1. he is just really high and is just super relaxed/"lazy" so he doesn't really realize that he is being distant.

2. when I get high I tend to tell my true feelings because I'm relaxed and my anxietys are gone. I am in a long distance relationship and we were "dating" for about 7 months (long story short I had commitment problems and was scared of a title, although once we became official (last 5 months) nothing changed just the title) but whenever I was high I would tell her how much I really liked her and I love being with her and stuff like that but would always make her think after I wasn't high the next day I didn't remember what I said being high. (my anxiety of relationships and showing my feelings coming out.)

I know that doesn't really answer your question but hopefully you see what the 2 things it could mean are.

my advice is to talk to him about it when he's not high its best to get things out in the open

if you have more questions feel free to message me or anything like that

[Nate345]

his weed could b laced with weird sh*t that makes him paranoid. I think he does think you might b judging him. this is a way drugs can ruin your life or make it more complicated. I don't understand why he would start acting distant since he started smoking weed he knows your fine with it becuase of hanging around with all the other people that smoke weed. he is probably worried about you judging him and how your veiws have changed towards him since he started, this is why I don't bother with weed

[phoenix23]

people react differently to drugs. I was the good girl with stoner boyfriend once. it didn't matter whether he was stoned or not, the was he treated me depended on the company we were in. when we were alone we were great, he was really affectionate. when we were with his pals he just treated me as a friend, but I had expected that and didn't mind, I still felt included as part of the group. and I didn't wanna embarass him infront of the boys.

i think he was always worried about me not being into smoking, but if I ever tried it he would've killed me lol. it was just because it wasn't my scene and he knew I didn't approve of drugs. your guy maybe is paranoid when he's smoking, in which case you need to try your best to talk to him when he's clean and sort it out.

if he ever encourages you to try and you don't want to, then dont. if he valued you as a person he wouldn't encourage u. if your guy EVER chooses drugs over you, walk away. he's not worth it. and it feels pretty sh*t to have someone you really like choose a plant over you (trust me).

[ilyurbella]

I think that's he's just nervous about you judging him. But weed causes people to change and it's kinda horrible so he could also not like you anymore =/. I've seen if first hand with my boyfriend, but he gave it up because I was going to leave him but he's majorly different now.

[heatfan03]

Gotta disagree with this comment, weed does not change people, this is a very common misconception there is absolutely no evidence of this being true. it will give you a different feeling about life while smoking but there has never been any evidence of long term effects.

[imloveinyo]

i kinda have the same issue.. the guy I've been with for 5 months does weed all the time.. I actully think he was high when he asked me out... there's a deffinit change in behavior when your dateing a guy and he smokes weed and when he's not smokeing weed!

[CandydChalazn]

Well this is a very iffy situation :-/

I think it's like a combination of the drugs and shock tht you like him

Simplifyed:

he's weirded out and stoned

[Virtuales]

i think it's because he thinks highly of you, he doesn't want you to judge him

he's paranoid

[x213erx]

he doesn't like you. you made it weird for him so he keeps his distance.