What can I do to help a female friend who's feeling suicidal?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine has been feeling very depressive these last months. Her dad told her she was a disappointment to him (and doesn't speak to her anymore). Her ex left her about a year ago and she discovered recently that he had been cheating on her with her sister.

Although I do my best to comfort her, I don't know what to tell her apart from "you need to move on" or "your dad was wrong, you're very successful bla bla".

The thing is, I've realized that before her breakup, she was kind of a naïve and nice girl, who would rarely if ever stand up for herself (she was "too nice"). After the breakup though, she became much more aggressive and stands up for almost anything (sometimes going overboard when she threatens people (i. e. if they continue with their behavior, she will make them pay and she lets them know about it)).

She's aware that she has changed in that regard and she isn't very proud of herself. She cries very often and calls me in the middle of the night to talk while crying.

Recently, she's been talking a lot about death and she has been giving away stuff that I know is precious to her. She didn't explicitly say she was suicidal, but I am pretty sure she is and I don't know what I can do.

[btbc92]

Call the suicide helpline for them to give you advice. There aren't many strangers who can do anything except for those who have the resources and the experiences to help. Just understand that people do have choices. I understand how she feels, but again, if she does it, it overall becomes her choice. It depends on how serious it is. It's serious, but it just sounds like she needs love. Suicide isn't going to solve anything. Sadly millions of people die by suicide, but is the world-changing from it? No. I go through abuse myself. I can safely tell you if you look at all of the BS I have to deal with from people on here, it's as worse as is in real life. People sadly don't care. They only do when it's convenient for them. And it's sad.

The best thing I can tell you to do for her -- is pray for her, and let her know that she doesn't have to do what she is thinking. She is being unappreciated by the wrong people. You tell her that I had said don't give up. And don't give such people the satisfaction. She shouldn't have to pay for other's negligence. I was once like her. Nice, kind, gentle, always happy, wanted to make friends with everyone, etc. People change not because they can't handle the world. People change because they are rejected by the world. People like her aren't the people. Others who never appreciated us are. You do appreciate her. All you have to do is hold her and let her know you're her friend and if you didn't love her as one, you probably wouldn't have met. If even you can find the good in her, If God can, Jesus's sees, why can't she see? That's How I made it. While I am still the same kind person. I learned to stop tolerating other's BS. Let her know she doesn't HAVE to react badly. But that she needs to have balance. And having better boundaries. She is responsible like any other person. But in the end, God sees everything. And she shouldn't have to tolerate bad things happening to her. Period. Even the Bible points this out. It's how you handle it where it can cause problems.

[Elsa143]

Tell her to love herself. You exactly described me in terms of heartbreak and relationships.
Keep telling her to find enjoyable work and get a good pet.
Tell her that her sister is a whore and a rotten ass which the world doesn't needs. Tell her to assume that her dad is as good as dead. No one needs such a toxic parent.

[hellacray]

Tell her to seek help or tell her to call the suicide hotline.