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Hopefully this doesn’t come across as egotistical or whatever, but honestly, I think most things I wish people would notice the most, people do one way at some point. I don’t have much desire to acknowledge me as smarter or kinder or whatever than they do. I think people see what they get and have a decently realistic idea generally of who I am after some talking. Sure, from a self-worth perspective, I wish I was more attractive, smarter, better at talking, had a more interesting life, whatever... but I think people are seeing me for how I am now. That’s just something I need to personally develop, not something I need to try to bloat others’ views on me, if that makes sense.11
For men: I’m pretty good at holding a conversation and debate on different topics and I’m always very interested to listen to other peoples ideas and interest. I use to be fat and I think guys saw my conversational skills first before they saw my beauty. But now that I’m fit, my beauty is seen first which man’s human interaction very boring now.
For women: I’m a great friend. I have long term female friends that I made back when I was fat. But making new friends is harder. I think a lot of women feel I’m not approachable from how I carry myself. My most recent friend I made online when we met in person she said she would have never talked to me if we met in person because I looked like a prissy bitch. She was glad she got to know me first before meeting me.10
That I'm an individual. A human being. I'd rather be seen for who I am instead of perceived through the eyes of society. Most people tend to see others as their gender, race, age, damage or their baggage. I wish people noticed me first and not what society has deemed me as.38
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on what I can do with one hand and looked past my handicapped disability.
I can drive a car work eight hours a day. 💞64
Wisdom. Not just about me (but what a great compliment that is!), but I don't think it's talked about much or valued as it should be. Like you ask what someone looks for in a partner and you get "funny, smart, beautiful, etc." but wisdom is normally forgotten in that list and forgotten as a quality.21
I'd say my personality. How I act on here, I wish girls could see in me, or in my dating profile pic. If it happened that way, I'd probably have a lot more dates than I do now...26
I’m intelligent and kind and it’s not always acknowledged cause I get people spreading lies about my character so sometimes I’m viewed with negative bias and my kindest efforts does not change that.22
I'm interesting, intelligent, funny, direct & to the point ✌️59
I want them to see that I have so much potential but decided at a young age to give it all up in order to take care of my parents.
I want them to see I have honor.
Also... deez nuts21
I like not standing out. I always strive to be noticed as little as possible. I already have those who are important to me and extra attention is not appreciated any longer.30
How I lost 35kgs of weight and I'm getting ripped but nobody notice big sadddd : (((35
I like to be with myself. I wish that other people noticed that more :D27
That I’m smart and don’t let people walk all over me.11
I am told I have a very dry sense of humor. Sometimes people cannot tell if I am being funny. I wish they could understand a little better.20
To see the good in me the kind sweet genitsit pretty strong person forget the wrong that I've done and leave out all the rest11
I want others to see how genuine I am, I don't want to be seen physically.10
people never notice how good i do at cheering people up and making them feel good about there selfs. now i'm thinking its okay if they never ever notice10
I don't like it that much when people notice those.
I somehow prefer it if they focus on my negatives. I know this statement doesn't make much sense in the form that it is written, but in my head it does.0
There's more beneath the surface.21
I can finger paint pretty well...11
Only thing i like about myself is my hair and no one talks about it.0
My intelligence and endurance. No one has any idea how much sh*t I've been through in my life. I won't go through any of it, cause I already know no one gives a sh*t and millions of others have their own sob stories they've gone through as well, so I' far from special in that regard. But I've known people who have killed themselves for far less. "Soft" stuff, like bullying on the internet and not living the dream life you wanted. Others have also gone on school shootings for having far less in life than I have, like "Incel poster boy," Elliot Roger.
All things considered, the fact I haven't raped or murdered anyone and have remained relatively sane I think is pretty remarkable. No, I don't expect a medal or some sh*t for it, nor do I care. I just know thousands of other people wouldn't have endured for as long as I have, in order to turn 14 years of depression into enough apathy that you can move forward with life and run out of f*cks to give about everyone.
The other thing I said was my intelligence. I consider myself really really smart. One mistake people make though, is assuming a smart person is smart in everything or always thinks logically at all times. I don't. Sometimes, I let emotions and insecurity get the best of me. But I am able to turn things around, usually. Or realize that my emotions aren't an unbiased reflection of reality. I think self-awareness and open-mindedness are key traits for intelligence, and I think I possess those, quite well. Just like with the life endurance thing though, I don't expect anyone in the real world to care about it. But I wish others noticed it more.
Thanks for sharing 🙏