What should your priorities be when you get into your 20s?

[CuriousChick101]

For a woman?

For a man? (I’m just curious to see opinions about both)

(I know my age range says “25-29”, but ONE reason I’m asking is because a few years ago I was ridiculously immature for my age and still had the priorities of a little high school girl instead [which was partly why I had to see a therapist] not caring about my college education/preparing for a future career, etc. Instead I just cared about things like “trying to do high schoolish dating rather than adult dating because I missed out on hs dating” and things like that. But luckily I’ve matured recently and want to turn that around.)

Anyway, good answers will feel encouraging to me so I will appreciate them. 🙂 In return, I would be happy to answer any of your questions or offer advice to any of you who would like. 🙂

[Siren777]

Hello!

Firstly, you shouldn't beat yourself up over it. I'm proud that you got help. Dwelling on the past isn't going to be good for you or anyone. Growth never comes from remaining in your comfortzone. This all depends on your goals. Go for it.

Prioritize family, loved ones and meaningful friendships.
Prioritize good habits , saving, investing, side hustle, extra income, health, financial stability, style or lifestyle. Enjoy it and have fun attaining your goals. Maybe you have goals of buying your first house, living in another country or travelling and experiencing another culture.
Prioritize mental, emotional & physical health.
Prioritize having fun, as 20s is a time to enjoy your youth. Schedule some time for play. You don't want to live with regrets.
1. Know what you want
2. Set good firm intentions for specific goals
3. Break them down into mini achievable goals that you can attain by a specified time. Go easy on yourself as life may throw you a curve ball.
4. Take action towards it.
5. Do your best
6. Reap the rewards and start something new.
Goodluck🍀

[btbc92]

Priorities are priorities. The priorities of a high school student in school and getting into either college or the workforce. Unless special circumstances like getting married or take over the family business. Dating is not priorities. They are desires depending on what is the intent. Adult dating is no different from teenage dating. Just that teens are more carefree and not always mature, adults are more sexually inclined, but it doesn't mean they're mature either. Their worse than teens from what I am seeing. If you have no rational reason to be dating then it doesn't matter if your a teen or adult. You shouldn't be dating if you're not going to be serious or desire marriage.

At this point, your priorities are unless you in college are building something in general to survive. But it should be spiritual growth in God, developing yourself as an adult, get married is marriage is what you want. Just do your best, but never be scared to ask for help.

[K-I-S-S]

Invest. Buy few cryptos, like xrp and ada, btc and some others, just throw 50usd to each. 100usd a month to sp500.

No loans, only save up and pay in full.
Buy a piece of land, build a tiny house, ride a motorbike and a bicycle.

Plant solar and wind turbines, keep increasing that farm and start selling back to the grid.

Save money to get a rental, half of the price down payment, other loan, that the person renting will cover profit.

In the meantome work, live life, workout and educate yourself daily. And start 1 business.

Retire at 30-35. Enjoy life.

[AmeerX]

For men, build career. Don't be simps. If a girl likes you she will come forward. If you go after girls you are wasting precious time in heartbreaks.
Throw your heart out the window. Men who have hearts are just taken as stupid. And in your careers if you think you have to lie for your boss then don't sell your conscience. We will be judged.
Better pay a poor person than those onlyfan girls. Come on, that stuff is free why throw your hard earned money.

Stop getting impressed with branded glamour. They are fooling young people.

[NamerOfStars]

I think the big thing is thinking about what you want to do with your life and working towards it. There are somethings (particularly marriage and children) that are best done young; you don't have to rush in blindly, but you shouldn't (and sometimes can't) keep delaying forever and still do them. If you want to live a grand, opulent life, you need to work out where you're going to get the money from.

[CuriousChick101]

So that should be the focus when you get into your 20s? (That’s a helpful answer. So may I follow you on here because you seem trustworthy to give good answers to questions.)

[NamerOfStars]

I think so. It's one of those big times of change in life, when you make important decisions about what you're going to do. (And thank you- I try.)

[CuriousChick101]

So that includes dating for the sake of trying to find a spouse (if marriage and/or children is what you want)?

[NamerOfStars]

That would follow. I don't have direct experience with looking for someone to marry, but I think the core self-examination questions still apply: what is it you want in a relationship (okay, you've already got an answer here), what is it you want in a partner, what is it you'll accept in a partner (reality rarely gives us exactly what we ask for, but it DOES usually thrown in a few curtained secrets, for better and/or worse), and what is that you have to offer.

[kingofthellamas]

I'd say find your passion and see if you can get a job in it. Don't worry about the money. That will come next if you are following the right idea for you. You'll spend a huge amount of your life at work. Like the most of it. More of it than sleeping will be at work. So find something that gives you some joy. Turn that into a job.

[NathanDavis]

Good habits, like eating at regular hours and sleeping as much as you can, this is very very important. and i do not mean special diets, more like balanced diets, three or four meals a day, and more water.

As you get older and responsibilities start piling up, it is very easy to "forget" to eat, sometimes you just can't eat or sleep regularly, and this can make all other things much more difficult. Try not to overlook stuff like this either.

[CuriousChick101]

Thank you Nathan. I appreciate your answer and will gladly try to follow that advice! 🙂 Although I was looking for answers related to what I wrote in the parentheses. Do you happen to have any opinions about that too? 🤔

[NathanDavis]

Your priority should be yourself.

More than what other people want you to do, or tell you to do, you should do what you like, what you want, and I mean this career, studies or job-wise, Of course this is not always possible, so you should try and aim for a balance, and not end on a job that will drain you over time and you can't quite just because you need the money.

In order to set priorities, first we should look where we stand at the moment, I've had many plans thrown away due to "life happening" lol.

Unfortunately, finances (money) are a default priority, and sort of defines your 20's. So how is it going that for now?

[TheAfrikan]

To have a serious career objective, have a job, have your own place where you stay and also if you are really ready to start some real dating then that is the time to give it a shot.

[CuriousChick101]

What do you mean by “real dating”?

[TheAfrikan]

to start out on something serious, which can lead to marriage as long as you are financially stable to handle what comes in.

[ChrisMaster69]

Once you start working properly, saving for property, paying that mortgage and saving for retirement. Everything else is treading water.

[CapitalismFailed]

Saving? With zero interest and rampant inflation? Okay, boomer.

[ChrisMaster69]

@CapitalismFailed
Yes crap interest, however it at least means you have some money not being used.
If you have sufficient capital invest in property, pay more in to your company pension, pay more off your mortgage. The latter means you own the property sooner, reducing overall interest / paying it off sooner.

Fully agree it’s not ideal, however the choices are burn it by spending it or save it / invest it.

[Kieronm]

To be financially stable, have a place to live and be happy.

[CuriousChick101]

What about dating?

[Kieronm]

If you want to date then yes, but i don't don't need to date to be happy so it's not a priority for me, a few close friends is enough.

[COMMODOREII]

Live your life to the fullest before you realize you wasted your time and start looking back wishing you did everything different.

[FamilyStranger]

1. Find what you are good at.
2. Get a job that you like.
3. After that find a soulmate if that's your desire.

[CuriousChick101]

So 1 and 2 first, NOT “dating” first?

[SirJohn42]

Well college and education would be a good start. Have a nice job dont get yourself in debt.

[TheFlak38]

To make a plan for the future.

[CapitalismFailed]

Career, partner, kids. In that order.

[lsjr16]

I don't know