So my roommate and his cousin are throwing their "biggest bannger of the summer" tomorrow and my roommate didn't even invite me. We were talking about what we've got going on this weekend and he mentioned that last night and was telling me about one person that's supposed to maybe be there, then this morning I heard about another person I kinda know. I'm sure his excuse for not inviting me is going to be that he knows I'm not a fan of that type of environment. Being that we're roommates and I'm supposedly his bestfriend and he knows I don't have friends around / have trouble socializing I'd hope he'd at least think about inviting me. So whatever his reasoning is I'd really like to hear it. Not sure if I should ask him before it happens, or after it has happened when I ask how it went?
Neither, invite yourself by just showing up. It isn't coat and tie where your invitation is going to be checked at the door. Hell, inviting myself to other people's parties I wound up being in a fraternity for a couple months by accident. I didn't even go to their school, when they found out they were alright with all that if I paid the monthly dues from, you know, going to their parties to drink their booze and pick up on women, but it didn't seem worth it so I quit.
It's always easier to ask forgiveness than permission... my mom taught me that lol
If he is your best friend, then do not make things awkward by asking him why you were not invited. He may have a different venue to invite you, that he knows you will enjoy. In his mind, he does not want you to feel obligated to talk to people whom you may not get along, and it is better for you not to go.
Yes, there may be people you know in passing who are going, but if you did go, and saw them at the party, and felt that this was not normal behavior for them, you would then feel awkward when you saw them later in a normal setting.
Sometimes our friends protect us from ourselves, and being disappointed by ourselves or others. Yes, we may not like it, but in the long run; it saves us from being angry, because of what we did, or saw.
You can always ask him if you can go with him to the event, without asking why he did not invite you. Since he is your good friend; he will either say lets go; or he will be honest as to why you should not go!!
You're probably too boring a person for the kind of party he's got going.
Like my friend told his son, when he wasn't invited to his friends party:
Son, were you going to do drugs? No Were you going to go shotgun and drink them dry? No Were you planning on hooking up with a girl or two? No Were you going to settle scores or rub elbows with the young team? No Were you planning on being in the band or part of the entertainment? No
Then what the fuck makes you think anyone would want you at the party? He's got enough furniture, and has arranged a cleaner too, no doubt.
Well if you feel that an he's about it he better ask because otherwise you're going to wish you would have they're sometimes wear with family or roommates can people closest to you you just assume that they're going to be there because they're a part of you so instead of letting there be friction you say hey do you have to have an invitation to come to this thing
There is no way for anyone to read his mind sadly. The best thing to do is just ask him especially if he is your best friend. You should ask before the party and tell him you want to go. Life is too short to miss out on having some fun.
Who says it's a pity invite? Talk to your friend. If it seems like he had a good reason or doesn't want you there then respect that and don't push for an invite. If it's just something simple like he didn't think you'd want to go and he invites you there is no pity in that. Also so what if it is, you obviously want to go so get an invite go and have a great time.
I'll respect whatever it is but I just feel like it will be kind of a pity invite if he's just not inviting me out of assumptions of how I'd feel. When I've clearly expressed my feelings before.
if you really and truly are best friends with this person, then you should have no problem talking about these and many other things, so just message him right now and talk this through.
Parties are always fun & if you want to have a little fun sometimes you just have to invite yourself & be a party crasher. Feel free to bring a bottle of booze or cookies or something.
I don't drink, and I have only bought beer once in my life. And that was to bring to a party. It wasn't required; I just wanted to do it as a friendly gesture.
why do you waste your energy writing this question here? you can take the text you wrote here and basically copy that and read it to him. i'd say ask him before. becuase before he has a chance to fix it. after he can only be sorry.
Ask him if you are invited and see what he says. I think he should have at least given you the chance to say yes or no even if he thought you would say no.
Here too, but the thought of that many people in one area quite frankly fills me with dread. If you feel the same as me about this virus, I'm guessing that is why you weren't asked!
Oh absolutely no way he assumed I was going to be there. I don't even know where it's at. And he'll talk about it like I know what's going on and don't want to be there.
I hope you asked before it happened, but if not, than just mention it afterwards. If he doesn't invite you next time he has a party, than I would question just how much of a best friend he really is.
I would ask him am I invited? He might assumed since you knew about it, you would come. But like the old saying goes. You never assume. Because you make an ass out of you an me. Lol
