Is it strange having attraction to people who are troubled?
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There’s a biological reasoning for this. I believe if this is true for someone, it could mean that you want to help, support, or cure this troubled person, alluding to a woman’s more nurturing nature, which might be the reason for women wanting to be with a troubled man. If a man is wanting to be a troubled woman, it could be that he is sensing vulnerability within the woman, and therefore, not only has a higher chance of being a protector but also feeling more masculine and dominant. These are some of the reasons that I think men and women would be interested in a troubled individual.
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The attraction may not come because the person is troubled. It actually comes from the good you see in the individual or the potential you think this person has of being an amazing human being. Its kinda like the diamond in the rough analogy.
It’s not bad, but realize being with a troubled person will make you lose yourself. I was once close with a suicidal person, I had to cut her off because she had put me through so much along with her. It’s not worth sacrificing for someone else if it makes you lose yourself. Be safe :)
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I think I'm like that because I can relate to them more than "normal" people
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No, not at all. It's the "Knight in shining armor" complex. We all want to be heroes, ride in on our trusty steed, and save the day. We see the walking wounded, the broken hearted, the soul crushed, and we want to be the savior. But this is a dangerous path to walk. Who are we to think we are qualified or even remotely able to help these damaged souls? More often than not, we do more damage, we deepen their pain. And not that, we don't into the same pit we are trying to pull them out of. Be wary of who you try to help and how you try to help them. And be especially careful of your emotions. We become attached to the ones we try to help and we mistake our attachment for love. Then, when we fail to drag them back to their feet and they wander off, their pain greater than ever, and they leave us behind, we are the ones with broken hearts. I know whereof I speak. I've fallen into this trap many times.
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I used to have a huge issue only going after the "damsels in distress" and i learned two main things from it.
1. You can't fix anyone. You can help, you can support, you can do almost everything but actually fix them.
2. No one person is ever going to be worth sacrificing who you are as a person.
It took many years, many heart aches and many hard lessons learned to figure that out - 6.9K opinions shared on Other topic.
If you had a parent who was troubled or caused trouble or if you have felt troubled in your life - that might explain your attraction to them. In the same way that girls with controlling parents like controlling guys and girls with easy going parents like easy going guys.
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I think it's an immature notion. Wanting to save people, being their rock... I think it overestimates our own personal limits. It reminds me of how teenage girls want that emo guy that they can help emotionally
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"Show me a man's friends and I'll show you who he truly is." It might say something about you. But that could be a lot of things, it might mean you've developed a type based one someone that left a deep impression on you. However you also deserve someone who is healthy, so choose someone who seems disturbed by the needs of others - then you can help them together!
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Definitely not. I'm a very empathetic person, and I love being able to help people when they're having a hard time. The girl I'm with right now has a lot of stuff going on in her life, and I decided to be with her to provide the much-needed support in her life. I mean, sure, I think she's cute, smart, and really sweet, but she has a lot of experiences that I can relate to, and that's what really drew me to her (by the way, I just realized that I accidentally used my name, Drew, as a play on words XD). There's nothing wrong with being attracted to people who are hurting.
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No, sounds like you’re a “fixer”. Certain personalities like to problem solve and fix and are attracted to people who need fixing. It can be beneficial to both people in the relationship.
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strange? yes... uncommon, no. it means like many people you are a fixer and you like a project. seen it many times
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I think it's normal.. i'm attracted to troubled people too because i feel like i wanna help them and make them feel better
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Not at all. It shows you have a sensitive heart and care about other people even when it might be problematic for you to show your feelings.
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I don't know if this relates to the saying "Misery loves company" or not. But it sure seems like it to me.
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It's not uncommon, but you won't have a quiet life, either.
Some people can't be healed or saved, unfortunately... -
No, it's not strange... Perhaps you feel drawn to people like that because you feel troubled as well and probably connect better with other troubled people so that you may help each other through your difficulties... I know this because I am that way...
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No. It's more normal than you think but usually because you're troubled too.
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Savior's syndrome. You're taking care of troubled people because deeply you want someone that will take care of you.
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No, a lot of people want to try to fix someone that's broken.
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Everyone has their own things they're attracted to. I think I'm also attracted to people that are depressed to an extent because I find them relatable. If it's overwhelming though and all they talk about is their problems 24/7, I admit that's a turnoff.
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No. But it probably means you have your own issues to work on.
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Not at all, it just means your drawn to people who need fixing.
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